are 'social crushes' for real?

Within my network of friends, there has been a bug going around known as the "social crush," in which one person has a strong and strangely fervent desire to talk to, hang out with, and be around another person, presumably with no nonplatonic feelings.

Are these for real? Or are we all just too chicken to admit that it's a real crush? I THINK I have a 'social crush' but I'm not sure if I've just mindfucked myself into believing this isn't a 'real' crush.

 

I've never heard that term before. Sounds weird. How is it different from a normal crush?

 

How is it different from a particularly strong friendship?

That's just what it sounds like to me.. Nothing new, only the name..

 

yea i dont get this at all... i mean, are you implying that i could have a social crush on my best friend?

from the way you described it, it sounds like when im getting to know somebody (male or female) because i just find them interesting or whatever... but id not go so far to classify it as a type of crush...

 

Yeah it is for real.
It's a crush without the desire to be with someone sexually,
I think it is something that happends when you become
good friends with someone. Or have a strong friendship with someone.
So I think the name is new, but it just is that feeling of 'falling' into a
strong friendship. I have alot of friends, most of them I did not have this 'social crush' on, but with my best friends I did and still do.

 

Well, I am like that with several of my friends. I love to hang out and laugh but would never get sexual with them.

 

I don't see why you find this so unbelievable....

 

In my circle lately there's been a lot of reported so-called social crushes. Which, as someone said before, is a lot like just wanting to hang out with and be with (literally, not in the relationship sense) someone with the same enthusiasm you'd want to be with a new flame, but "social crushes" do not entail any crushy feelings....presumably there is no romantic feeling, just a strong desire to be around this person.

And I don't know if those are for real or if they're just a disclaimer to deny non-platonic feelings. Can't tell at all.

 

sure, they are real
still doesn't mean the person isn't lying, but I still don't see what's so unbelievable about the idea..

 

it's not unbelievable -- I'm just not sure how many of these "social crushes" were, in fact, just social.

 

probably some

 

Sounds like theyre just desperate for friends

 

I don't think it neccesarily has to do with real crushes or even desperation to have friends. I mean, it COULD, but I don't think that's a given. I can see finding someone you can really connect with, who really seems to be on the same level as you, and you wanna be around them, and have someone who 'gets you' as a person, rather than needing a relationship out of it. Sure, depending on the quantities we're talking about here, some of them are bound to be real crushes and some, perhaps, just out of wanting friends particularly badly, but I think it's a perfectly understandable situation.

 

A pre-curser to a romantic crush....

Hope we're not aware of it in that sense.. Life would be so disappointing if we thought that all the time...

 

It's old news with a new name.

 

Well I Have A Situation...regarding This Topic..i Have A Friend/ex Co Worker..gezz..he Has This Crush On Me,how I Know...well It All Started Out That I Just Started A Job,and So I Really Didnt Know What I Was Doing Since It Was My First Few Days...so I Had This Idea That He Knew What He Was Doing Based On Evaluating Everyone On How Thewy Worked..and He Stood Out In My Eyes,so I Kinda Leaned His Way So I Could Learn The Job..he Was Older And Not A Kid Literally Not A Kid Cause There Were Alot Of Young Kids Workin Ranging From 21 To His Age..and Im In The Middle...ok A Week Passes, And Other Week Passes...and Now Im Seeing Him Tryin To Wiggle His Lil Self To Latch On To Me...ok He A Nice Guy He Was Helpful..we And Had Coffe Breaks N Things Like That,and Bullshit And Crack Jokes And Really Have A Nice Time Working Compared To Everyone Else,which Most Were Kinda Jelous That We Worked And Got Work Done As They Would Bullshit Too Much And Not Get Work Done,and All Of Us In The Group Including Us Would Get Repremanded Because Of The Floudering Around... I Just Could'nt Relate To The Other Co Workers Because Of The Way They Acted..so We Worrk Alotta Time Together..they Were Just Obnoxious And Carried On Too Much During Work.....now As Months Past By...he Thinks I Have The Same Feeling Tord Him Like He Has About Me,he Tends To Charm His Way,by Saying Nice Things,like if i ever met another woman..i'd want her to just like you..nothing more nothing less!im like wow..gess whatta u say to taht,which I Found Kinda Funny...It Really Didnt Bother Me Much cause it was a compliment..and sometimes when I SEE Him around eaither at work or off work..sometimes I Would Kinda Avoid His Presence So That It Didnt Look Like We "were Together",in other co workers eyes...which Was The Right Thing To Do...so..one Day...

I Told Him streight up Hey Im Not Having Any Sex With You...i Look At You As A Friend And Nothing More,your Cool,kind,and Just A Nice Person to be around..and I Value That.....he Trys So Hard ,and I Feel Bad It Puts Me In A Bad Spot ....i mean He's A Nice Guy But He's Totaly Not My Type To Do Anything With. He Is Divorced...and Lives Alone...lol I See A Sexually Fustrated Old Man who hasnt gotten any..(poor guy)..who Is Infactuated...or Has This Crush.and I Know He Knows That He Cant Have Me That Way. But He Tries And Tries..i Just Laugh And Giggle My Way Right Out...
He Looks Forward To Seeing Me,but Sometimes I Know Where It Going To Lead..and I Dont Want That Cause Im Not Attraced To Him Like That.im Attracted To His Kindness,his Sence Of Humor And Nothing More....what Would You Do...would this be a kind of a social crush issue?

 

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well ok see this.
i had talked to this kid a while back...a year or so...just internet friends who lived in the next town over to each other.
well we ended up going to the same college.
so i met him this year.
he's a nice kid. attractive. but i have no sexual interest in him.
he's alwaysssssss asking to hang out with me. and i have a couple of times. and i get confused on what his intentions are.
i mean. does he like me. or idk. i find it strange though
and i seem to be pushing him back a lot because i kind of don't want to find out. i mean if we hung out in a group or something it wouldnt be so weird but just me and him. ehhh

 

Hmm..sounds Like We Have Something In Common...but Lol Mines Older Then Your Collage Boy...hehehe

 

So it's just wanting to be around someone, but not engage sexually.
How is this unlike a regular desire for friendship, or a desire to deepen a pre-existing friendship?

 

it sounds to me like what would be a crush + some feelings that make a "normal" crush not possible- as in you like a lot about them and enjoy spending time together but wouldn't want to date them for one or more reasons. this pretty much sums up how i feel about a guy i work with- love spending as much time with him as i can, think he's an awesome guy but wouldn't date him for a couple of reasons. he and i connect really well and i feel better when he's around...but i have no romantic feelings for him. go figure...