Ok, I'm a guy and I don't mean to accuse every other guy of being a dick either, but I was wondering... Of every long term relationship I've heard of, it always seems like the guy is the one to fuck everything up. I've met one of the most incredible persons last summer (2004) and we hit it off from the start. So far the love is still present and is only getting stronger. Now I don't want to plan too much caus in my opinion planing fucks up the flow, but I could honestly see myself spending the rest of my life with this person and I already know that there will be plenty of rough times ahead but I'm willing to make it work. My biggest fear though is to turn out like those guys who are awesome for the first few years and then turn out to be complete assholes. Might I add that this is a long-distance relationship. I live in France and she lives in Florida and we see each other once or twice a year. My question is, is this capable of working out, or were we doomed from the beginning?
not all guys are assholes that i can guarantee. There are bitches also, who make guys' lives a living hell after they give everything for them. There are both situations going on, so i dont think u have to resume to end up blaming guys for everything, that's just not entirely true. Anyways, i'm really glad you dont want to become one of these kind of guys who end up hurting girls after they spend time in a relationship that's very kind and i must admit, mature from you to even think of even tho u're still very young. Most kids ur age dont even care about this kind of thing yet. Good for you About the long distance relationship there is only one thing i can say: I dont believe in those, so my answer will always be negative. You can't trust a person who lives far away, it doesn't matter how many miles, there's always too many people surrounding her/him and the chances of being 100% faithful are none. I may be wrong, but that's my personal opinion on the subject. Find someone near you... that u can hold, kiss and spend time with.
Yeah there is always a question of faithfulness and I know she's already been involved with a few other ppl, nothing serious, but still a little out there. I guess I've decided to see it as a challenge, as in, if I can make it through the first few years than I'll know wether or not I really love her. As some would say, I am a fool for her and that's fine. I'm just afraid of the day where I'll wake up and feel absolutly nothing for her. I think the key is to think realistically and be honest but yeah, I guess the only thing is to see what happens.
Well, in my opinion.... that is not just a long distnace relationship but a loooooooooong distance relationship, know what I mean??? I personally, have only had bad luck with them. I dont advise anyone to go for them. I like to be where I can be with my partner, hug & kiss & see them often.
That's because you always hear the girl's side of the story...girls are not perfect...so if it seems like she's ALWAYS blaming the guy for the end of the relationship...seems like she's not taking responsibility for what she may have done. As far as the rest of your post goes. You're 14...you're going to change, your interests are going to change, your personality will probably change. I wouldn't commit to ANY serious relationship at 14 because you barely know who are yourself. With a long distance relationship at 14...will only bring hardship...especially if you only see her once or twice a year. You aren't experiencing love...you are experiencing lust. Don't base your life on this relationship because the odds are against you. sorry for being cynical.
No Im a dick. I freely admit to it. Its all about evolutionary theory. Its my job to do my duty to humanity and spread my seed as much as possible.
A lot of times when people break up, they become very deeply hurt and blaming the other person is a pretty standard defense against that, whether or not it's deserved. And even if it is deserved, doesn't mean that person is without blame, either! For example, my wife and I split up permentely 3 or 4 weeks ago, and it was all very amicable and mutual. We had some honest talks, I apologized for some stuff I did wrong, but we agreed that we were just too different to keep going, though we didnt really have a lot of hard feelings toward each other. Then things changed, and she went nuts on me last time we called. "You ARE a jerk...you have NO HEART!...everyone is so disappointed in you". And so on... Well, I acted like a jerk before, and now she's being a bitch, so I guess we're both getting our turn at it. It probably has something to do with us both being human, I'd wager... Though I will say that guys tend to be more emotionally immature than girls are, so they're more likely to do stupid things, IMHO.
Simply amazing that at 14 the world of relationships is now all wrapped up and figured out, lol. Sorry man just struck a funny cord on me is all. I wish you could let me know all about ladies too! They confuse me but its an awe inspired confusion that in most ways I hope I never totally figure out. As for guys being "dicks" well perhaps it is becuase men are less emotional as a general whole and tend to let ourselves be led by other vices. Who knows, I dont think my self really a "dick" a smart ass you bet but as for caring and going out of my way to protect anothers feelings well I would wreck myself before I would hurt another.
Guys need to be dicks in order to get pussy. If we were pussies, what the hell good would we be to any women? They already have 'em.
It's because God the inconciderate begger gave use a penis and a brain, and only enough blood to power one at any given time. lol
^ lol that was gold well my longest relationship to date was 3 years and the dude i was with fucked it up again and again and again, made me cry numerous times and broke my heart a couple of times too. till i finally left him and then he had his big revelation and realised he was a dick - too late for me though. i can see myself being with the guy im with now for a long time... i dont like to think like that but he often talks about us as if we will be together a few years at minimum and we never really fight about anything. we are both so easy going and very much in love. he is not a dickhead at all, i really cant see him fucking up
It takes 18 months for the body to process the chemicals generated by "love". If you are still crazy about her when you are 16. GO for it.. and good luck James
you know what though... PEOPLE are just dicks. some people are nice and people are just assholes... it's weird.
