better to start off as friends?

is it better, in your opinion, to start off as good friends and then move on to dating, or to get to know each other with the intent of dating from day 1? i tend to date my close guy friends, and it never works out well (destroys the friendship too..). i'm finding more and more that i've just got to keep the two separate- slot each relationship into either "friend" or "potential boyfriend"...but is this the best way to do things?

 

I dont think there is a general rule on that. It depends, you might find special someone among ur friends, or it might be a stranger at a gas station.

 

Well I'm not a girl but that how my ex and I ended our friendship. We were BEST friends and then I decided to give her a chance as she liked me, ended up falling in love, we broke up and I ended up getting real hurt all for just giving her a chance and fallin for her. I would suggest you keep your guys friends as friends and look for for bfs elsewhere unless of course you met some of the guy friends in a flirting situation. Remember (some) guys dont like to be categorized as "he's like my brother" and "he's my future bf" well it depends on how the guy sees the girl so be sure of how you'll be viewing your guy friends.

 

mmm this is a great question. I'm going out with a really nice guy, who i like a lot and dont want to fuck it up this time rushing into things. I thought about telling him to become friends and get to know each other, but you know how it goes, one thing leads to another and you are actually dating! which is alright because i'm very attracted to him. I guess it depends on the people involved. he seems to like me a lot i like him too, and even know i dont know him that well yet, i feel we could be really good friends and go out at the same time. i've never dated a friend, but shagged a couple

 

The lines blur sometimes. Have a rough outline, don't slot. When you slot into rigid boundaries, once you find someone who overlaps, you'll likely be a complete mess.

Just go with the flow. I'm a firm believer that a true friendship never sullies despite a relationship inbetween, no matter now long it takes or if things aren't necessarily exactly the same. They're still there at the end of the day.

And what's all this wondering and sighing and debating for? Just go for it because in the end, you'll probably know you would have regretted not making a move, exploring more and gaining more experience.. even experiencing happiness even if it means great heartache.

You're alive. Don't play dead. Just two cents.

 

ohh...just a relationship i was a bit afraid to go for because of a past one that didn't work out. after talking to him this afternoon, though, i decided to go for it...wish me luck! thank y'all for your advice.