ok here's the story, i've been kinda seeing this girl for a week or so, like her alot, and really think shes cool as hell, but here's the problem....last nite we had sex for the first time, and it was like her stuff was awkward feeling, kinda like it went back straight then a big 90 degree turn straight up, and to be quite frank, the sex sucked, hell it hurt actually, it kinda felt like i was hitting a wall, a then all of a sudden it busted on thru and shot up in there all awkward, put me in mind of how a dog gets locked up and they yelp when u spray the male with a water hose, well, i wanted to yell, cuz it huhrt like dammit to hell, but i just cant really see me with this chick for this one reason and it seems like a shitty one from 1 perspective, but hell i like to get dirty, and i just cant get dirty like i wanna get when it hurts my cod ya know what i mean.....any ideas???
it felt like that once with my girlfriend, i have no idea why, but dont assume just cause it was like that once that it always is, cause hers only did it once out of the many times weve done it
yea, it seems like ive been thru this b4, but never this bad....i mean its a sharp cut...lol...but i didnt like the sex and dont really want to have sex with her for this reason, but i do like her, i may try it one more time and if it is still the same i'll pull my cheating heartless asshole routine to drop her, cuz i really dont wanna tell her the truth, that would do more harm than good i think.....but i don't want to drag sumthin on that wont be there in the future either....we'll see what happens, old dad's good at gettin thru stickies like this......just wanted some different views really....
Try using lube and a different position. go slow and remeber all bits are beautiful She's probably feeling just as awkward about it as you so dont blame her. make sure you use protection too, more relaxing cos theyre is nothing to worry about then.
i dont think you should base your sex life on this one time, i think u should try, not just once, but a few times, and use lube for gods sake! it seems like most of these threads are about people who just need some freakin lubricant. Anyways, dont u think a first time would be uncomfertabel for some people, maybe u think its wierd, but maybe u should think about the girl a bit!, it probably hurt her, she wasnt turned on enough, she was scared, maybe wasnt sure, something! maybe u didnt do your job to get her wet i dont think thats anyones fault but yours, like dont just ditch her for one thing, u need to work on it, even just for a little while, yo could miss out on something good Love Amanda
lube has nuthin to do with it....its just jammin it in and hitting a wall, and once i got goin used to hitting the "wall" it just hit a spot rite and slid in all cockeyed bent up and backwards up in there...hurt like hell, i bet it felt awkward for her too, but what i'm sayin is that i didnt enjoy it one bit and kinda feel like an ass for not wanting to have sex with her becasue of this one reason, but hell sex is a big part of a relationship, i mean if u dont enjoy it why do it???....but anyway i may smash it again and see if it is anybetter but if it happens again i think i may have to break it off before it gets serious really.......
The vagina expands when aroused... maybe try spending more time on foreplay? If she's more relaxed and aroused it might not happen, or might not be as bad. Women work differently than men... it's (generally) not at all difficult for a man to become aroused and have an orgasm. But women are much more complicated... we need to feel safe, we need to feel relaxed, and it takes more to get us aroused. She may have felt nervous because it was her first time with you, and wasn't as turned on as she needed to be. Another thing you can try: Either make sure she's very wet, or get some lube (Astroglide's my favorite), then have her lay on her stomach. Enter her as if you were doing missionary (except she's facing the other way), then have her close her legs around you, and put your legs on the outside of hers. You won't be penetrating her fully, part of your dick will actually be between her legs (this is where lube helps), and I'll bet you won't feel that "wall" you're talking about. Extra bonus: If she's into that kind of thing, you can lean over and whisper dirty things into her ear while you're doing this. I love hearing how much he loves to fuck me, how good it feels to be inside me, how much he loves it when I suck on him, etc.
Yeah try flipping her over, she might have a flopped over cervix, i've heard about that before, where some people's cervix's are shaped wierd, maybe it then do doggy Love Amanda
shew, i don't know about this one....i tried again and just couldnt find anyway to make it feel good....and i got creative too.....its not a lube thing, its not a position thing, its an internal thing i'm convinced......but i dont wanna feel like a dick but i don't enjoy having sex w/her.....i guess im gonna have to make a judgement call on this one...but anyway, thanx everybody for repeating the same thing over and over....lol...j/k....but we'll see how this plays out
I'm thinking that this sounds like you haven't tried fucking gently enough. Sure, if you're all about ramming it into her, you might end up with misalignment! But how much could it possibly hurt you if you get a smooth, slower rhythm going first? Also, I know enough about female anatomy to be having trouble imagining how there could be some sort of 90 degree angle -- or anything close to it -- inside a woman's vagina... Ladies, help us out. Does this even sound possible? Anyone here have it? I also don't think that the "asshole cheater" routine is a good way to go (but it sounds like something you're practiced at. Me, I don't have an "asshole cheater routine" because I generally endeavor to be straightforward with women...) It hasn't occurred to you to INVOLVE THE GIRL in trying to work this problem out? Others have suggested lubrication, additional foreplay (god, do you even know what that IS?), and different positions -- all good suggestions that just may work. But this idea that you are going to decide based on what we say, and what you contemplate, without involving the girl who has this crazy-straw ****... that doesn't sound fair to her, or even like you really want to make this problem go away. What else is at work here? Are you looking for a reason to not stay with this girl, now that you've "conquered" her? Blue skies, -Jeffrey
Is there any more to "sex" for you than pounding pussy with your dick? That philosophy may be part of the problem. It seems like you're overwhelmingly focused on fucking her. What about going down on her? What about using your tongue to make her writhe with barely-contained ecstasy? What about her sucking your cock? What about making out, kissing her mouth? What about sensual massages? What about exploring each other's whole bodies with tongues and kisses? I'm not yet convinced you are using a well-rounded approach to this whole thing... Blue skies, -Jeffrey
what about i've tried every POSSIBLE way to have sex with her but it still feels like there is something up there bending my dick backwards......what do u guys not understand when i say that "NO MATTER WHAT I DO, HOW I DO IT, IT IS STILL UNCOMFORTABLE" its not about smashing or fucking thats just slang i use, i mean i really tried to get CREATIVE and not to bragg but am quite experienced in this subject, proabably just as experienced as the most experienced on here, the thing is that this chick has a deformation or sumthin and there is no way to make sex w/her feel good, at least after the first 3 inches or so.....and now i've done had sex with her twice and am in a position where i like here but i don't like sex w/her so i'm gonna have to break it off with here becasue i like her too much to cheat on her which will likely happen if we stay together for the fact that i love sex that is enjoyable, i love to eat pussy get all wild in funky positions just everything about it, but i cant seem to enjoy it when i'm worried about jamming my dick up in some backwards twisted hole that bends my dick about half way down straight up and back leaving me unable to walk practically....i mean thats what im sayin, not that shes dry and i cant get no penetration, not that she's not aroused, cuz trust me i didnt have to much talkin to do with this one.....i mean i hate to break it off but i cant not look forward to sumthin i luv soo much......
