ok so i can't stop thinking about my exboyfriend. when we broke up...well it was a more of..." i dont think its working, do you feel the same way?" and me being stupid said "yeah sure" and then he asked me if we could still be friends because he really really liked me. and i agreed to this. we hangout every once in a while. more with friends but sometimes its just me and him. i really want to tell him how i feel. because i cant move on. i've tried. and i just cant. i cant think of anyone else sexually and i've pushed some really great people away because i havent moved on. now i actually dont know anything about my ex's past relationships but hes one of those guys who has a lot of girls for friends (which i dont mind because most of my friends are guys). but there are a couple of chicks who lately have taken interest in him. now i know this sounds selfish of me. and jealous i am. but since me and my ex broke up. neither of us have been happy. i know at the time he was really stressed out with school and his job and side job so maybe he felt like he needed to rid of me/? i mean its quite obvious to everyone around us that we still have feelings for each other. but i felt that he didnt want to try...to make things work out. and its partically my fault for just giving up. and its so hard to tell him how im feeling becauuse there is so much tension between us and i want to tell him because i dont want to lose him but at the same time im confused because there's this one girl saying " oh i called you last night( and i know she likes him but somehow i think hes also holding back...as i have been doing with potentials) and i just dont know what to do because im so scared to say anything that might ruin what we have left because i dont know if his intentions are what they seem and i just dont want to take that chance and i wished he'd just give me a clear sign that its ok for me to feel this way and possibly have the feelings back in return. i just want peoples opinions. outlooks. yattta yattta. i wont be seeing him for a week since we are on break so i have to think hard about if i want to take this chance or if i should wait for him to bring it up
You got to fallow your heart. I went out with a guy similar to that twice. He had lots of chicks interested in him and he just didn't want to make things work. So I broke it off with him the first time. ANd it just seemed I couldn't move on at all. So 3 or 4 months later I told him how I felt. We went out again and I realized that it was not worth it, we are better off as friends. But I do think you should at least talk with him about how you feel. Who knows he might feel the same way. Good luck!
): You can't be friends with him until you're healed. If he hasn't given you a clear sign he's obviously not expending enough effort...guys rarley wait for the girl to make the move they're pretty agressive if they want somone. Yeah I admire you for trying to be friends with him though you have a lot more self-confidence than I do.
in my experience, i could never get to be friends with an ex that i had years ago, with whom things ended up in a similar way. Every time I saw him after our break up, it hurt so much and he did want to stay friends, but i tried hard but i couldnt look at him that way. I decided it was best to stop hanging around and get my act together and stop seeing him. and I did.It hurt so much i tell you, but i was able to move on and start anew. we progressively stopped all contact and he's been with his girlfriend for a while now and i'm doing my own thing. Looking back, i'm glad i made the decision to stop seeing him after breaking up cos i now it wouldve taken longer to get over him. For a long time I thought he was the love of my life. Now, i couldnt be more cynical about love.
stay away from him. don't hang out with him. don't go places you may expect to see him. it may hurt, but at least you wouldn't be seeing him or be constantly reminded of the relationship you shared with him. if you love someone, set them free. do it for yourself. write a song about it, make some art, get him out of your system. find something u love, and distract your brain.
just tell him, i mean it may sound hard but just do it man. i mean if you do keep waiting and wanting and dreaming eventually he may give up and go with someone else. so make your move, and make it quick
