my hubby works out of town and i am worried that he wont get home in time for the birth especialy if its during the day when his cell phone is off. i really want him to be there not only for suport for me but also to bond with out first child. are my fears unfounded? i so scared that they will never get to know one another even after, because he only comes home once a month for a week.
Ugh, what does your hub do that allows him to be home only 1 week out of the month And can you tell him to turn his phone on during the day from now untill the babe is born? He should be able to up and leave work at the drop of a hat for his child being born. Congrats and when are you due?
Tell him to leave his cell phone on ON VIBRATE so that he can excuse himself and then call you back! And what kind of job does he have? Sorry, this is HippyFreek, not monosphere
we're nervous about the same thing with Chris. He goes to college two hrs from home... half the day he is in class. What he does (I think, I could be wrong, he'll probably comment to this post too) is keep his phone on. All his teachers know its going to be happening soon and that he will be leaving if it does. He just made sure everyone knew what was going on and from what I know they seem ok with it. Not thrilled but ok is good enough because come on, would you want to miss the birth of your baby? The only reason we are worried is because for some reason when I go into labor I go into labor and all of a sudden an hour later the baby is already being born... let your hubby know this is really important that he be by your side and see if maybe he'll talk to his boss/bosses about if the call comes he'll be leaving immediatly...
he works in the oil feild. He can't really get home in time even if he tried... if he can't get home in time, would Charlie help out or something? I would gladly help you out, too I mean, you need to have someone there.....even if it does happen when he's not home, which very well could happen....babies have their own schedual .........he'll get to bond with the little person soon. i hope that he gets to be home, though. Are you going to be staying at your parent's place towards your due date so that someone could drive you easier if he's not home? If no one's home, I will if the need arises.
aww I'm so sorry to hear that. Like teeny says maybe set up two plans... one for it hubby is around and one for if not.. like plan what friend will be there, who can help you through labor ect. Good luck! I hope you guys get lucky and go into labor on one of daddy's weeks home.
My dh's work offered a beeper to expentant fathers. (Of course, he didn't read the booklet, so we didn't know until after Sage was born.) Could he get a beeper, so you can get a hold of him? What about his foreman? Could you get HIS cell phone number, in case your dh is not available? Even if he missed the birth, they will STILL bond. We aren't purely instintive animals. Bonding and attachment of a human male and his offspring takes years. A few hours, or even a few days won't make a difference. A lot of us who were born in the bad old days know this. I was born in the early 60s. I was in the hospital for almost 2 weeks (inhaled amniotic fluiid and couldnt breathe right.) And my dad had a cold, and they wouldn't let him visit. He didn't see me until I got home.
I would second what Mags said. It is wonderful if hubs can be there but if not, they will still bond! Really it's been the last few months that my guys have really really gotten tight. When Jim was so tiny and in my arms nursing all the time, and , well I'll say it, BORING, DH wasn't as interested. But it happens!
I third that sorta! I don't think that whether the parent is there every minute truly affects how they regard them.....If they are there in spirit I think that can be as important as their physical presence...and it sounds like your partner will be beating a path to your door no matter what so don't stress out too much and enjoy the time whether they are there or not. There are loads of parenting moments that you have to learn to share verbally rather than experience together and the more you can do this the better...of course if they can be there that is way cool but don't stress too much if not and maybe take pics or record stuff on tape or other such things so that you can share that time with them!
he cant have anything that sends out a signal while hes working a spark from one could blow them all up, its never happend but its still a saftey thing and P.D. is very big on that, to you Kirs, Shawn said he would drive me anywhere i need and he wants to be there at the hospital anyways cuz he is one of our best friends anyways.
cool. good to hear you've got someone close by home to take you. I take it that you'll be staying at your apartment then?
