when someone dies? my girlfriend's best friend killed herself today and she found out about an hour ago. i'm going to go see her in a bit, but i've never dealt with something like this before and really have no idea what to do. suggestions?
I ask questions (not to the point of being annoying) and let them do the talking. And I try not to even attempt to understand how they feel. Its tough, but most of the time you dont have to say anything, its better just to physically be there for them.
you just are there for them... hold them and let htem cry if that's what they need, make them tea and nibbly things if that's what they need... you're just there to be there. Is there anything you can actually say? Usually it stops at "I'm so sorry, is there anything I can do?", after that it all depends on the people involved
be there for them. when my friend had a friend die, i was there and let him cry. i didnt say anything, i just let him cry. there was nothing i could say. and he just let go with me, and i ended up crying because it hurt to see him like that. so just be there for your friend.
i never cry wen someone i know dies. ive had 2 friends die in the last 2 years. i never cry. is that weird? but for your problem, i never wanted other people to bring it up in front of me. i kinda wanted people to pretend taht nothing had happened. maybe you should try that. but probably wont work because im not normal with that kind of stuff
no thats perfectly normal because your a guy. Have you ever punch hole in a wall ( wile sober), and wondered why the hell you just did that. well its becuase you dont cry. Ramming your fist through gypsum baord is a much more eficiant use of emotion than wasting it on body fluid exreeted from the eyes. Also, it gives you an excuse to go the hardware store as you'll have to fix it. then you can brag to the girl at the check out counter, yeah i punched like 50 holes my wall, guess i have to fix it now. well thats my take on things, but then im not exactly sober right now.thers got to be somthing different this tequilla cause im not seeing straight. why am i drinking tequilla anyways, this stuff gives me the worst hangovers.
It's a tough situation. People are generally expected to say "I'm sorry", and it's a rule of mine to never, ever say "I'm sorry" for anything. So I'm rather at a loss for words when someone dies. Because I'm not sorry. People die and that's just the way it is. Death is part of life. It would be as if I was saying there's something wrong with the way things are, and it's my fault. Probably best to just give the grieving their space.
well, i'm in iraq right now, and my roommate here, also my best friend, was seriously going to slit her wrists one night when i was gone...she got admitted to the hospital here, which is where we work....she's okay now, just had a hard time dealing with everything, and the thing that sucked for me about it was that i had to leave to go to a different camp over here right before it all happened, and i didn't even know what was going on...all you can do is just be there for them if they need you to be...if they tell you they need their space, let them have it...i know that personally i deal with things better alone...
