I can't get off when a guy goes down on me.. What the hell? Is it them, or me? Im starting to think its me. I have had my share of guys try, and for long amounts of time too.. But nothing. I can get my self off when I masterbate.. So why cant I get off anytime eles? GRR this is frustrating.
My girlfriend and I had a similiar problem. Finally, after a failed attempt, I asked her if she would be willing to be more vocal. She's generally pretty submissive, but in this case I kind of needed her to tell me exactly what felt good for her. It worked like a charm. I'd say it took us like a handful of times of having her just tell me what she liked, didn't like and loved -- even watched her bring herself to climax a few times -- and from then on it's been peachy keen. Much luck! Goo
Get him to gently lift the hood of your clit and lick the head continually, and not stop until you orgasm-this has worked for every girl I've ever known-I think the key is to really stay in the same spot until you come, so that if you're rising to orgasm you don't lose the sensation and then have to start over again. If doing that is too sensitive for you, or if another place feels better, etc., like Ninja said, be sure and TELL him-right there, don't stop, let him know exactly what feels good. Lotsa luck, baby. I sure wish I could help.
lol.. im glad you started this thread, shadowd. i was about to make a similar thread because i have the same problem.. i can get myself off, no problem, but the only other person who's been able to get me off is another chick.. but since it was a girl, she didnt need me to direct on what feels good and what doesnt.. so in my mind, that doesnt count any more than me doing it myself. but now i know that i need to just be more.. verbal (trust me, im vocal enough.. just not with words ) thanks for the advice guys.. i'll definitely keep it in mind.
have you tried masturbating in front of you partner, to show them what turns you on and what doesn't, what areas are particularly sensitive and what kind of strokes to use? I've heard it can help tremendously with problems like this
You need to be more vocal, let him know when he's doing something that pleases you and not to stop, tell him what feels best to you, or what you would like. Good luck.
I think it's them for not really "hitting the right spot", if you will.... And I ALSO think it's you for not being clear enough of what you want him to do. Put it this way... Generally speaking, any decent man can either be able to please you right off the bat, or at the very least can be trained after some comprehensive lessons from his partner... That's what I think, anyway. So I'd just tell you EXACTLY what to do to make you cum, if I were you. Good luck.
I tend to be on the more quiet side during climax because I trained my self to be.. I couldnt ever make noise because my parents would hear or whatever.. So now if I try to make moans/groans it just throws me off, and I end up focusing too much on my moaning.. Rather then what I'm feeling.. Also when guys go down on me, it never really feels good enough to make noise.. I have thought about masturbating infront of a guy to give him the right idea... But when it comes down to it, I get way to freaked out, and can't even get close to climaxing.. Maybe I'm just not ready for a guy to be down there? haha Geez.. That sounds so pathetic.
if that was directed at me: well, i am bisexual.. so yeah, i do like chicks -- but not as much as i like the cock i guess i'm just gonna have to suck it and up masturbate in front of him. i've been considering it for a while now, but the thought is a little intimidating - i'm kinda shy/self-conscious in the bedroom. obviously, or i would have already told him what pleases me.. i don't know.. i've just always been more inclined to please whoever my partner is at the time..
Sounds like you are worrying about coming from it too much...The best way to keep from having an orgasm is to think about having one. I know one girl that could not have an orgasm when she had sex with men who she was nervous around...one day she met a dork and wasn't nervous around him and then she had them like nothing...I think it may be a mental barrier since you said you are so shy you can't even masturbate infront of him. Speaking up and letting him know what exactly you like and what to do helps a lot too.
You could be right.. But it really is hard to say.. Because I have gotten to the point now, where I dont worrie about it anymore. I dont really care, because I never cum anyways.. So I just lay back and "chill out".. I dont think about cuming or not cuming, I just go blank minded.
