Ugh. So I was sitting infront of the computer, and mum walks by and goes "good one". I had no idea what she was talking about but she said that she had washed my pants with my passport in it, ruining it in the process, and pretty much blamed it on me. She washed me clothes, I am grateful, but if she is going to grab my clothes off my floor and then not check the pockets, how exactly is it my fault ? I confronted her about this and she said "well I asked you to get a student ID card" which are made of plastic so it doesn't matter. Firstly, she has never asked me to get one. Secondly, what the fuck does that have to do with the fact that she washed the damn passport. I seriously an unable to grasp her sense of logic, it's as if sense making is not required when debating or arguing. She does this all the time, she manages to find a way to blame someone else for her mistakes, even if it isn't their fault. When she doesn't get her way or her bullshit doesn't work on someone, she mutters "pain in the ass" or just walks off, rather than discussing things like an adult. I swear a 10 year old has better arguing skills my mother. This is just the tip of the iceberg. /end rant
Sorry, I agree with ihmurria on this one. If you're 20 & still leaving your clothes on the floor for your mum to wash... well, move out or deal with what she dishes at you. I'm dealing with my 25 year old sister with the same attitude you've got right now, and trust me. If my parents die & she's still living in their home, I am NOT going to be her mother! It's gonna be a rude wakeup call when big sis won't let her in & she has no clue how to live on her own, but... NOT MY PROBLEM. love, mom
Even when i did live at home, my mom always checked the pockets of the clothes in the basket. I do that now in the communal house we live in, simply because I know people forget things sometimes. I'm not going to assume that your mom always washes your clothes. I'm going to say that at this particular moment in time, she took your clothes off your floor and washed them. She can't exactly blame you for leaving something in your pocket if you didn't imply that they were ready for washing. Oh and on the moving out thing. Weigh the pros and cons. Make sure you're financially ready or have some good people to room with. You're gonna deal with this kind of stuff with other people, especially if you move in with other people. I mean, what are you gonna do? Either be forced into living on your own before your ready or moving from roommate to roommate. Talk to your mom. wow that was a lot.
As someone who has had the same problem before (mother washing your clothes without checking the pockets), this statement right here is the part that I find caused the most trouble in the situation. By saying, okay, these clothes are ready for washing, you're implying that the pockets are empty. One way around this is to do your own laundry. The other way is to check your pockets first.
I can identify... after informing my mother I would be doing my own laundry after classes I got home to find she had decided to do my a favour... and washed my pants with $10 bucks in liquor tickets without checking. I have yet to see my money back.
I half agree with the people that say move out And half agree with you It makes sense that if someone picks up the clothes off the floor and washes them, that you're not implying that you're waiting for her to wash...you should be grateful she decided to wash your clothes, which doesn't seem to be the case (as in, you seem grateful, so that's good...) but she shouldn't blame you But that doesn't make it her fault either I think in all honesty, it's not about the clothes, but you just both feel tension towards eachother, and that makes it seem like a big deal... Basically, look at your relationship with your mother, weigh out the option of moving out from a financial and mental health standpoint, and make a decision.
