yeah...thats about it..I'm afraid of them...I can't talk to them and when I do I'm really nervous....it scares me....I never meet new girls because of it, if I do, I'm too shy and never really say anything so they think I'm not interested or stuck up and go away.........after I graduated highschool a girl that I went to school with and ended up going to a lot of the same parties with got to know me and said a lot of people thought I was really stuck up because I was so quiet..... I've never had a serious relationship and I didn't have sex until a few months before I was 21......I'm afraid of girls
You need to get over your fear of rejection. If you're afraid of rejection it affects the way you interact with people, in your case women, and thus you will be rejected. They may think you're stuck up or underconfident, both of which are turn-offs to most people. You need to realize that you can't please everyone and that everyone gets rejected. If someone rejects you that's just as much a reflection on who they are as it is on who you are. If you can't get over it on your own then you might want to consider professional help.
I use to be a very shy person back in the day, and people would mistake that for me being a bitch. Just because I was quiet and shy, people would think I was a bitch and stuck up. You shouldnt be afraid of girls, or anyone for that matter. You need to find out what you are really afraid of and deal with it, instead of running away. There is no need to be afraid of anyone, be yourself and if they are mean or whatever, thats them not you. I know that this advice, if you can even call it that, was very horrible and I apologize. But good luck
man, i'm exactly the same way. i am sooo terrible around girls, it's embarassing. i haven't had a girlfriend in years, because of it. :&
You should be afraid of girls, they are two faced players who whine about their problems until you feel sorry for them No seriously though, that lack of confidence can be sensed and will prevent you from really getting anywhere with many girls. Of course other girls might find it cute. i think that once you can feel comfortable talking to 1 girl, you will find you are comfortable talking to most girls. Find a shy girl and get to know her first
you can practice talking to girls on me if you want. or read some books like about public speaking so you can just talk to whoever
Gte out of yourself!!! go talk to all the girls you know!!! stand up! lol... umm i think it's cute when guys are shy... but still if you want to talk to girls but are afraid to then just go up to them and talk you can do it
Join the club, my friend, join the club. I've never had a girlfriedn before, probably because I'm just too shy. I'm a really nice guy, and people don't think I'm stuck up, its just that the girl is usually the first to say something to me, not the other way around... :&
yeah I'm sick of girls that have the understanding that guys always have to be the ones to strike up conversation or when they expect the guys to initiate everything......
I'm clueless around the opposite sex. I figured this was the perfect thread for me to join. I don't know why... I shouldn't be nervous around the opposite sex, but I do feel a need to "impress" women, and that what makes me nervous around women. That's something I would nervous admit to my friends, but it's the truth. And something I wanted to get off my chest.
god damn, i cant believe i'm signing in on this. give up all hope and expectation when talking to females.theyre a mind, you're a mind, thats it. just get to know a mind, and hope for nothing else at first. eyes are portals to the mind, and unfortunately they burn like blowtorches most of the time. You have to be unafraid to meet a girls eyes and smile - but of course you're unafraid because you have no hope or expectation. a girl that smirks or laughs viciously has probably got an ugly soul anyway, so dont worry to much about her, but you probably did something to make her react like that, so learn from it. Its freaking impossible to meet girls when you're depressed - this i know for a fact, so try to lose the depression for sure. and if you find one that you feel in your heart, just do these same things and stand near her, hopefully she'll feel it coming off of you. do i have a girlfriend? hell no.
Women can smell fear. Seriously... don't discount the possibility that someday some girl will find your shyness irresistable. I've kinda gotten over all that stuff myself over the years. So I'm just myself... kinda take it or leave it. Even though I kinda got over it... I'm still the original "who me?" And yet many women have told me that this is somehow part of my charm. Hmm. Things that make ya go hmm. So maybe I just hide it very well. It only shows through with someone I really truly care about anymore. Just be yourself. It's kinda scary when you find life's wisdom in Dylan but as the song goes, just remember... "when you ain't got nothing... you got nothing to lose". ~Seven
Im also afraid of girls or at least the ones im attracted to which means i can't d8 the girls i really want to because i screw up also i might aswell walk around with a large red L on my head. heres some advice stop considering the consequences in your head and just do it. It works for me or at least mostly. good luck
Instead of a big L, why don't you try getting one of those tear drop tattos... chicks dig a tough guy. :H
woops... sorry. be afraid of us, we are all really mean bitches we'll run you over with PMS! oh, okay, I'm sorry, I'll stop teasing you now! No, but for some reason, certain girls think it's cute when a guy is shy. These are often shy girls themselves, or girls quite willing to mkae the first move, so you'll get along great with them, just be yourself. I promise they are normally nice, I am in no way a representation of most girls, most of them are sweet, and cool, they will love you. Go ge 'em tiger! seriously, have some confidence in yourself. If you can't find it in you, um... fake it maybe? don't listen to me.
i know wat u mean man i am the same way, i cant talk to girls liek literally, wen ever i am around them my mind like takes a dump i cant think or like talk to them i usually just say "ya' "ok" or "no" around them, but it sux cause there was this 1 hot chick who i used to really like and i was afraid to tell her and just recently i visited my old home and saw her and figured wtf dude i dont live here anymroe so i told her that i used to liek her and she said she used to liek em alot but didnt know because i never told her, so fromt hat epxerience i have learned to be a LITTLE bit more talkative around girls, so its cool man i know wat u r feeling just try making small talk with some girls and u will eventually grow off of that
true, we can smell fear and shyness.... I cant stand when a guy gets up the nerve to approach me(no need for nerve...) and then cant carry on a convo, like, relax, and lets talk!
