Since I have never been with a man in any way, I need a crash course lol. What do I need to know if I try to pick a guy up this weekend? Is there a standard progression? lol I am clueless.
just be yourself, and be honest. Also make sure the guys clean and isn't clingy. You don't want a stalker queen on your ass.
Well, I am not sure who my gay self is. Or bi. What is acceptable on the first meeting? How do I make SURE he is not STD or HIV? That is something I am REALLY scared of. And, how do I flirt with a man? Oh, and how do I go to the gay bar without someone I know walking by and seeing me? LOL
One: carry a condom, regardless, bring two. Two: if you meet a dude you like, go as far as you want, cuddle, kiss, suck, etc. Three: Not always a good idea to fuck on the first date. I find it's better if you do it with somebody you know and are comfortable with. That's my recomondations. Oh, and let somebody know where you are and who you're with.
yeah it might be better to find a guy in your area to chat with online first, to get to know better instead of going to a bar/club situation where you might have a few drinks and not remember it the next morning... heres some resources for you: http://craigslist.org (find your city on the right, or the nearest city to you. Click it, and go to Personals...then down to...MEN SEEKING MEN...click on it and write a short message to anyone who interests you. Most on there are looking for quick hookups.) http://dudesnude.com is another option...but you have to make an account to interact with others...some might include their email in their profile that you can write too... (Most guys will want to see your photo or picture to decide if they will be interested in you or not...so if you don't have one then a bar/club is really your only option)
it's purely up to you and how safe you feel with the guy, ask the guy if he ever had an std...hopefully he'll be honest...and if he has then make him wear one... but be warned the rubbery taste of a condom is awlful..even the flavored ones....better off to find a clean guy you can trust...
True...I just do not know if I could ever trust anyone completely regarding HIV etc. since that is my life on the line.
it's the same way with women, the woman might have a disease, she might not always tell the truth. It's the same risk everytime you have sex
Picking up a date is the same for everybody. You start out by saying "Hi, I've been wanting to talk to you from the moment I walked in." and you end it by saying, "do you want an omelet, or just coffee and toast?"
I love the question about flirting with a man. I wish there were some sort of school where men could go to learn to flirt with other men. I feel like I could use some lessons. My guess is that the easiest way is to look, to look away, and to look again. If you go to a gay bar and someone sees you there, he's probably there for the same reason you are. In any case, you're unlikely to have a man see you going in. Gay bars in my area are discreet to the point of paranoia. They don't have doors opening to busy streets, and you're lucky if they even have signs.
Yeah, that's the old school bar. The gay bar back home recently installed windows where windows used to be back before it was a gay bar. An event like that was picked up by the local newspaper! I still like the dark and seedy gay bar. There's something forbidden and romantic about it. I don't mean romantic like screwing on a fur rug in front of the fireplace. I mean romantic like Arthur Rimbaud teaching french classes to chinless whelps in a London garret. The dark corners and dim halls. The stranger who walks in, sits down and says, "holy cow!" then skedaddles, like a cartoon in Playboy Magazine. But I hate meeting men in the bar, anymore. I'll go to converse and have a beer, but I always go home alone. On purpose. To meet fellas, I go to the co-op, now. Don't laugh. "Doe's this peach look fresh?" is a great opening line when you say it with a wicked smile.
