how and when to tell your partner...

whats up everyone, i was just curious as to when the best time is to tell your partner that you have contracted something...I used to think i had an std (turned out i was ok), so thankfully i never had to tell anyone..
peace and love
jfjo

 

I think right now would be a good time.......

 

Yes right away! It's extreamly important that you tell them. I mean I don't mean on a first date say something like "Hi my name is such and such and I have aids!" Not like that. If it's something serious like aids I'd tell them before they even kissed you. If it's something that can only be contracted through sex then you definitnly want to tell them before you get intimate. obviously.

It's extreamly important to be open and trusting with your partner. The best way to go about it is simply sit them down and explain to them about it. They'll understand and then from there it will be their choice on whether they still want to get intimate with you (through the use of portection of course) if it's something perminintent.

But even if it's something temperary, please be sure to tell them anway. You need to stay open with your partner! That always comes first. Trust is the foundation of a relationship and if you can't tell your partner something, then something is extreamly wrong.

 

whoops sorry, i am not with anyone. I am just curious. Sorry to be confusing...

 

As soon as possible, for the safety of everyone.
There isn't an easy way of telling anybody something like this, you just have to sit down and spill the beans.

 

I think it depends on the STD. If it can be transmitted by kissing and physical contact, then the partner must know immediately. If it can be transmitted by vaginal, anal, oral only, it should still be revealed, but later on.

 

I think if you have the std and you've just met them you should tell them before getting intimate, but I think that should be after you begin treatment.

Just be considerate really, I mean you'd be pissed off if they didnt tell you before doing certain activities.

But if you contracted it from them.... then its serious talk time, and yes straight away, preferably when youre alone, and not on the phone either. Dont make them guess whats wrong either, thats horrible. You should also remeer that getting angry or mad at them isnt going to change the fact that you now have an std, and if you have a strong relationship with them, breaking up isnt going to make you feel better.

You need to think about how they got the std, did they contract it whist with you or before, and what are the circumstances ie, Did they cheat on you or was it from a previous relationship. Chances are they didnt even know they had it.

 

If I were you, I would say something right away. It's better to let the person know sooner than later if your with them or not. Figure if you dont say anything and this person is going out giving whatever you got or have to others all because you waited and thought about how to say it. Just walk up state the problem and go from there.