Her parents want me arrested?

I didn't know where to turn and I would really appreciate some help. Me and my girlfriend are very happy together, she just turned 17 and I am 18. It is the best relationship either of us have ever been in and we love each other very much. You'd think her parents would be happy for us (I know my parents are) but they arn't, you see my girlfriend is Christian, I am not. That doesn't make a difference to either of us, we love each other and accept our differences. Her parents are EXTREME Christians and don't want their daughter having anything to do with someone who is not a Christian. We have tried to reason with them on many occasions, but they are not to be reasoned with. So we decided that they don't matter and we are going to be together whether they like it or not.

You'd think they'd give up after that, but no, they have become very aggressive and have been pretty much stalking me and her. They have begun reading our IM conversations and E-mail behind our backs, my Mother has seen them driving around our house looking for us when we are out together and now they have threatened to call the cops if they ever even think their daughter is over at my house. Its not even like we are fucking or anything, as my girlfriend doesn't believe in pre-marital sex and I respect that. I guess what I want to know is if I am in any danger of being arrested or anything, it is not like my girlfriend is a run away, she goes home every night and only spends like at most 5 hours at my house after school.

Please, I am really worried and I could use any advice you are willing to give.

Thanks for your time and support,

RdG.

 

as long as your not having sex I dont think there is any ways the cops could arrest you.

cause i mean what would they arrest you for, the parents dont have any reports filed against you, your with a minor but your not having sex with her so i couldnt possibly think of a reason they would Havee to arrest you.

be aware, but dont kill yourself worrying about it.

 

Thank you.

I'd like to add that I live in Seattle, Wa. (If that makes any difference in the laws)

I would also like to add that they do know where I live, so they could theoretically send the cops to my house (I don't know what for exactly, or even if they would respond) and I would just like to know what is the worst that could happen in that situation.......

 

I don't know if Washington is the same as Michigan, but in Michigan, as long as you're 17, you are a legal consenting adult...therefore, anything you do with her, sexually or not, is not illegal.

But anyway, if you two aren't having sex, there's not much her parents can do about it...

good luck!

 

Could I possibly get into legal trouble, for having her at my place without her parents permission? (Once again, not in a run away type situation.)

 

If 17 is the legal consenting age in WA, no.

 

Thanks a whole bunch Annie, I am still really worried about this whole situation. Does anybody know of any conditions under which I could end up getting in trouble because of her that don't have anything to do with sex?

I am just waiting for the cops to show up at my door and say "We have to take her with us."

 

Honestly, I don't think they can really do anything legally. They could possibly say you're housing a runaway, but if your girlfriend says she came there on her own free will...they can't do anything about it.

Just be careful...don't keep her away from her house or from calling her parents when she needs to...and you should be totally fine.

 

i thought it was 16

but things might be different outside the Hoenn Island. I think in Johto and Kanto, they are different.. but i'm not sure..

jk but seriosuly, find out the law for yourself... When you know you're answer, you'll know if you need to worry or not.

 

Hee hee, Thanks Annie you really set my mind at ease. You deserve all kinds of love.

If anyone has any more knowledge of laws concerning this situation, I would greatly appreciate it.

P.S. Age of consent is 16 in Wa, but this really has NOTHING to do with sex, sorry to disappoint.

 

pre-marital sex is technically illegal in many, if not most, states.

 

*sigh* Can we keep the topic off sex? We arn't having sex any time soon.....

 

No.

She can be in any public place that she wants to, or any private place which she is allowed to. Since she's obviously welcome in your home, she can choose to stay there if she so pleases, and her parents cannot "ground" her or anything of the sort.

Grounding is a form of punishment that basically says, "I won't take you anywhere, and I won't let any of your friends come here."

Problem is, you are legally entitled to go anywhere you want. If you don't need your parents to take you somewhere, you can just go wherever, nobody can stop you.

Don't worry. In order for them to do that (unless she consents to letting them take her away), they would have to obtain an arrest warrant for her, and most likely a search warrant for you.

That's pretty much impossible.

Well it should!!

(I mean, since you guys love eachother so much ... hehe. My opinion )

 

BTW, Bitchin' Sword......

 

you need to look up the stat laws in your area, just to be sure

I'd also try calling a cop and/or a lawyer (public defender maybe, the ones who work for nearly nothing)if you can, just to be sure what hte parents can and cannot have you arrested for, what to avoid etc. Or even a clergyperson, someone who does have a decent knowledge of hte law and can let you know what is and is arrestable behaviour so you can avoid it as much as is humanly possible

 

I'd call the cops and ask them questions. That way, if the parents call, the cops have heard your side first. If you get something in writing to stay away from their daughter, I would consult a lawer. Even if you aren't having sex, "Dear adult, stay away from my minor child" has legal weight.

Are they Christian enough that you aren't worried about them lying?

 

This I find frightening. This is why religion should be banned. Whether Christians or Muslims or orthodox jews, they are rooted in the dark ages. They try to influence peoples (including kids) minds and force others to live in accordence with their ideology and try to force their will on society. Religion is the biggest threat to a free society. Just look at place's like Iran, Saudi Arabia and the bible belt of the USA. God save us from these people.

 

Only if you are abusing her or doing something you already know is illegal. (like if they catch you smoking weed or something)

Yes, that's what it sounds like her parents want you to feel like. They're blowing a bunch of hot air. Don't give in to it, as they are full of it.

However, if you ever end up getting serious with this girl, you are eventually going to have to find some sort of favorable ground with her parents - because as they have already demonstrated, they will do whatever they can to give you a hard time, and not the kind of "hard time" you want when you are with your girl (eventually )

 

Yeah, it is ... =)

I would definitely take the advice others gave on this forum, like consult a police officer or attorney (police would be cheaper, hehe), or even a clergyman, and ask.

I know there are some places that also give legal advice on the Internet ... I can't pick one out though.

 

the only way you can get in trouble for having a minor in your home is after a police report is filed and the minor is deemed a runaway and then they have to prove you knew the status of the minor as being a runaway. You would have to have that minor in your home over night not a few hours and 17 in washington state voids the minor clause so worst that could happen is if the police in your area is deeply bored they may come over, say her parents are looking for her, ask her to go home but she can say kiss my ass and they will say have a nice day. Now being from Snohomish County before moving here I would have to say good luck finding a cop to give a shit about a 17 year old girl being away from home less than 24 hours with an 18 year old boy in the same town at his mommy's house. Take a deep breath and forget it, they are just phyco pains in the ass and too many calls to the police will land them in deep shit.