Yeah. So im afraid of people....i cant help it. I figure if i stay away from them they wont judge me...and if they dont know me how can they dislike me? But i shouldnt live this way...its not fair. To me or other people, becus not only do i suffer for not getting to know them, but they'll never get to know me. Dont get me wrong, i doo have friends...but when i first meet people im soo shy, and soo quiet, my friends that i have now are always saying "your so different now sami, at first you wouldnt even talk to me, now u wont shutup". But thats how i am, people think im weird becuz i dont talk, and school is so hard. It always seems like im being judged...and stared at...im sure its all in my head. Well i guess i just wanted to let that out. Thanks for listening.. <3
don't worry so much about others judging you. i mean really, all you need is to be happy with yourself.
I get the same thing, I know I shouldnt care what ppl think of me, but I do and I cant stop. Its some crazy shit.
Man I used to be the same way, maybe not to that extent but I was quit shy. But then I realiezed who cares what others think about me, I'd rather be hated for who I am then something im not! Judging yah you can't excape that! Its mayjor in high school. But people who judge aren't that cool anyways so who gives to and a half poohs about what they think. You'lll be okay. peace
i used to be that way also. i think most everyone is at some point; your unsure and afraid of rejection from the people who seem to matter so much. i got over this 'social anxiety' but just keeping a good relationship with my close friends, and they helped me learn about myself until i was comfertable enough to be pleasant in any social situation. remember, it doesnt matter if your popular or anything, thats a load of crap. being popular can be fake and lonely. instead, surround yourself with people you care about that care about you, whether that be 2 people or 10. just enjoyt life, and if something is really uncomfertable, then just avoid it. be true to yourself, thats all you can do.
A lot if it is in your head, but there's also a lot that isn't. Seriously, I have a dire case of it! (see my thread in this forum) The problem in regards to fear of judgment is that "don't worry about what others think of you" works only within a narrow set of behaviors and ideas and personalities. It is true that MOST people with this kind of painful shyness it's "all in their heads," but for those with WAY "out there" ideas, it becomes reality. When your entire mindset runs in direct conflict with the core morality, set of assumptions, view of reality, etc. of wider society (I doubt that you're in that situation), it is very difficult to find those who will accept you without being extremely superficial. In overcoming this (something I am beginning to make progress with, heheh) I think it is a good idea to recognize the credibility of those who would treat you harshly. What makes THEIR harsh judgment of you so accurate? If they're the kinds of folks who would harshly criticize you, are they really the kinds of folks you want to bond with in the first place?
Its called social anxitey... one of my ex friends had that. bUt for other reasons is why shes my EX friend
I have the same exact problem. I'm sooo damn shy around new people that I hardly talk at all. I also have friends, lots of truely good friends, but I just get so shy. I'm a completely different person around my friends becuase I am confortable around them. School is also hard for me (I go to a private school) and most of my friends go to public schools so I don't have any good friends where I go to school. Its very frustrating for me also.
Yeah, I have horrible social anxiety. I dropped out of school because of it. I just went in to town a few days ago for the first time in weeks, and it was the most terrifying experince I've had in ages, just being around people. Heck, I won't even leave my room when my dad and stepmom are around. I'm just too scared. I spend most of my time in the woods, though. It's where I'm happy.
I'm afraid of people, too, which is the number one reason why I don't have a job right now. I'm scared to talk to people I don't know. It's weird, though, once I warm up to people, I make friends easily, but it's really hard to get past that initial warm-up of sorts...I also can't handle large crowds, because people are really inconsiderate and push, shove, bump into, and touch other people. I can't handle being touched by someone I don't know, it really wigs me out. I tend to have panic attacks in large crowds, I actually cried when I found out we were having graduation indoors because I had a panic attack when they had done graduation indoors my freshman year. I've gotten better, though, I had a job and didn't quit because of my social anxiety (quit because I had a family emergency they wouldn't allow me time off for). And I can hang out with my friends and new people without freaking out so bad now. My boyfriend's trying to slowly bring me out of my shell. It's been tough, but it seems to be working.
Hmm I seem to have somewhat of the same issue, when I stopped acting like I am in some movie. Now ever since last summer I refused to continue living my life the way I did. I guess I have located reality which I think they can to if they would just put some overrated things aside. lol I am not really scared of them but more like terrified that I will have to defend myself in a brutal manner and just rip them apart, literally. I am so at peace now but it doesn't seem like the locals are, how they look at each other and compete over their material possessions. I am considering moving alittle norther and hope that I can atleast locate a great close friend like I had when I was really young. So that being said, I think if I had a great friend and not being alone all the time things would not feel as awkward.
