Me and my boyfriend of close to two years are officially on a 'break' as of tonight, we had some big fights and trust issues in the weekend but I thought it was all over...now he wants a break because hes having doubts about us, the thing is he wants to go overseas as soon as he finishes uni which is in like a year, whereas Im at uni for another four years, and hes saying were wasting our time being together but Im wondering why he cant just wait for me and I'll go with him....seems like an awful waste of two years if we throw it away because of that..... The other thing is I've never really believed in the whole 'break' system, its not like you can just 'have a break' when you're married with kids...so I don't see why, if we are good together, we need to have a period of not talking to eachother. It's not going to change anything and the fact that he is suggesting that means that we are probably not going to work as a couple anyway. Plus Im supposed to be moving in with him at the moment, but all of a sudden I dont think its a very good idea. I needed to get that off my chest. What do you think? Are we doomed? Is there still hope for us? (Its easier from an objective party). Do you believe that breaks can make relationships better?
I think you have answered all of youre own questions. If hew thinks its a waste of time, hes not into it anymore, and hes just trying to force your hand with the issue so that he doesnt have to be the one doing the heartbreaking.... I think he is thinking its over already, and you should start preparing for it.
listen to him. does he want it to be over? dont mask how he really feels with ideas of how you wish he felt.
Seconded! People don't want breaks from relationships that they're committed to. He wants to go overseas more than he wants to be with you. Now, if he wanted a long-distance relationship it would be possible (thought very difficult) to make it work, but it sounds like he isn't even willing to try. Start getting ready to move on, is my advice.
Dont be sorry. I asked for advice and you gave it. I kinda knew what everyone would say too. Ive told him to pull his head in about this break thing for now and that if he loves me he will wait.. to which I got really no reply, just acceptance of that fact.... ....watch this space. Cheers
