Is sex for pleasure truley the hippy

The main concern of a hippy is life. Our whole ambition is to go our graves happy. True happiness resides within being happy with where you are. So where does sex fit in to this iniftie satisfaction. Beside making babies, but thats a more monogomous thing. Sex would be a second hand pleasure. Almost an admitting to bieng unsatisfied with the moment. Like theres something better. I dont know , does any one feel like they dont need sex?

 

I think this:

You do an activity because you want to.

If you play a game, or go to a bar, because you are unsatisfied with the moment, then how is sex any different?

We all go through our lives having points of boredom and lacking satisfaction. And, we gain it, by occupying ourselves. What better to occupy ourselves with than a mutually pleasureful sex?

 

Hikaru Zero
It cant be you
I would have never thought

 

Like I said
I thoguht hippies wanted to celebrate life, so why not be satisfied with life. If thats our goal.

 

That's the whole point.

You take your satisfaction into your own hands. You make the moment better and better until it ROCKS YOUR SOCKS!

 

I agree.. i view sex as a way to celebrate and enjoy life.. why not enjoy it with someone you care about or atleast have a connection to even its just on a phyical level.. live life.. enjoy.. and get pleasure at the same time.. works for me

 

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one can be content with life w/out sex, and have sex in the meantime. the difference between a happy person having sex and a bored person having sex is that the latter keeps an emotional attachment to sex. sex as a celebration is a positive action--sex as a vice is a negative action.

--syllogism of the day

 

Hmm?

 

The philosphy is this! If you are happy could you not replace you happiness from sex with just being happy. Isn' this what we wanted to die with was absoulte perfection.

 

I'm just looking to "enjoy the ride" as some have said. Besides, I don't believe happiness is a destination -- I think of it as a current condition.

 

Sure.

But why not be happy with another person?

Granted that happiness is an emotion, and that if one has complete control over all their emotion, they can always be happy.

The problem is, no human, in my opinion, can have complete control over their emotion. Emotion is the result of various chemical processes, and while the brain has a fair control over what chemicals are where, it is still a limited form of control.

Regardless, I see it as this ... sure, you can be happy. But why not be happy with someone else?

 

What would you rather be: happy with your self, or happy with yourself and sexually active.

I think any sane person or even any sane "hippy" would like to add a little more pleasure to there life, even if they are already happy, why not?

 

There is a point being missed
Existence in itself is the ultamite pleasure. Do you need any more than that?

 

rational proves offer infinte reasons not to be angry, In return Anger is deatroyed, via accepting the truths.
This action of replacing emotions with only neccessary priorties , allows emotions to be trancended.
"shit my cellphone broke. But hey theres more to life than a cellphone"
You catch my drift

There is no emotion, which can deny the worth of existence in it itself, so really emotions become very secondary.

Enjoying your existence at the level of simply existing, grants everything else to be less and secondary. You can say " I happy enough not to need nor want anything else." Sound nice Ay

 

"It is not the things that happen to us that disturb us, but the thoughts we have about them." [Lots of people have said this;no wisdom is new;Eckhart Tolle said this in these particular words]

So, pain may not be a choice, but suffering about the pain, is. Suffering comes from attachment. For example, if I'm attached to feeling the pleasure of an orgasm, then when I'm not having an orgasm, I have a *desire* for something else, which is not contentedness (contentedness=happiness). I'm attached to having pleasure.

So, the trick to happiness, (which is our state when we are not wanting something), is letting go of our attachments. Oh-so-easy.

Well actually it can take people lifetimes, or it can happen in This Moment. Many people practice attaining this besides hippies.

One simple way of being in the moment with contentedness is being aware of whatever you are feeling in this moment: say it is pain, frustration, angst, etc. Be fascinated by it. Really feel it. As you are feeling this feeling, you'll probably want to be feeling something different (i.e. peace, love). Once you recognize the want for peace or love as yet another feeling, and not as a definition of yourself, you can transcend the feeling.

...Be fascinated!

 

Hey white ginger I think Your on to something!
Really!
Life first and when you love it enough it will be, only!

 

Someone once put it well...he said that in a hippie's ideal world, we'd do things that would make ourselves and others feel good in ways that wouldn't detract from another's happiness or well-being. And sex is most definitely a way to do that. So why not?

 

See, THAT is essentially what "rational anarchy" is about, liz. An ideal world not for hippies exclusively but for all mankind. And yes, sex is as natural as life itself, and can greatly enhance one's well-being. To me, happiness without sexuality is not as "whole" as happiness WITH it and, thus, is not a COMPLETE happiness.

Although, I WILL say that, through the temporary lack of pleasure, one may, or may not, become enlightened as the result of some sort of mental training. Completely shutting oneself of such pleasure permanently, however, may, or may not, be detrimantal to one's well-being. I'm just inclined to say "may" to both instances rather than "may not", lol.

Anyway, that's my opinion.

 

i enjoy sex a lot if its a lover i care about and can connect with well.

but sometimes it can be boring and unfullfilling.

if i have the urge to relieve myself i can just jack off. i dont generally like to have sex with girls i dont really care about though. i haven't had sex in a few months, and i dont really miss it all too much. i'm pretty happy for most of the time because i've stopped really caring so much that i'm not getting laid. there are plenty of other things to enjoy that are happening right now, and if you are wanting sex whenever you're not having it it will distract from the other pleasures of simply living.

i'm not a stranger to sex, i dont avoid it, but i dont really pursue it these days too much. if it happens, it's going to be because i met a really cool girl and we just happen to be into each other spontaneously....not because i haven't gotten laid in a while and so i go to a bar to look for the first girl who will talk to me....