my mom found out that I go both ways ...and fainted!

Oh I'm feeling a little stressed. I don't understand why she's upset? I thought every woman could relate to that to an extent though. I mean it's not as if I don't like men! I just appreciate the beauty and femininity of women because I am one!Oh and she told my dad, and my GRANDMOTHER. Now my dad said it doesn't change his opinion of me, my grandmother hopefully won't say anything! What do I do?

 

just be yourself, you dont need to change anything about you. just be you

 

I know, I all about being myself. I just am unsure about what else to say. I am also unsure about WHY she's become upset???? Come on, type over some good advice

 

I think it's a little worry for her that you might not turn into a full lesbian - why is that a worry for mothers ? Cos all mothers eventually wanna be grandma's . She's worried u might pop her dream , just my guess.

 

I don't know what is up with her. My mom is in complete denial that I am gay, she won't even acknowledge it. Sometimes she does inadvertantly, but most of the time she tries to trick her self into believing that I'm a hetero.

But she (your mother) will either accept it, or she won't. Right now it's just a shock to her. Give her some time, if she truly does love you then it shouldn't phase her; or she'll just ignore it entirely. I don't know what you wanted to be told, but there really isn't much to do. Just wait it out, if she approaches you to discuss then so be it. If she doesn't, then let it be. She knows now.

 

my advice is to love them and bless them for who they are and eventually they will get over the shock and return to normal.
any problem is not with you it is with them and how they feel. it is their responsibility as adults to work threw that, not yours. usually the best medicine for someone prejudice against anything is to have that revealed in there family. because then they see up close that the person they loved and knew all there life is still the same and that is only an aspect of who they are and they see it and realize they love the person anyway. hang in there, be true to yourself, be patient, and good luck!
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Well i think she's betrayed your trust, if you told a friend and she went and told a few people, especially people u didnt want to know, u would be pissed off wouldnt you? Well i would anyway.

Personally i would tell her it was rude to go and tell the whole family, and if she cant deal with it, then really its her problem not yours.

People need to open up their minds

Love Amanda

 

i think it's really brave that you were able to tell anyone. i'm bisexual and havent been able to say anything to any member of my family because i know what they'll be like. i wish some people would just try being open minded.

 

sweets you mean both ways liek bi? well any mother loves their children alot. you cant imagine (neither can i, silly little 15 year old).. she's gonna have to come to terms with it anyways. my dad found out that i thought i was pregnant when i was 13! i told this lady everything because i was really scared so she helped me out but then when i went on vacation she told everybody (grandparents, uncles, dad, his parents, bla bla bla you name it) that i did it 3 times with nothing and my dad was so pissed off at me.. but then again he came to terms with it because he knows im not gonna apologize for it or cant change it...

she'll have to come to terms with it someday because you're her baby.. her flesh and blood.. i tihkn you should talk to her about this and resolve it.

 

Love knows no gender, my friend. Maybe she'll never understand, just like my parents won't, but she will hopefully learn to accept it. Best of Luck.

 

Did she actually faint...?!! Ahahaha, no offese but thats awesome. Maybe I should tell my mom I'm gay just for kicks. :H

lol, sorry I don't have any good advice, sucks that your parents don't respect your boundries. Maybe if they have some time they'll accept it. Good Luck.

 

Yea, my parents are that way, too. I'm afraid to even tell them that I like a girl, because they would just make fun of me or some crap like that. They're very childish, and don't respect my feelings very much, it pisses me off.

 

if i have a bf or something my mtoher teases me unitl i cant take it anymore.. argh its so annoying.