sex + me = no orgasm.

I think you're putting too much expectations in it now. You need to slow it down a lot if you don't feel anything at all when he gives you oral. I don't see how you can have zero sensation, unless you are numb so that kinda confuses me.

Also make sure you are in the mood. Seriously you won't feel all that much if you aren't in the mood for sex at all. It will be rather dull otherwise. Have your husband tease you until you are um "ready" as in you want him so much it's crazy.

Know what you like is important too. If you aren't sure try looking at some pornos or any ideas you have. But make sure you don't start anything down there without feeling like you want it. And don't just think to go straight on those parts either. Have your husband kiss and touch you everywhere not just there or imeditaly there.

You might also be depressed now because of it. Do you feel gloomy or sad everytime you try it because you feel like you won't orgasm? If you do that you're going to put a damper on the whole thing and it will only make it worse.

As for your other question...To be honest I actually enjoy the tease of foreplay the best. The experience as a whole is enjoyable but really I don't just do it for the orgasm and if I didn't have one at all I wouldn't mind it that much considering mine are so intense that its almost painful.

 

RavenTheDarkAngel I agree with all you said except the pornos part. One has to take that tip very cautiously, some pornos can actually make the situation worse. For instance no porno I've seen have actually portrayed a woman in genuine climax, think of darkangel's situation, she doesn't cum and nor do the women in the pornos thus reinforcing it in her mind that women don't climax. Many pornos portray women as sex objects, there solely for the men's pleasure which is not reciprocated.

Don't get me wrong, I enjoy pornos, but, to be honest, I have to place myself in a man's position in order to do so.

 

liguana - sorry but im not daft enough to follow what those girls on pornos do and actually believe it to be real!!!!! i do however agree with you about the portail of women on them as there for the pleasure of men, exactly where is the porno for womens entertainment? there is hardl anything out there for us!

i dont think my lack of orgasm is based on what i watch though its more on what i am able to feel, which if there is very little sensation going on down there then what can you do, you cant invent something by watching a film or something can you?

 

Don't worry darkangel, i give you more credit than that I just had to express my disapproval of them, (pornos).

 

They are called vibrators and they are amazing. Have you ever tried any toys?

 

Well everyone knows pornos don't really relate to real life but *shrug* just trying to give you some ideas.

 

Just a suggestion, as it was the way I experienced my first orgasm, and many after that...When all is nice and quiet at your house, go in the bathroom, lock the door, light some candles, maybe even pour a glass of wine. Run the bath. But don't fill up the tub, just get the tub nice and warm. Get in. Touch your body. Let the water get in your ears and feel the tickle. Feel your nipples. Tease them. Let the sensation run down between your legs from touching them. Now, after a good fifteen minutes of just turning yourself on, move your lower body down to the end of the tub. Position your clit right under the tap. Let the warm water run over your clit. Don't tense up, don't wiggle, don't do anything, just feel feel feel....Let the water rush over you, don't worry about wasting the water, this is for you. Feel the water wash over your most delicate part. Let it pour over you and allow yourself lots of time, a half hour, an hour...whatever you need. Let yourself feel. The water will do all the work for you. Indulge in a fantasy if you like, or a great memory, let your mind wander, but occasionally, come back to the sensation of the water running on your clit. It may take a long time, or not, it doesn't matter. What does matter is if you let yourself go. Let go of the past. Let go into this. The water will cleanse you and take you to the edge of your elusive orgasm. Let it take as long as it takes, and be patient. It will happen. You will feel your body respond. You will feel so warm. You will feel the building up of a remarkable pleasure. Your body will let you feel this amazing pressure, and you will want to flow with it. This is your time. Let go into this, let the water pressure be as strong or subtle as you need, but always focus in on the feeling on your clit. And eventually you will feel the most amazing release. You will climax as the spray of water hits your clit, contracting your vagina, pulsing through your lower body...you may even feel it all over your body. Trust me. Take you time, and feel it. You will never forget it, and you will crave it.
Let us know how you do. And pm me if you like. I wish you the most happy, delicious orgasms....
a new friend