Ok I Have A Problem...PLEASE GUYZ N GIRLZ DON'T BURN ME FOR THIS.. but i have a big problem i Been Married For A Long Time lil over 12 yrs,and I Have Been Seeing My Brother Inlaw For Most Of The Whole Time,on N Off..or When We Get A Chance. Now My Problem Is..he Is Going To The Big House And I Cant Bare The Fact That Im Not Going To See Him For A Long Time,he did something stupid and he taking it like a man and accepting that he has to do time...before him actually going in to do his time,he spent his last newyrs with the family and someparts of it with me in private,..it was very hard and emotional and we both cried till morning came..he told wanted me to be his last before going in,it was wonderful,but sad,and emotional for both of us after words. and He Told Me I Love You really for the first time on a phone call id say the first call he made before callin anyone else after being sent in..i know he wanted to tell me before all this but i think he was afriad to then..but now he did,and i confessed to him that i love him too And He says he's Thinkin About Me alot...we Do Have A Connection In A Sence...,my Spouse Has No Idea What In The World whats been Goin On Between Us..in Other Words He's Cluelss..our Marriage Is Always Upside Down We Fight Like Cats N Doggs And Then The Next Day It Ok..i Really Am Getting Bord With Him and i told him but he doent do anyhting about it.. But I Love Him And Im Afraid To Be With Out Him As Strage As It Sounds. I Find Myself Depressed,crying Out Of Control In Private When Im Alone Or In The Shower..and After Talking To Him On The Phone Or When I Go Visit Him...and Im Drinkin More Then I Did Before And I Know That Sounds Bad... Im Love Sick For My Brother Inlaw. I Told My Sweetheart That I Missing Him So much,and that im Haveing Emotional Problems Now,he said Talk To Me,we Will Both Get Through This..and He Told Me When He Gets Home He Wants To Make Me Happy...i Really Dont Know What He Ment By That...and im afraid he will be a different person when he gets out cause being there changes you. We Both Know That What We Have Been Doing Is Wrong And What The Reprecussions Will Be If "he" And Them Finds Out... I Find Myself Dreaming About Him In Sexual Ways Then Ever,and I Wrote To Him Telling Him What I Drempt About...,and He Creeps In My Mind pRacticlly Every Day.when The Phone Rings I Run To Get It Thinkin It's Him On The Other End,but When It Not I Get Angry..whatta I Do
well youve really got yourself in something havnt you. i could talk in circles and tell you how complicated and very wrong this all is, but i assume you know that and are just looking for some basic answers, as your situation is already complex enough. this can go on NO longer. i come from a home that was broken because my dad decided to see 'another woman', and ive had to suffer for that mistake. do you have kids? do you have any idea what you are doing to them? you NEED to choose what you want. you cant have both. if you absolutly cant be without this guy (who really sounds like a winner if hes in jail) then bite the bullet and let your husband off the hook. but i honestly would hope that you will tell this extra relationship exactly what it is- and EXTRA relationship. if your MAIN relationship is suffering, then that needs to be your first priority. your going to be sad, but get over it. any longer and your seriously going to mess up your life.
If you feel more for the brother in law brake it to you husband. Hes going to flip because thats his brother. But if you truley love the brother than let him know. I suggest you talk to your brother in law about this first. But its only going to hurt worse the longer it goes on (for the husband). Don't hurt him any more than you have already... Im not much help... I hope everything works out for the best!
