i was thinking of something today, the advice people give. say that your secretly in love with someone (like so many of us are/have been for sure) but for reasons whatever whatever, youve kept it a secret. there are always 2 completly different kinds of adivce you can get: either "yes tell him/her because tomorrow is never promised and.." etc, or "well, wait for the right time cause..." im wondering those are 2 totally different roads to take when confessing love to someone. should you ignore what if,ands, and buts and go with it, or actually pay attention to the given circumstances or whatever reasons you have?
some people will accept being loved but dont want to hear the words cause of whatever has or hasnt materialised for them .....you just love them n hush bout it !
i think that if you love someone....you need to say it outloud not just for him or her to know...but in order to free yourself from holding it all back. Nothing is worse (to me) than holding in an emotion and feeling so strong such as love.....but you choose what you feel is best darlin' im behind whatever you choose :0)
Should really keep it inside and wait for the right time. Try to give out signals and so on and see what you get back. Just telling the person, not knowing how they feel just seems very selfish to me. You may feel better, but if the person doesn't have those same feelings it makes them feel horrible and most of the time far worse than you have felt. And it can ruin really good friendships as well.
happidaze42 and ChaosD yea you two have two different opinions. i can really agree with chaosD, but im not sure how its selfish though. thanks happidaze for your support!
I wouldn't just come out and be like "I love you." IMO, you should just pop out a couple comments to the effect of "I really value/love the time I spend with you" or somesuch. If a romantic relationship isn't established it could be weird to profess love, but you do have to say something.
Yeah, I totally agree! "I love you" is pretty heavy stuff. Unless you know that there are some serious feelings being reciprocated, you should probably ease into it, or otherwise risk freaking them out. But if you like someone and they're available, dive in headfirst! Life is too short to waste second-guessing yourself.
ive had someone just out and tell me "i love you" when it wasnt the right time. i appriciated their candidness and honesty, but really it only ruined things. our relationship as 'friends' changed into me feeling sorry because i was with someone else and didnt want to give up that relationship. if someone has feelings back, then you can usually sense it. if i would have had feelings for that someone, i would have been the happiest girl alive to hear he loved me too. i tihnk each situation is different and you should go with your instinct.
I Agree , it can push some people away. I have a good friend who freaks out everytime a girl gets attatched...It doesn't matter how much he likes her , when he realizes how much she's into him , he usually backs away. Everyones Diff. , I know for myself, if someone lets me know too soon , I get a little weirded out , I'd prefer a small chase .It really just depends on the person. I'm assuming if you love him , you know him well enough to know what kind of reaction to expect from him...I Say , Follow Your Heart =)
