This is my second fucking time typing this very long post because I accidentally backed out of it the first time. I was almost done too. FUCK!!!! Let's try again. And sorry about the long-windedness, I just want to make sure you clearly understand the situation (as it's a bit complicated) before you answer my questions. Keep in mind, while reading this, that this was my first time having sex. About a week and a half ago a very close friend of mine (a female by the way) whom I have known for about a year gave me a massage. We give each other massages frequently because we both have jobs that involve standing up all day. We have always been very open with each other. For instance, she does not mind being naked around me. Anyways, while giving me a massage, she asked me a very surprising question... "I actually came over tonight to see if you wanted to fuck me”. She explained that she had just broken up with her boyfriend and really needed "some". From the way she explained the situation, I got the idea that this was something she wanted to do reasonably often. Of course, I was very happy to oblige. I should tell you that earlier that day I had been drinking with a friend of mine because he would be leaving for the Marines in a few days, so I was still kind of drunk. She started with a blowjob which was, as far as I know, fucking fantastic. Once we started to have sex I found I had a very hard time (no pun intended) keeping it up. I assume this is because I was drunk. She is a petite girl in every way, so even though it was not as hard as it could have been, she still found it very pleasurable. I think I almost made her cum because she said something to the affect of wanting to cum around me. Unfortunately, after a good 45 minutes I never did finish. We both had to stop because we both had to work early in the morning and were both exhausted. Afterwards I had to ask how good I was on a scale of one to ten. Keep in mind she is a brutally honest person. Especially, after I told her to give it to me straight, as I would not be offended if she told me I was shitty (being my first time and all that is what I expected anyway). So, I was astounded, to say the least when she told me I "was at least an eight". I have asked her recently if she was bullshitting and if I was really that good. She said that she was not bullshitting. According to her I was very good because I gave her exactly what she needed, all three kinds of sex (as she put it). The three kinds of sex according to her are: sex (slow and easy), making love (kissing and being body to body), and fucking (hard and fast). We have not had sex since then. I think this is because for a few days afterwards I was unintentionally making it too obvious that that's all I wanted to do was fuck again (understandably). So much so that it was beginning to really annoy her. So I made a conscious effort to stop that which I have. And more recently I have been calling her a lot more than usual, again to the point of annoying her. Keep in mind, that this is because as I said my best friend left for the Marines and I have been phenomenally bored (we are basically brothers). But, I'm not sure she understands this; she probably thinks it's me just wanting to fuck her again. After she said I'd been calling too much I checked my recent calls, and indeed I have been calling a bit too much. I honestly didn’t even realize I’d been calling that often. Nothing has changed as far as our friend relationship since we fucked, but she still thinks I just want to fuck her all the time, which (I do know) is big turn off to a girl. Although I most definitely would like to have sex with her again I do not see her as just a piece of ass, I do respect her as a friend (I really, really can't say that enough). The drive for me to have sex with her again goes beyond sex drive. I was drunk my first time, and that is no way to lose your virginity. Secondly, I'd like to get more than one fucking time under my belt. Lastly, she said the only thing I did wrong was that I tried too hard (that is what they say about skinny guys) and that if I had kept it harder she probably would have cum.(Which is saying something, because according to her she has a hard time cumming.) Basically what I'm saying is, beyond the usual sex drive, I would really like the chance to do it right. In conclusion, what can I do to find out if she wants to do it again without asking straight out? (I'm not sure she'd appreciate that.) And/or what can I do or say to convince her to have sex again?
ummm... i think it will happen when it happens next. you just need to go with the flow and let things take their course. if you keep on calling her, you are obviously shooting yourself in the foot. if you are calling her to hang out and have fun (not sex, horny toad), then thats a little different. just keep on letting her know in subtle ways that it doesn't make you weird that you guys are having sex, i can't stress that enough. and then, maybe, you will get to become friends with benefits. oh, and losing your virginity while drunk... um yeah that definately happened with me too. dont worry about it pal, reading this seems like an autobiography. good luck.
Dudes get far more hung up on how they performed in bed than chicks and it really seems like you need to prove to her you could do better. Man just come out and tell her or let it drop, if she comes to you again cool if not well you where and are a good friend. You helped her when she needed it and it was by no means a terrible favor. Tell her you really enjoyed your time with her and felt nice that she chose you to confide in at the point in her life. Then let it ride like it never happend.
