Giving up on love.

yeah 15 is still very young, i didn't get in any relationships at that age, hung out with guys and flirted but nothing came of it. I had my first semi serious relationship at 17 but it wasn't until after high school that I got into any serious relationships.

Like some1 said, take the freedom you do have and relish it. Until you're old enough to go to clubs out of your area take up a sport like martial arts or somethin'. That will keep you preoccupied in the meantime while also developing yourself with some valuable life skills. I was too busy with my dancing at your age to be bothered by a lackluster love life

 

haha I snowboard and smoke pot .. occastionaly... i always thought its the best birth controle haha.

 

Yeah I have had the same problem as you pmeth, but for the past 5 years or so. At 15, a lot of things can blind you in high school and all that bullshit (believe me, I know). In high school, I had a few crushes and whatnot and whenever I acted upon them, I was always practically beaten into the ground with rejection because I was probably the most infamous loser of my high school, which made my chronic depression (which i still have) even worse, contemplating suicide. I was constantly humiliated even up to my senior year where i isolated myself from the social strata of ol Colfax High. I always felt that there was someone out to get me (which is somewhat true) and that I would never find a girl that cared about me at all... same situation, right? Anyways, I ended up going to a local community college and still trying to find a girl that was right for me. Again, rejection after rejection. I hadn't even kissed a girl until I was 20... just this past summer. (which led to a short 2 week relationship, and then rejection, again)

Then this past fall I transfered to University of Nevada, and I was starting a new social life, joined a fraternity, and met a whole lot of new friends, including girls. I finally met a girl that I somewhat cared for in november and then dumped her in late january because I didn't have feelings for her anymore. So, in short, I feel that it will just come to you, although you do have to do some searching of your own, girls wont just come up to you and talk to you (even though it would be a hell of a lot easier if they did), you have to be proactive and try and find one that is right for you. Me, I have given up for awhile as I don't feel like that I will be able to find a girl out there very easily... I'm reverting to a passive stance yet again.

Another thing... yeah I also smoke weed and snowboard a lot (both, lol) and I have found that weed kind of isolates me from social interaction... maybe it is because it brings out my introverted side, but no matter, its my issue. Good luck out there, and remember, being 15 and not having kissed a girl or had sex or any of that shit doesn't even matter, don't let other people influence how you think of yourself, I know from experience.

 

i agree with the others .............i too was a late bloomer ........still hadn't dated a girl by 18 .....and like you it made me feel like an outcast .my problem was that i was too shy around girls ...............anyways to make a long story short ,i got over it .........been married 28 years now

 

What I would've given to find a kid like you when I was 15...

Anyway, at risk of making this thread a broken record, you're only 15. I was 16 when I fell in love the first time and 17 before I had a relationship last more than 3 months. I'm 19 now and just working on my longest relationship (9 months next Sunday). I wanted so badly to find someone willing to marry me in high school, but I'm glad I didn't. I found my soulmate right after graduation, though, so that just shows how patience can be a virtue.

I was really into the idea of settling down and having a serious relationship in high school, but now that I look back on it, I'm really glad my longest one lasted just 5 months. I can't imagine spending an entire year (or more) of high school tied down to the same person. High school's too much fun to spend worrying about love. Just spend your time enjoying your childhood...it'll be over with soon. Take my word, graduation slapped me in the face (and now I cry every time I remember the last few weeks of high school), and reality's tough. I really regret not spending even more time than I did just loving being a teenager and I think I had one of the best high school experiences out of most the people I know and talk to. Don't let these years pass you by, they may just be the best of your life.

 

Ya know, i have given' up on love as well, life isn't so bad being single & just being your own person & in charge of your own life, just being independent. You can still date, travel & what not with a mama you like alot & like to spend time with & go to shows & campouts & whatnot, but at the same time you can be a person & not a couple.

A girl i have known for like 5 years has moved in as a roomate not long ago ( we have never been lovers or dated, just friends). She has been nice & kinda looks out for me, she even finished off my laundry & folded it & brought in my room for me, it was so sweet of her. I had thought of how nice this was & that maybe i should once again look for an actual relationship with someone.

Well a few days later, i took her to the ferry to key west for a 4 day vacation she was off to. We left at 5:15 am to meet her 7 am check in time, this should not have been more than an hour & 15 mins. Well, she never got directions, we got lost, time was running out, i had to piss bad, she got to freaking out & bitching at me, stress mounted, we were rushing through traffic to try to get to the correct marina, ( so i then quickly remembered, "Ahhhh", This, is exactly why i don't try to entertain a relationship anymore.)