Giving up on love.

Guys and girls i need some guidence... im starting to lose hope in everything.

I dont know but lately i have been feeling as love is somthing fake that i was programmed to find. I dont know but , I have alot of girls who i like but hardly like me back , and its impossable to find someone who i can actually open up to and tell everything im feeling , all the girls i find arnt like me at all , I just wish that once i can find my "match" or someone i belive with .. i dont know , what to do. I some times feel like an idiot becasue i will see a girl i like , and i will know nothing about her but for some reason she will be on my mind non stop , I just have this wish that i can find a girl one day ... but i realize its only a fantasy and its all stupid.

I dont know what to do anymore people tell me you will belive in love when you find it , what happends if i never find it... then what? then what am i supposed to do anyone feel like this.. or am i just another stupid teenager with stupid issues?

 

My friend. All guys go through these things at your age. I think you're too young to be looking for true love, just go with the flow and what you're seeking will find you eventually.

 

ya but , everyone had a seriously relasionship see but me... most of my gf's and me lasted very little , either due to long distance , or becasue we never chilled one on one.

most of the girls i dated , are rich snobbish girls , yet im not into that im mostly into punk girls , or emo girls or just regular girls , who dress how they feel and act like them selfs.

but mostly the only girls who like me back are the snobbish ones.. or the ones that have a terrible personallity..and im lost...
and im not snobbish my self.

I wish just once i can find a nice punk girl , emo girl ... who i can talk too , and we can acctually feel the same thing...but it never happends , and im scared that ill be "looking" my whole life and never find her or ... end up being some 70 year old on my death bed becasue i find someone.

 

I promise you, you won't end up a lonely 70yo, on his death bed. I used to think the same thing at your age, but you're only 15 so you can't have been looking for long. The thing is girls do like you so you have potential there to work with. Your problem is you can't find you're type in your area, that's an easy problem to work around. Try going to punk clubs in and around your area, and stuff.

You seem a nice guy from the few posts I've read by you, and guys like that never have too much trouble with women. So you have good basics.

Also, your friends that are in relationships are missing out on the freedom you have. It's good to be free at your age.

 

I guess your right thanks dude you seem wize and smart thanks , i loev these forums they always make me feel good hahah

thanks dude, but the problem is my parents are lame and dont let me go around place , so i depend on meeting girls at my school or in my area.. till im around 16 + ... which sucks ass lol.

but thanks dude i guess your right.

 

Anytime.

I suspected your parents wouldn't let you do much, but a lot of guys your age are in the same boat. You're not far off being old enough to do what you want, so then you can make up for lost time.

 

I guess your right thanks Anaconda.

 

look man, my situations the same...only more hopeless and depressing.

ive never had a girlfriend.
ive never kissed a girl.

its fucking killing me

 

Don't worry about it, guys. Love IS out there. Some people find it early on, some later in their lives. But it's out there. It might be frustrating at times, but I tend to look at it as a part of the thrill, part of the whole adventure. Trust me, that kind of down moments have a tendency to enhance your romantic episodes when they finally do come your way, and you, in turn, will be able to appreciate it much more.

It's one of those "you must know what's bad in order to know what's good" situations, if you will. I say y'all doing fine. Just be yourself, interact with as many random girls as you can and befriend them, and learn about them. Learn how girls think, and try to relate to them. Once you're comfortable with interacting with girls in general, actually striking up a conversation with someone you're interested in may become much easier. You will be able to carry on a conversation smoothly, and I'm sure they will see in you the kind of quality that they dig.

In the words of "Jim's dad" from American Pie 2, "Keep on plugging, and good things will happen."

 

Its not that its just that sometimes i feel that.... i was only ment to find a girl , sometimes all i can think about is girls , or a girl i like... and other times when im in school i still think about it , and its hard becasue i cant do anything else but think about her.

 

These are some pretty hard times were living in, and its pretty common to be desperately searching or reaching out for love...
But the fact is that love is a force stronger than we can ever imagine until it happens, and it is a force separate from us. My favourite philosopher Kahlil Gibran said "Do not think you can direct the course of love, for love, if it finds you worthy, will direct your course"...

This isnt a race. There is no way you can make love come any faster than it intends to. So enjoy your alone time, get to know yourself, give out love to others...No, perhaps i was wrong. Maybe this approach WILL make love come faster...if you have a fully developed self-awareness and self-love, relationships ARE far more likely to be successful. Do the things you enjoy, or which will help you grow as a person...I met my boyfriend whilst studying for a French course.

But most of all, dont despair and love truly is worth the wait.

Xx

 

Oh i agree , just somtimes i feel if i dont do anything , nothing will happen and ill just end up here... alone ... on this cold earth of ours. We only life once... and i want to make sure i life my life right.

Maby im nuts , but ... I hate the thought of being alone.... Im a type of kid , who needs to know hes loved. lol kinda sounds odd heh?

 

Sweetie, you're 15 years old. I was nowhere even close to a serious relationship at your age. Sure, I had crushes, a few group dates here and there, but nothing earth shattering. I didn't have my first serious relationship until I was 18 years old, and I ended up marrying him two years later. Who'd have thought? Definitely not me. I hadn't even been looking for love, had pretty much given up on the thought, figured it was a fairy tale that I was going to have no part in. But surprise, love found me.

Anyway, I know it's hard, believe me. Although I didn't have any real relationships in my earlier years, many of my friends did, or seemed to, and I was extremely envious of that fact. But, I also knew in my heart I wouldn't have been able to handle anything serious. I had too many other issues in my life that would have made it difficult. Long story for another post.

At your age, you should be more focused on the future, getting a good, solid education under your belt, making something of yourself, and just...having fun living life and letting things take their course. I know that's boring, and probably lame sounding, but my heart goes out to you as I have a 15 year old nephew myself, and I also have a 22 year old brother-in-law who has done absolutely nothing with his life but chase after the wrong girls and get himself into trouble and heartache, has no ambition or drive to make anything of himself and is content to do absolutely nothing with his life. *ahem*

Anyway sweetie, when it's meant to happen, it will happen. You've got a lot of time ahead of you, and you never know when true love will strike. Many times the harder you look for it, the harder it is to find. Let nature take it's course, keep an open mind, and love will find it's way to you in due time.

Best of luck, and keep your chin up.

 

haha i guess your right thanks .

 

You're welcome.

 

Your story is so similar to mine too! Except I met him at 16 and got married at 19.

 

Heheheh, seems we have a lot in common!

 

I know, I wish we could hang out. You're my kind of friend!

 

Awww, you're such a sweetie! I think you'd be cool to hang out with too!

 

just have fun at your age. when i was your age, i had so much going on, that i rarely had time to date. i had crushes, but nothing ever came out of it. i had 1 girlfriend, but it didn't go far after 5 months. my life was full of sports. i still partied and what not. my friends had relationships and sure, i was envious a little bit, but i really had no time for it. so its not that big of a deal at your age.

now, i wasn't even looking for a relationship or anything, but it just happened. and right now, i couldn't be more happy.

just enjoy life, things will fall into place...