How can I last longer in bed? Hear my story, problems, and help me out pleeeaase!!

Okay I'm 20 years old, I was just a virgin until I had sex with this girl I'm currently talking to. I've had sex with her three times, and very very sadly I've lasted under 10, yes 10 SECONDS all those times. I really need help because ever since the 3rd time I sucked, she doesn't seem to want to have sex like she did the first time and things aren't looking too good.

The first time, I probably did about 4 thrusts then I came, she was definently feeling my size though. Then a few hours later we tried it again, then she was really feeling it more than before, I probably lasted around 7 thrusts then I came. And a few weeks later [seems like shes not really interested now] we had sex for the third time, then when I finally got it in her, because her vagina's tight. As SOON as I put it in, I wanted to come, then I waited a few seconds, then I tried a few thrusts them came again!

My scenerio:
I massage her for awhile, kiss all over her body, feel on her vagina and what not, you know trying to get her in the mood. It's usually around 10-15 minutes of that. I'm not sure if that's part of the problem, like since I'm hard the whole time I'm doing that, is that shortening my time for sex? One thing that I'm sure that's hurting me is getting it in her. I'm not sure if it's because I'm not using a condom and without it there's no lubercation. So it's kinda like I'm trying hard to get him in, trying to keep him up it's like I'm almost masterbating trying to get him in.

Also, I've heard and read that when using a condom, it will make you last longer because I'm guessing it doesn't feel AS good. All three times we've had sex we haven't used a condom.

I really need your help or else I feel I can lose this girl to another guy whose better in the bed than I am. Or at least no doubt have her going to other dudes for sex.

Options I've found to help:
PC Flexes: Not really sure how this can help me last longer, can anyone explain? It seems like I can just hold back my sperm by doing this.

Stop and Go routine: [Def - Either by yourself or with a partner, get yourself to the point where your about to orgasm, then stop, then rest, then go back to that point 3-5 times each session.] I'm not sure if this'll help, it would SEEM so, considering it's like working out lol. But since doing it I haven't been able to get as hard, my head size hasn't gotten as large. [I'm not using a partner because I don't want to show that I suck and we don't have that type of bond yet.]

So what can I do? Because I need a natural way without pills that will help me out because I don't want to have to keep pills on my hip. I'm only 20!!!

Help will be so greatly appreciated, thank youuuuu...

 

Practice the stop and go routine... In the meantime, Durex Performa condoms... Those are special condoms that make it harder to climax...

The first time my bf had sex (with me), he wasn't even completely inside me, just the head of his cock, and he already came... bf said it was because I turned him on so much... Nice compliment

 

Okay thank you very much! I will buy the condoms and definently practice the routine. It's just I can already see this girl fading away, so I really gotta put it on her!

 

Hey man, count to four as you breath in and count to four as you exhale. Relax and focus on your breathing. You'll last as long as you want.... I bet if you paid attention to your breath while you were doing the deed you would find that you are pretty much holding your breath.

 

lol Man I wouldn't doubt it, I do that enough working out so I'm sure of me being in a pressured situation I'd do it even worse @_@,,lol.

But I will do that, becaues one thing I know I need to do is relax. It's like I'm not afraid to do it, or I wasn't really thinking about doing a bad job. But I was still nervous or something because my heart always beats really fast and whatnot. So it's frustrating because I didn't know how to contain that, maybe it's the breathing.

I'll add that for sure! But I also want to add as much ammo as possible to make sure I do a good job, because I already screwed up 3 times. I'm lucky to get another try =\..

 

Jerk off 45 minutes before she comes over. Your too damn tense and putting way too much pressure on yourself.

 

lol Yea I'm thinking it's that simple, but in the past when I tried something like that I couldn't get hard then =\.. Every female I ran into never does much to get him up, and none would give oral sex but one and it was meant and left at oral sex. Or else it would be too easy lol.

Oh and another thing, when I had sex with her the first time, I came quick. Then a few hours later after I woke up we got at it again then I came quick again =\.. Since I wasn't wearing a condom and I came in her, she didn't want to continue and I was gonna keep going for the second turn around.

It's like with masterbation, when I do that, I lose erection, but when I have sex I don't. He can get hard quick again, and also keep the size.

Suggestions? The only thing I think I can do is wear a condom, then go for round two.

 

I have seen creams and such in the condom isle: Mandelay. YEs it is real. My ex used it before & it seemed to work for him. M-A-N-D-E-L-A-Y.

Dont be embarrassed though, it is perfectly normal, once you figure out your body, you will see a difference.

 

I sometimes have the same problem, i know how discouraging it can be. Seriously, the only thing that worked for me out of all the practice routines and breathing exercises, was actually having sex more...

No amount of whacking off a long time, no stop and go practice routine actually helps for when it's actually in there (though those routines help me whack off longer...not that that's so great). The cream or gel or whatever that you put on your penis that numbs it up works...but it's sorta numb too! I will say that if you just relax, sorta step back from what's going on and sorta take yourself out of the moment, that does help a bit sometimes.

 

Sleep longer.

 

well, i am young, i have never had sex, this isnt in teh marijuana section, but smoking weed makes it to where i need to jerk off for at least 10 min before i can even get close to getting off. jerk off 30 min before she gets there, and then 10 min before she does, start looking at pornos, and get an erecion, and continue to look at them until she is ready.