the hard thing about being a smoker and dating

There are very few men who smoke and are academic,great conversationists, professionals. I have been 'dumped' several times after the person I am dating finds out I smoke and most of the guys I have met who smoke lack other qualities I value. Anyone else face the same problem, and if so how do you get around it?

 

The same questions remain the same to me as well. I've stopped dating 2 years ago for some of the same reasons, ut for me I haven't found away around it except that you always can't be choosy as to whom you want to date ya know. Sometimes when and if you love someone you just gotta take em for who they are.(No Offense)!

 

i can't date a guy who does not have the ability to hold an intelligent conversation. I am completley un-discrminatroy on looks. I could be with the ugliest guy on the outside but if he has a beautiful brain I melt.

 

My girlfriend doesn't want me to smoke and I hate it. We have been dating for two years and I have been smoking on and off for her. Well, on for me and off for her. I have been trying to do whatever I can to fight for legalization because the only problems I have is that she doesn't like it because it illegal and because of the possibility of drug tests. I don't think I will ever get caught with the substance. My only fear is of drug testing which should be illegal anyways.

 

lynsey


I know exactly what you are saying, I seek to find a lifetime partner that shares my values of determination, success and intelligence. I have let my standards drop, that is why the last two guys I have dated have been drug dealing burnouts. They hadn't graduated high school, but we got along really well. I knew these guys were someone that could bring me down very far, but i seeked their companionship. What i am trying to say is don't lower your standards and BE PICKY. you sound like me, a girl that knows what shw wants and eventually you will get it, don't let the burnouts get in the way of your dream guy. There is someone that will have your values out there somewhere, be patient

 

You are all looking in the wrong places.


I've done my share of drugs, her share, his share, your share...

But I'm still the most down to earth, intelligent, bright, gentle, caring, polite, productive, job holding, pot head.. you'll ever meet.

[EDIT] But hey, I CAN'T FIND A WOMAN with all the same qualities, so I understand your troubles.

 

Move to Florida and I'll show you how to get around these problems.

 

well in my case I don't lack any of those values and I smoke and mostly do other stuff, but I do tend to go through the same thing you do with the opposite sex....it's kinda complicated...even though lately I've been talking to this guy who is phycedelically active and apparently has all of those features that I'm looking for that most smokers don't have, the only thing that's wrong with him is that he's worst than me when it comes to the usage of drugs and their effects and that's a bit of a problem for me cause I tend to be a little crazy with drug use and I was hoping of finding someone who could help me control myself, you know....but eventually I think we could work that out....but it did take me a lot of telephone nums and many heartbreaks to finally meet someone I finaly match with phycedelically and moral wise...and even though I did find like the perfect match for some reason I don't want a relationship...I want to still be free...I don't know...I enjoy freedom to much I guess....

and I know what you mean..it's all really hard cause normally if you do find someone that is phycedelically matchful for you is not valuewise matchful and if they are both they tend to not attract you physically and if they do they tend to lack something that you need and don't fulfill you and you feel kinda empty..I don't know if any of you understand me...but that's sort of what I tend to go through...that's why I held off relationships for a while...

 

I seem to be in the same situation as well, but didn't want to realize it. The funny part is, is that I'm still a virgin and don't know if I'll ever find a chance to just do it. (lol) It's odd that I've held it this long cuz I have had plenty of chances, but for some reason I just kept telling them that I wasn't ready. So am I doing a god thing or what lynsey?

 

It's not hard cause mine doesn't mind but I would have liked to get that way oh well I think it would have been awesome smoking together it would make us so much closer I do believe. Can someone please varify this on personal belief or have actually done it so I can show her possibly some day?

-Later
billy_bong

"All girls give good head when high and on my tube steak." -Billy Gibson

 

Gee Billy I would say it would bring you two together if she were to smoke with ya. And yes some girls do give head better when they are stoned!

 

hehe, yes I guess I am looking in the wrong places

 

Yeah, I have the same problem. My Bf doesn't really care all that much that I get high. And its like I want to get that even stronger connection with him that I think pot would bring, but he would never smoke pot. I really wanted to have sex with him high ...but he says "its one thing being around you when ur high but I would never have sex with you while ur high" Hmmmm... i think he thinks that he would be taking advantage of me or something. I'm not going to push the issue, our relationship it too wonderful! But a girl can wish and fantasize about it, can't she?!

 

dang im havin problems finding a girl that would be ok with me that smoked or would smoke with me, but they are all either to uptight about it, or to wild for me...

 

exactly all the guys I know who smoke or either completley lazy or all they do is bar hop. A happy medium would be nice!?!

 

hrm... about dating and smoking.

smoke b4 u meet up and have fun.

find out later if she smokes, and if so smoke with her.
if not sneak away and toke, then come back and bone her.

 

errr...I am a girl and i like men, I do not want to 'bone' anyone

 

ah well i was talking 'bout the guys

can't really say much fur wut the gurls need to do 'cept maybe wut i would want them too
but smokin reef is always a good choice

 

Lynsey I totally know what you mean. The guy I'm dating recently told me that it bothered him that I smoke so much. But since it's so hard to find cool guys I'm willing to cut down a little bit.


I did smoke with my ex though and it brought us closer together.

 

My problem is the pretty much the same, all the girls I meet who smoke just get all giggly and loud when they smoke. And the girls who don't smoke but are intelligent won't go out with me because they thing I'm a loser pothead. It sucks..