Losing your virginity to a girl your still with 4 years later

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He's probably just scared. Not that he couldn't be a bit more sensitive to your feelings, of course. Some people have commitment issues, though. He seems a little confused to me, but I'm only 18 and I've only been in real love twice (last relationship, which ended okay and current relationship), so maybe I'm not the one to give advice. I get really scared of commitment. Sometimes I freak out and have to spend time away from the person I'm with until these panic attacks pass so I don't go nuts and end the relationship. I do that because I know it will pass, but the reason for my fear is that if I got married or "stuck" myself with one person, I wouldn't have that freedom all the time. I wouldn't be able to run away and sort things out, because that's not how it's supposed to work. In REALLY SERIOUS relationships, you should be able to talk through anything. I, personally, am not at that level with my current boy. Too intimate. Can't deal with it. Not ready to give that part of me away.
I think if it's worth it to the both of you, you'll end up together. That's it. You might break up and get back together 100 times, but if there's really love there, a real connection that will last, and the both of you are willing to work on it, at some point, you'll end up together for good.

Well, that was a big, long, rambling thing. I hope something in there made sense to you and I didn't sound too condescending. I am a yungun after all.

 

well he thinks he's missing out, comparing his sex life with the exagerated sex lives of his friends, thinking that they are having enourmous amounts of fun with multiple partners. he needs to focus on how good he has it in his life, and not worry about how good he thinks other people have it in thiers.
if you cant get him to see this, then your last resort would be to go out and pick up girls together, with the understanding that the two of you have love, and your escapades with chicks are just mindless entertainment.

 

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My husband and I have been together over 5 years now, and although I wasn't a virgin when we got together he was. It was an issue from time to time when we were younger, but it is a non-issue now. Maybe it will be one again (mid-life crisis time or something), but we have a good relationship. I guess what I am saying is a lot of this might just be immaturity and insecurity. Being a young and the accompanying hormones, confusion, and idiot friends can do a number on the psyche.

I hope you guys can work through it, but not all relationships last even though you used to think it could last forever. Everything always seems to work itself out in the end, though, some way or another.

 

it's unfortunate but alot of people seem to think it's a rights of passage to be young free and single. To be honest, I have benefited from having a few years to go explore myself, others and my feelings but I don't think it's neccessary. If he loves you then there's no reason why you shouldn't be together, however, if he wants to see other people then you shouldn't have to hang around and be some kind of second best to him. Give him a choice, you or what he sees as his 'freedom', he can't keep switching on and off.

 

it sounds like this BOY wants what he cant have.... but i mean, who doesnt. show him whats hes missing.say he calls you up and wants to hang out last minute on a friday night. instead of going, tell him youve made plans. even if your just sitting at home painting your nails or whatever, atleased he gets the picture that your NOT just some poor thing falling victum to him. youve got a life too; make him realize that your time is valuable and not to be toyed around with. good luck with everything.

 

I'm sorry you are giong through this at the moment, I am actually going through something similar I think my boyfriend wishes he could have more experience with girls and could go out as a single guy and meet women. He hasn't actually said that but I think it's a matter of time. The thing is I'm not willing to have a break and sit back while he trys out other women and uses me as a back up just incase the single life isn't all it's cracked up to be! I don't know what advice to give really but don't let him walk over you and dont be his back up. I hope it all works out and he comes to his senses!