Alright I haven't posted anything on the hipforum in about 6 months but I'm really in a bad situation. The girl I was with for years, the one that I always wrote about in my posts, has left me. We were incredibly in love, had the greatest times together, and had the greatest wildest sex possible as often as possible. But lately she's had a lot going on (she got rejected from the college she wanted to go to, had a fight with her dad, etc.) and she started to seem like a completely different person beause of it. Then, in midst of her changing, she ended out relatinship which she always said was the most important thign in the world because she said that things don't feel the same...she doesn't feel like shes in love with me anymore. Now, every nice thing I try to do for her (nice dinner, whatever) seems to juts piss her off. I am a pretty tough guy who's been through some real bad thigns but I have no problem saying to you right now that I love this girl and I want her back so bad I am a complete mess. How can I make her love me again? Anything is appreciated...
You can't make anyone love you. Even you being there for her 110% will not guarantee that she will love you. It sounds like she's under an incredible amount of stress, and her reaction to you is a reaction to her shift in priorities. She may have genuinely told you that your relationship was the #1 thing in her life. How realistic is this when you both have separate life plans to think about after highschool? Chances are she's had a major reality check and kick in the behind not being admitted into the school of her choice. She may even be angry that she could have gotten in if she had focussed more on school and less on your relationship. If this is the case, it may explain her resentment towards you right now. I'm not saying what she's doing is fair and it isn't. But it's likely she just needs time to sort herself. Give her her space for now and let her figure her life out. Don't stress her out with what YOU want. If you can't wait for her, then just leave. If you can, I'm sure she'll eventually appreciate all the patience and love you have to offer. Yet again, it won't be a guarantee of her wanting to be with you in the same way again.
I absoultly agree with Hanna. Give her some space and take this oportunity now to maybe explore other things in life besides just a relationship. This doesn't all have to be a terrible, horrible thing. Use the time you have now to look int yourself and see what other goals you have in life. She may come around, she may not. You can't make her love you back but you can support her if she asks for you. I wouldn't aproach her now and if you do, it will only make things worse and she'll reject you more. Realx and don't force yourself on her. Consider her feelings and if she doesn't want you around, if you love her, you'll make her happy and comply with her request right?
Hanah and Raven are correct. Hopefully, you will find a new love in a future relationship. It will sneak up on you. Take a step back when you have the time and inclination. Look from a vantage point of distance. Did you two spend hours and hours just confiding in each other? Could you spend a day together just walking and talking? How well did you treat those whom she had to get along with? Could you join her and a couple of female friends for a day's frolic in 'girl mode?' Were you happy just knowing she was 'your girl?' Your mention of 'greatest, wildest sex possible,' may have given more of an indication of the relationship than even you understood. A real love affair is kept strong and viable after getting out of bed and puttig all youir clothes on. If the bed is the center, women will tire - although young men can rejoice in a relationship like that for years - until they grow up. Sorry. Be kind in your memories of her. If she does start making gestures of reconcilliation, love her for it - as opposed to fucking her for it! See what happens, but I predict the end has come. Us guys all have to learn the hard way. That seems to be the way the gods have their fun!
