asking for help. how do you do it? i feel like i'm burdening people with mundane teen angst. if i dont do it soon, i'm going to push everyone i love away from me and hurt myself in more physical ways than just that. 2 hours ago my brother said i was fat, i swear to god im going to make myself throw up soon. why can't i be happy? no matter what's going on. how do you blow rude comments off? what am i doing wrong? Zpoxj'[opsdn'odpf
Well, if there's anyone you feel you can trust enough, to ask for help, without them judging you or anything like that.... then don't be afraid to. Or, sometimes...there are certain people you can go to with certain things. I have some friends that I'll talk to about certain problems, but I'll leave others out, just because I know they wouldn't *get* it, and it WOULD end up seeming just like some emo teenage angst...I don't know if that makes sense or not. You're not doing anything wrong.... No one ever really "blows things off" some people just release it in ways other than talking about it. Some people exercise, or paint, or sing, or shop, etc. But, being someone who wants to talk about it, there's nothing wrong with that. I think instead of worrying about learning how to just "shake things off", you just gotta believe that you're not being silly or petty, enough TO ask for advice, or just someone to rant to I had to reply to this thread because.... my god, I always feel like this. And it's always easier said than done...I usually don't ever ask for help until it's gotten to the point where I am just beyond stressed. heh
something I found that helps me, is an anonymous someone to ask for help. Someone who you dont' know, don't have to see. Here in Canada, we have a kids help phone... and while I'm not a kid, they're really good to talk to when you're in a really awful spot I hate asking for help, I can't do it. I hate feeling so weak that I can't fix it myself, hate being such a failure at my own life (on the plus side, I think that you're a really beautiful girl and I LOVE your sig pic, it's hilarious)
Oj, friends are out of the question. I have none. Since moving away and coming back and moving away again and coming back and the changes ive gone through, i've lost all myfriends....and for all the right reasons. My friends were all assholes. So glad to have them out of my life. But now i'm in a rutt....i have no one. I mean, i have beardo and a friend who lives a few hours away....but they're both just not the type i can talk to about this. You follow? I'm moving on saturday, to Waterloo..which is 3 hours from here, where i will be close to both of those people, but i'll still have to start fresh all over again...trying to make new friends again finding my place in this new city. I just dont know what to do. im making things so shitty for myself it's making me nauseous. no wonder my heads been in spins the last couple of days. am i even making sense anymore? i don't want to see a therapist....but i really need to. Everyone says i should...and by everyone i mean the 3 people in my life who actually know anything that's going on. i dont want to be in a mess anymore.i dont want to be a bitch to people who don't deserve it anymore. i want to love life and living again. i don't feel fresh anymore..dfoihoihdfg im sorry.......this is a ramble i've needed to have for a long time.
well, I hate to give too much advice for all to see, because I think it's rather personal..something like therapy. That's totally up to you. But, I think if you really believe it would be beneficial for you, and if it's to that point where you WOULD go, even though you don't want to, just because you're so desperate to talk to someone, and feel better.... then I would say, maybe it is time to then. On the other hand, if you think it's something that will just pass as you meet new people and make new friends and such, then maybe therapy isn't necessary. I'm not the coolest person to talk to, but you can always PM me or whatever if you just need to rant or something. Sometimes talking to someone you don't really know at all is easier too. It's a very personal decision how you handle it, though, so don't take any of my advice unless it sounds fitting you know?
a little biology lesson mya help a little...it's not to treat your personal problems flippantly, but your current biology is FORCING very strong reactions to things. the way you feel about something isn't always appropriate to the actual situation. for me, reminding myself of all the crazy little chemical and biological things going on in my body RAELLY helped to to detach from a situation and view it with cooler logic. but don't worry, we've all been the angsty teen. and those of us past it are SO HAPPY that's over. good luck.
What concerns me most is not your feelings about wanting to throw up after being called fat, because loads of girls feel that way (still not saying it's healthy) but more the fact that you don't have any friends. I have no problem w. you ditching asshole friends; I've had to do quite a lot of that myself recently. But no (wo)man is an island. You need a support system. People you work/go to school with, join a class or volunteer project in the community, do something to facilitate meeting new people, because YOU NEED SOMEONE. Or just pm someone from here; it seems like a lot of people in this community are willing to support you. Good Luck
When you move to Waterloo, try and find a group to join, so you can meet new people who share a common interest. I was definately not feeling good spiritually when I started going back to school. I lost 20 lbs by the time Winter break came, and it was weight that I didn't need to lose. Then I broke up with the guy I was dating and I felt terrible about it because he was such a sweet guy (but I was in no way attracted to him). And this semester has been even more of an emotional roller coaster... Its so nuts, that I'm not even going to get into it. But I've made some changes, I'm trying really hard to be a good person, to stay positive and to encourage myself and others. I find it is helping, knowing that other people appreciate the small things I've done for them. I've also decided that living in Toronto, is simply not for me, so as a result I'm not going back to school next year, I'm going to travel the Pacific coast and work. Find small little things that make you happy.
I take everything that's said to me with a grain of salt. I've learned that the only opinion that really matters to me about me is my own opinion. I don't see why I should fret over something someone else thinks is a big flaw if I can make it work for me. Lucy, you're not fat. Siblings say mean things just to hurt your feelings. If I took everything my sister said to me to heart, I'd have killed myself by now. That's what siblings are there for....to pick on you and you to pick on them. I think if you're feeling you NEED therapy, you should go. Despite how badly you don't want to go. It might really help. It sounds like you might have some problems deeper than just the "I'm going to make myself throw up" bit. Moving so much seems like it's taken it's toll on your life. Why all the moving? Can you not stay in one place too long, or are you running from something in your life? Having no friends is also causing a lot of your problems. You should have at least one real good friend you can tell everything to. Then, a whole bunch of people that will be positive in your life. Getting rid of the assholes was a good idea, but replacing them with better people would have worked out more in your favor. In any case, I hope you start feeling better about life in general, but especially about yourself. You're a good-looking girl and you seem pretty cool. So, love and luck.
