what constitutes having a crush?

Welllllll like there's different degrees of a crush for me... like there's the crushes that last a lil while and I dont think much of but then there's times like now... I have this REALLY big crush on someone and its the kind of crush where I cant stop thinking about him and how much I soo want to be hanging out with him at this very moment.. and when I talk to him I get all giddy and I blush n stuff lol.... yea dorky but true... this is a crush that I would REALLY be oh so very very happy if it went somewhere... so Im thinking that really having a crush on someone is a strong liking to them.. and there's just different degrees of a crush? maybe.. does that make sense at all?

 

Im not sure

but I avoid having them to the best of my abilities

 

so you find having a crush on somebody to be a.....deeper feeling than being infatuated with somebody?

 

to answer my own question:

i find a crush to be an irrational feeling that seemingly can not be acted upon. something like a fantasy. not to say i discredit the validity or depth of the feeling, but i generally see it as something that eventually goes nowhere whether you like it or not. the celebrity thing was a perfect example of this. school kids and teachers are another valid example. the forums are yet another. regardless of your thoughts of a certain member it is illogical to assume people will come together unless they are geographically already fairly close in proximity. not to say it does not or can not happen. i just feel in most cases it does not. i do not think i have ever stated that i had a crush on a person i could logically wind up in a relationship with. i often would be interested in a relationship with somebody i have a crush on; i simply do not view it as a highly realistic possibility.

 

A crush is a lot like sex if you ask me.

 

not sex. Love.


A crush is a lot like love if you ask me.

 

I agree with people's thoughts that its a mild infatuation. For me its where you don't really know the person all that well, haven't dated them or hooked up with them or even suggested to them that you have such desires. It starts when you realize the few qualities you've been exposed to in the person align with the qualities that you look for in a romantic partner. You simply wish to see more of them and get to know them better in hopes that things may build towards something special.

 

that's probably my favorite so far.

 

Indeed..

Now the interesting thing is whether or not a crush, or the way we act when it's a crush, dooms it to certain impossibility. I've found myself unable to talk to the person I feel this way about properly. I never feel relaxed, and I know within myself that the level of feeling I'm living with is irrational. Perhaps it's this torment that defines it as a crush and not mere infatuation?

Yes, I tend not to have crushes on people geographically impossible to have a relationship with, but there's dozens of other factors that would make it an unlikely relationship. Class and status being the main two.

 

i am a believer that that would vary from person to person. depending mostly on the shyness of the person with the crush. fear of rejection obviously plays into it as well. i generally do not have that problem but i am not immune to it.

class is one that i think is rather dependant on the person as well. only i feel that it is dependant more on the person in the higher social class even if they are the one with the crush. if they are open minded they would not consider dating somebody in a lower social class to be settling.

 

in my opinion, having a crush on someone means you really want to fuck them, but don't want to talk to them later.

 

interesting. while i ha ve fucked a few people i did not want to talk to later i do not think i ever considered that a crush. i usually call that a drunken travesty.

 

drunken travesty, crush, thinking with your dick.....all the same thing.

 

that is quite an interesting outlook

 

I've got a few good outlooks on things.

 

And here's me thinking a crush involved the heart somewhere....

It's called something else totally different when it's your cock doing the thinking!