Lost interest in dating after one relationship

My first ever relationship lasted from about last May or June (depends on what you count as the "official" start) and lasted until last week. What ended it? I lost interest, that's what. My feelings for him changed and I started to feel like I didn't want to be in a relationship. Although throughout the relationship, the thought of me dating someone sounded foreign or weird, I still felt for him enough to stick with it. Kissing has always been weird for me, but I enjoyed it when I got used to it and while it was still new to me, but other than that I never did like kissing. I was also never comfortable with intimate touching. So, after I started to loose interest, not only did I not like kissing, and touching, but I got to the point where they were very uncomfortable and I would do things to avoid doing them as much. Now that I am single again, I feel so freed that I don't want to be in a relationship at all! I figure if guys like to kiss more than an occasional peck on the lips or cheak, and like to touch more than a cuddling and hugs, maybe I'm better off just staying single. What do you all think?

 

Kick back/don't worry bout it/let Time do her thing.
I've gone thru periods when I did/didn't want to be in a Relationship.

It doesn't sound abnormal at all to me...

 

yeah... i have the same junk happen to me during my last relationship, but not with the awkwardness, just lost interest in her. i want to hang out with girls and all that stuff but i dont want to deal with the dating crap, it can get to be a real pain in the ass and it can be a lot of effort, to be honest. you just need to ask yourself how bad you want it. and with the touching and that stuff, everybody who is inexperienced will find it awkward. again its all about the comfort zone, really.

 

Become a stripper.

 

birth control pills always made me feel that way, no matter how much I lusted after boyfriend and enjoyed his company before taking them.

Or it could just be your heart telling you something. You are probably better off without him or anyone else at this point anyway.

 

There's nothing wrong with wanting to be single. In fact, that's probably the best thing for most girls your age.

Consider it healthy

 

So you guys don't find it the least bit weird that when I look at my future, I see a better picture when I think about myself as a single mother than I do when I think about myself as married with kids? I know that 17 is too young to actually plan all that out and know what I will eventually want, but don't most girls by my age WANT a guy? And is it really normal to give up on dating after only one relationship that ended smoothly with no heart-ache? from my observation of others, this just doesn't seem normal. I don't mind being non-normal, but I suppose I also don't exactly know what qualifies as "normal."

 

i dont find it that unusual. I was celibate and single by choice at that age, even shaved my head to deter any boys from coming on to me (didn't work well enough, unfortunately). It's probably a good sign that you are very mature that you would rather be alone than be with the wrong guy. Too many girls date boys just because they are afraid to be alone, rather than because they really want to be with that person. You're ok!! When you come across a special someone, you'll know it, and you won't be tied down in a go-nowhere relationship to complicate things.

 

Yeah, I see what you're saying, but it's not only that I'd rather "be alone than be with the wrong guy." That's always been my view. The difference is that in the past, even though I was willing to wait, I still wanted to find the right guy. Now, I like the idea of being single so much better than being with someone to the point that I feel like there isn't someone that is right for me. And that's not a depressing thought as it might be for some people. Hmm.. everyone's different. I wish society put less importance on being with someone because then less people would feel insecure being single.

 

I cannot even kiss someone without wanting to vomit unless there is a serious spark and obviously I don't feel that with too many people so unless i feel it I won't date unless a friend needs a date and it's known that it's platonic...I'm a big platonic dater and there's nothing wrong with that...the guy doesn't have to miss out because he doesn't have a date and if I go I get to go to something that I wouldn't otherwise get to go to. That's how I get my dating thrills when I don't find someone I click with.
Maybe you should just focus on having male friends and if you meet somone in the process then great. Maybe you're picky and there's not a thing wrong with that.

 

hm... sounds like a good plan. I alread do have a lot of male friends actually. I'll just live life single and if and when I meet the right person, well I won't ignore them simply because I already decided to be single, but I'll still take things slowly. So in other words, I'm not going to look for the right person, I'm just going to trust that if they are out there, I will eventually stumble upon them.

 

that's so healthy and what everyone should do