Me and my bf, of 9 months, just broke up last week. He told me he needed space and time to think. He kinda broke up with me out of the blue, and i didn't know why. Everytime i ask him why, he just says, " cause i've been really stressed out over stuff". He told me that he really needs to think about something, but he can't tell me what he needs to think about. He says it has nothing to do with me though. I don't like to pry things out of him, he just gets very angry and he always tell's me that he doesn't want to talk about it. He said that he only talked to one person about his "issue" (mike). His best friend is a guy who he admires alot. Which is cool, but i've always just been a little suspicious. He never text's me, he isn't really the " lovey-dovey" type. I'm usually the one to say i love you,to be affectionate, and so on. Most people i know always just assume he's gay or bi, based on the way he acts and such. He is 17, and that is an average age to be confused at. He told me that we're both young and changing, and i didn't know how to take it. He keeps telling me that he doesn't want to talk to me, and he wants to be alone. He keeps telling me that he still loves me and wants me in his life. He said that i'm the first person he's been in a relationship with for this long. The last month we were together, he was avoiding me, and he even admitted it. He purposely never texted me back or answered my calls. If he is gay or bi, i'll be ok with it, cause i have nothing against people who are gay or bi. But it will feel betrayed by him. I just don't know what i should do or if i should say something to him about it.. any advice?
his attitude doesn't necessarily mean he is gay, he could be scared of a "real" relationship or commitment and was freaked about having "real" feeling for you. if you get a chance to talk to him express your concerns.
Well, I think that's quite a leap to consider that cuz he's not interested in pursuing a relationship with you that he is gay. I don't mean to be a dick but maybe he has personal issues or something. Whatever. Ask him. That's the only way to know. Otherwise you will wonder for a long time.
If the guy says, he wants to be left alone to sort out his own, personal issues, with Mike or without Mike, please, respect his wish. Prying things out of him is not a very good idea. If he happens to be gay, bi, whatever and wants to tell you that, he'll do so. Bottomline: Move on and leave the guy to his problems. Do not break off all contacts but respect both YOUR and HIS time and freedom to move on. KD
The fact that people assume he's bi or gay doesn't count for anything. He's 17 years old, and it's quite possible that he's not sure where he wants this relationship to go. Give him the gift of some time alone to sort out his thoughts.
he 17- its possible he just wants out, no offense. but also, hes 17- its possible hes comming to terms with himself. either way, hes basically done with you, not to sound cold, so its probably best you back off.
give him his space. if he comes back to you telling you he loves you, tell him exactly how you feel. do not tell him how you want to feel or how you want him to think you feel, but tell him how you truly, deeply feel.
hmmm I dont know if I really agree with everyone else so far in that they've said there's not much to point to that he's gay. I DO agree though, to give him time and space. Because, especially if he is gay, he must be really really really confused and afraid to admit it. I know you feel like he shouldn't feel worried to tell you, but that's just how it is when one is accepting the idea of being gay. It's confusing. I dated a girl once, and I broke up with her because I was gay. I told her that that was the reason though- but I am just a REALLY open person, and I don't keep things in. Not many people can do that- let alone admit they are gay at such a young age. Just watch out for any developments. I think he COULD be gay, but don't push the idea, you know? I dont know whether to tell you to ask him or not, becaues I don't know him. There's two ways he could react: 1.) He'd flip out at you because you spoke to him when he said he wanted space, and two because he's really uncomfortbale with the idea of being gay, or 2.) He might admit it and you may have a long conversation. Its up to you to decide which route to take. Just remember, it's not DEFINITE that he's gay, but in my opinion, from what you've said, he soudns like he could be. Who knos though, he just might not be ready for such an intense relationship. good luck! Cheers, and Love, Dylan p.s. in other words, talk to him about it, hehe
