Cyber Sex: Is It Cheating?

Do you consider cyber sex to be cheating?

Like, just chatting to a guy or a girl, getting all horny and masturbating, and even seeing eachother on cam? Is this cheating (to you)?

Just curious.

 

I dont see it as being cheating.. but more as not being faithful to the person.. which is the same to me

 

I have done it before, even though Im in a relationship. I have done it a couple of times with my gf and me chatting on line to another woman togther and got so horny we had sex on the computer desk while chatting, but have also done it alone. But whether masterbating on line chatting to someone else is cheating, I dont think so, it only happend a couple of times and its not like I would ever meet the woman I was chatting with or we would ever have a relationship. I did'nt even know her real name. But I guess others will see it different.

 

Of course.

 

Nah.
Cyber sex is so impersonal. You're not really sharing yourself with other people in the same way... it's seems like just another way to get off. Like masturbating.

 

Depends on why you do it, if it is just a part of masturbatiuon then no but if you are doing it because you are looking for new love then probably yes.

 

cammin yes

typing, eh... it's just writing a story with someone

(depends on every couple though, and whether or not it's done with permission. If my guy were to call me up, or if I were away/out of commission for a while and he asked to I'd have no problem with it, it's the being done behind my back aspect that drives me up the wall)

 

If you feel that you can't tell your girlfriend than yes it is cheating. Even if it's impersonal some people may still get hurt by it and because you couldn't tell her shows you are afraid of her reaction and if she'll get hurt by it. That right there is not a good thing to keep in the relationship even if she won't get hurt by it. Secrets in any relationship will destory it. She may even thought it'd be okay to do it but because you are hiding it she may become threatened. Because if it's so harmless why do you have to make sure she doesn't find out?

 

I'd say it was definately cheating. Especially if you think your partner wouldn't like it. I know mine would completely flip and i'd do the same if i caught him doing it. Cyber sex isn't just making a story with someone. You're both interacting with each other to bring about a mutual climax. If you're doing something not essential to your emotional or physical well being, and you KNOW that your partner would have a problem with it, so you deliberately keep it secret, then YES you're cheating.

 

It's not cheating for me. The hub's never had a problem with my cyber habit. Escpeically since he gets to reap the non-text benifits. Currently we're both playing a very cyber intenstive mmorpg together so I guess that kinda makes us cyber swingers.

 

Cyber sex is cheating imo. You are having sexual interaction with a person other than your partner. It's not making a story up, it's what you'd like to do to the anonymous person at the other end because what he/she is saying is turning you on.
I personnaly would rather make love to my partner than sitting in front of a computer holding my dick. More satisfying and far more fun!!!

 

^Agreed^
If someone other than your partner is the sourse of your orgasm, its cheating. If Cyber isnt cheating, than BJ's and HJ's dont count either (In which case everyone made a fuss over Clinton for nothing)

 

Maybe it's because I'm older than the rest of you but I don't see it as cheating. My hubby knows what I do on the compy.

 

I don't think age has anything to do with it. If your husband is fine with it and you're fine with it, go ahead. The OP said her bf would not like it if she told him. That's cheating. Finding emotional and physical release behind your partners back, with the knowledge that it would upset him or her, is cheating. My partner would hate it. I LIKE the fact that he would hate it. It makes me feel valued.

 

ooph, does that mean that masturbating while fantasizing/thinking about someone other than your partner is cheating too?

 

That's why Cyber isn't cheating to me. It's a fine line, I agree, but as long as both in the relationship agree and are aware, it isn't cheating to me.

What defines cheating to me is when you do something behind your partner's back. If they are aware and you have their approval, how can it be cheating? What is ok is defined by each couple in my opinion.

 

tell me why you want to do this and i think that will answer your own question. if your doing it cause your bored with her, then maybe you shouldnt be with her.

 

Not really, as you're not actually making the fantasy real.

 

It is.
Everything you do (sexual) with someone else is cheating

 

Right on, Mrs.H