Making out question(s)

hey, i have a question about making out, and figured you all could post your own questions if i wish.

ok me and my "girlfriend" have made out plenty of times, i have made out before her a few times but im the only guy she has made out with and i was wondering how to get her to be a bit more agressive, not like my one friend who cut a part of my firends toung while making out, but like to get her to use her toung a bit more. she has no problem with making out but just dosent use her toung much. any advice without turning her into a crazy tackle the guy girlfriend?

 

sry this had no content for a while i accidentaly screwed up the edit and lost the content.

 

What does she do when you slip her the tongue? I have found that if you instigate slowly, she will pick up on it and she'll do what you do.

 

I agree with hacker.. thats how i did it with my girlfriend.. and she loved it.. now she does it every time we make out..

 

well she dosent have a problem or anything when i "slip her the toung" in fact i have talked to her about it cuz i had tried something new where i like roll my toung in her mouth and she said she loved it. so i dont know i guess i will just wait, although she is a good kisser

 

Well since your the only guy she's made out with she's probably pretty hesitant about what to do. My (current) boyfriend is my first as well and I remember not doing much of anything when we first started off. I got more comfortable with him as we went along and finally got a bit agressive myself. How long have you guys been together for? She could just be feeling a little shy since she's new to this sort of thing. Have you also tried encouraging her? Hints and that sort of thing?

 

um... we arnt ACTULY dating, but its an understood "love" and togeatherness, it has alot to do with my veiw on dating i highschool. i just think the way you feel about someone shouldnt change if you do or dont have a lable like dating on you. she agrees, we have been "closer" for a little less than a year, but have been good friends for over a year.

 

o ya fyi for the above post, the first time we made out was new years so i guess its only been about 2 months...ish

 

+1

 

A good way to help get over shyness about that stuff is encourage her, as was already suggested, let her know that she is a good kisser and you really like kissing her (y'know, build her confidence up), and get her to talk about it.

Yeah, ask her what she likes, talk about what you like, ask her how she feels about trying new things (be specific), then you can both talk about it a little bit after you try stuff out. Communication is key, even in something as simple as kissing. Just make her feel comfortable and safe, dude!

 

thank you all, i took your advice and complimented her kissing, which is good, and tried to make it more "comfortable" for her and i must say there are improvements

 

just tell her to follow your lead, SHOW her. after all, you are more experienced.

 

it's called "friends with benefits" just to fill you in

 

... all we do, and not often, is make out. its not friends with benefits. i just dont belive in dating, at least at this age, how i feel it how i feel, i dont need a god forsaken label

 

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Teehee...what exactly do you consider the benefits of a friend with benefits? Not meaning to stick a label of any sort of your relationship, but I was just wondering because when I was in high school, I had a very similar relationship with a guy and we made out maybe three or four times in the three years we were together (it was an on again, off again sort of thing, though), and never once had sex, and we considered ourselves friends with benefits. Just curious, a lot of people seem to think the benefits have to be sex or somewhere close to it and I disagree.

Anyway, to answer your question, tell her you'd like her to take more initiative, then explain what you mean and show her. Up until the time I was seventeen, I would barely touch a guy when we kissed and the guy I dated then compared making out with me to making out with a dead fish, lol...which sounds really gross and he definitely could have put it nicer, but once he explained what I was doing wrong and showed me how to fix it, I had no problem. She might have a confidence problem, I know for the longest time, I was terrified to do something unless my guy showed interest first, but then one day I told myself, "If they don't want me to kiss them or hold their hand or whatever, then why on earth are they even with me at all?" and since then I live by that and it definitely works. Even if my boyfriend's not in the best mood in the world, he's always willing to accept a kiss. Just make sure she knows she's got no reason to be afraid of you and that she should be comfy. I can't guarantee it'll work right off the bat, but it's definitely a start.

 

^^^^ and now u end up with the name "kinky Ramona" lol, jk but that is funny.

while i know what yoursaying about you dont need to have sex to be friends with benifits this situation realy, i dont think, would fall under it. like her and i talk more than we kiss and proly rather just lay somewhere and talk than make out, making out is a + but its not based on it at all.

also, dead fish analogy...thats harsh but i suppose whatever gets it done gets it done...eh?

either way i have noticed improvement, i have been "setting up" more opportunities for her to be more agressive i guess u could say, not to sound like im trying to get her to do stuff, also i have complimented her alot, ya know boost comfidence. and its all working.... actuly i was making out with her um say about an hour ago... on our friends car, under the stars, on a random constuction road in the middle of thecountry,.... and its like fucking 10 degrees outside, but then our friend, her and i came to my house for tea and hot chocolate... not important, but the point is she seems to have picked up on it so all seems to be going well and getting better.

 

too much tounge can be off putting though, like when i was younger i got with someone i reallllly wished i hadnt who nearly bloody choked me and i kinda get that ARGH memory of him but luckily ive managed to forget that......until now!*shudder*

 

i dont mind tounges its a nice feeling, to much is wrong, and it depends on who your doing it with.

 

Haha...actually...there's a bit of a story behind the nickname. My real name's not even Ramona or even remotely close to it. But last year (my senior year of high school), I had a little group of girl friends with huge imaginations and two of them were bored in their science class one day, so they made up this elaborate story about how all 4 of us were involved in this mafia of sorts and we all had ridiculous nicknames (Cherry Limeade, Princess Cocoa Butter, Aloe Vera, Kinky Ramona...lol), and KR is the one they stuck me with. I have no idea how that came about, but I decided it was funny and kept it. Though I have gotten some odd comments and PM's as a result...haha.

Anyway, lol, your friendship still sounds exactly how mine was with said friend earlier, but it's cool, I'm not asking you to stick any sort of label to it. Labels are silly. When my boyfriend and I started dating, I asked him if he'd be my boyfriend and he said, "I'm not your boyfriend, I'm just me, but if that's what you'd like to consider me, I'd be thrilled." So...we've got a bit of a strange thing going on ourselves, we're actually engaged to be married, but we don't really fit anywhere in the labelling category. I hate considering us fiances because that's just too...weird and proper sounding. I've always thought fiance was a very snooty sounding word. And considering us boyfriend and girlfriend is weird because we're more than that. And we both hold the same belief that once you've committed yourself to marry someone, you're practically already married, just without all the legalities, so...we have no idea how to label our relationship anyway, lol. As long as you're happy and with the one you care for or love, right?

Anyway, keep us up to date on how she's doing, maybe I can still give you pointers if needed, hehe.