make him surge with pleasure*

When I was 16 I dated someone who was 23. I have always been very mature for my age, and he was immature, so we were on the same level. I think it is unusual and odd for a 24 year old man to be interested in a 15 year old. Presently, I would never, ever look at a highschool freshman and I am only 20. I did date my ex boyfriend for about 6 months, but he was not your typical 23 year old. I know it sounds cliche to say "but my situation was different!" but I feel it was, due to his maturity level and his psychological problems. We made a go of it, my parents eventually found and they did flip out completely, but they made peace with it, knowing our relationship would fall apart. And it did, which is another story entirely.
However, my main goal in this relationship was not to "make him surge with pleasure", nor was it on sex. He was the first person I had a sexual relationship with, however, and I am not scarred from the experience, but I was 16 and it was legal. I am in the middle about this...if you like this person, perhaps it is not harmful to get to know him better as a friend or potential lover. I know many people who are 10 years apart and happily married- but they did not meet when one of them was 15.
On the other hand, it would be illegal for you to have sex/sexual activity with him, and his line that he is satisfied with just holding you- well, I don't believe it for a second, and it seems fishy. I would not sleep with him until I was 16, at the very least, if that is age of consent in your state. Above all, I would get to know this person for who he is, and give any sex stuff some MAJOR time to develop. You don't need to hop in the bed with people! I know you have sexual urges; but illegal sexual relationships with them who are emotionally and sexually much more mature than you can be quite damaging. When I was 14 I had sex with a guy who was 18, who totally took advantage of me- because I let him. It is my biggest regret. So please do not take this situation lightly.

 

You sound like you have a lot of supressed negative emotion...you should try to let go of that somehow...
Youre saying that what matters is the age of your body? That makes you who you are and what you are?...Seems odd to me.

Xx

 

Supressed negative emotion? Go on with that shit.
It is disgusting that a 24 year old man will hit on a 15 year old girl. It IS illegal. There is no supressed negativity about that.
Next time you decide to address me, don't make an ass of yourself with stupid remarks. K?

Your age matters to the states, yes. It's very illegal. He's a pervert and doesn't need to be roaming the streets. Like I said, he's a sicko.

 

Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter.
Mark Twain

 

I couldnt think of another explanation for such unnecessary displays of hatred...can you?
By "age" you mean how old your body is, your organs are, and such?...
The remark you made which made me comment was something like-
"It doesnt matter if he has the mind of a 12 year old, hes still sick and needs to be locked up"...
It doesnt matter? Youre saying your body makes you you, your mind means nothing? If this man was mentally a child? Its illogical, and to me seems stupid...i was perfectly justified.
"Its illegal"-by "it" i assume you mean having sexual intercourse? Yes, "it" is...but as i already stated, there is absolutely NO evidence that this young man has HAD sex with this girl, infact, she suggested the contrary...he was happy just being close to her. Which is fair enough. I also never suggested for a moment that these two should have sex.
Who are you to stand and condemn this man? Im sick of peoples freedoms being snatched. For Gods sake, if two people have feelings for eachother, and want to hug, kiss, cuddle and generally be happy...where the hells the harm in that?

P.s-I have just re-read and realised your exact comment was-"he should be kicked in the face"...and you believe youre not carrying around a load of anger and negativity here?

 

well... as i have not vistited tha forums in a couple days... they have grown mighty haha...

first of all thank ya guys ... forest 420 and verseau miracle... *
next...ok
i am not a freshman in highschool to get that out of that way...
hahah im a sophomore... like thats any better ... but anyways
i tihnk some of you sayin im too young would need to find out more about my life what ive been through and who i am... which is really understandble for you to think different and think im just some little girl because you dont know me...
which is not what i am...
ive had to deal with things i would never want other ppl to see...
even know ive gone through...woudlnt want tha thoughts in there head, they arent very happy...
which is what i like to keep up... POSITIVE outlooks*
positive positve...


on tha sexual part... i dont need help with what too do, im not looking to have sexwith ihm right now... like i said i havent even gotten in his pants yet... i havent done anything to him besides kiss him passionately, and for me...especially being in something whatever it is that we have so far...is differnt, but it feels right right now... i still have my gaurd up, my wall hasnt collapsed yet
... yaknow i was just going through tha forums adn like one of you have stated ...( NOT ONLY SEXUALLY ).... i would like to make him feel as good as he makes me...

i think this is a different one...
one of tha things 20(an alias for his music well its... apollo twenty)) which has meaning to it both parts... anyways...
so tha main thing that has him freakin out IS MY AGE... im 15!! its not like hes trying to prey on some 15 year old girl... thats pretty much tha only things from keeping us from a relationship i guess id say...


what is botherng me right now but is understandbble though... is he dosent want to be judged... he said itll take just one... which is defnietly a different opinion from mine, but i have to respect it, because i know he has been though TONS as well... but icany understand fully unless i was him
we were going over this... again... as we do...
he was sayin... he bleieve that i have an older soul...
that he looks at me and sees a kind spirit good heart... believes that im more mature than some of the girls his age...
we have tons in common...
i love his passion for his music... evrything that he makes is a piece of him and i feel that i can FEEL it...
from my poin tof view tha feeling is one of the mos timportant things...
yaknow we can do other things together... which is what i like...
we even tradded books... i traded him my chakra healing book ...
and i have Tao Te Ching...( btw great book so far )
haha hes even gonna do yoga with me... im thinkin of showing him what i favor... vinyassa flow... but nayways tha point there is that we have stuff in common...

its just feels right right now...
idk ill get to typing more... thas just a bit for now haha
this topic is pretty much never ending with things to say

 

ayyye... sorry one last thing... where i typed

"ive had to deal with things i would never want other ppl to see...
even know ive gone through...woudlnt want tha thoughts in there head, they arent very happy...
which is what i like to keep up... POSITIVE outlooks*
positive positve..."

dosetn mean i wished they would have never happened... they have made me tha person i am today ...things to learn from... and i proabably wouldnt be me if tha many things that ive had happen throughout my whole life things faced with... just everything ... if they werent there... then i wouldnt be tha person i am today...not sayin im glad they did... cause certain things... well anways... im just tryin ta clear that up after i re read... sorry guy s
LOVE*

 

Don't push your self until your ready. Don;t feel presured into anything. Im still a virgin and all so sorry I don't have anything for you to pop his tent sorry. But if you want him to feel good mentally you can mmake him his favorite food... or something you know he will like for sure. If hes doing yoga for you then do something he would enjoy play hockey or whatevere hes into. He freaking out because if you guys do eventually have sex he could be charged with sagitory rape.

But I hope all goes well. Peace!