Hey there! Help me out here please. I am about to have sex with a new partner for the first time. He's had a lot more sex than I had so far and I'm pretty confused. I was wondering what do you guys expect from the first time you have sex with someone new. Do I give him a blow job? Do we have a lot of foreplay? My guess is we will be so horny that I'll just want to have sex as soon as our clothes are off. Or would you advise some foreplay before? What are your experiences?
wow, you are stressing out about something that should flow naturally..if you are about to have sex for the first time with this person, you should be comfortable around them and therefore, able to express your sexuality freely and without any concern (apart from the obvious, STD + Pregnancy, which i'm sure you have already taken into account) i dont think this is something you can plan like when you plan an essay...ok for the introduction i'll give him a blow job so we can move on the main text etc...sorry but i cant think of a better analogy here..Just enjoy and let yourself go and make sure that you are comfortable with anything that happens and just have a good one in my name. oh and be safe.
thank you so much ZePpeLinA for your kind reply. and you are 100% right, it should flow naturally. still, i'm interested, can you guys describe what shoul first sex with someone new (in your opinion) look like. thanks.
First time sex with someone means I have certain expectations. 1. Its going to be exciting-firsts of anything are. 2. It will be mutually respectful(ie no coercion, taking into account eachother's needs, and with a condom) 3. Its going to be awkward-first time sex always ends up with some funny mishap. Hopefully you can laugh about it. Really, as was said before, you shouldn't stress it. Sex should just happen naturally. And, if it makes you feel any better, the guy is probably a little concerned as well about premature ejaculations etc. Peace
it honestly dosn't matter who's done it more than who. this is your relationship with him now, focus on what he does to you. go with the flow.
of course we'll use protection. that's a must! Thank you guys, you're making it much easier on me now, you're a great lot *wub*wub* and I'm sure we'll be just fine, it's nice to know what people expect though
It does not apply to all guys but some guys can be a bit put off by a blow job right away with some one they are new with. It can seem a little excessively intimate. Not saying that he will turn it down but afterwards it may affect his thoughts towards you.
Just relax, take things easy and do what you both feel comfortable doing. Dont worry about what you 'should do' or performence. There will a second time and third ect
This is what I was thinking, some guys may think you're easy and may dump you after they f*ck you a few times. I would leave that treat til a little later. How many lovers one has does not determine how good they will be in bed btw. I would be more concerned about how eager he is to please me and then go with the flow from there. If he doesn't have much enthusiasm to stimulate me... then I go with that flow, sorry guys. But if he gets me really excited... then I go with that flow
