is my **** broken :O

ive been having sex for over a year but a guys never gave me an orgasm is there something i can do during sex to get it considering men are idiots and have no clue?

 

Well, we're not all idiots-I've given several girls their first orgasm by licking their clits, which is just about the most effective way to make a girl come, at least in my experience. Has your guy ever done that for you? By the way-love those Scottish accents!

 

aawwww. maybe your not into the moment, or all the guys youve been with suck?

 

must just be the ones im with

 

Yes, don't be afraid to stroke your clit while he's jackhammering away. The visual will be hot for him and you'll get off. Good luck!

 

Yea, the last girl I was with just loved to rub her clit while we were making love-she'd come within about 15 seconds after she started rubbing. Try rubbing your clit while he's fucking you, experiment with what feels good; also try to get him to experiment with licking your clit; get him to pull the hood back and gently lick it-the girls I've known, if I just kept licking and didn't stop, would inevitably come that way. And my ex-wife ALWAYS came when we fucked without any clitoral stimulation at all, so you know, every girl is different. Anyway, good look, sugar. As cute as you are, I'd sure try hard to get you over the edge, if I was your BF. Anyway, good luck and keep us posted.

 

You do know that most women cannot orgasm from sex alone? I know girls that are in mid 20s that still cannot orgasm from sex.

 

i was talking about tantric sex with my new bf but what does it involve?

 

guys can't just -give- you an orgasm, they can help you reach one but you have to be ready for it, physically and mentally. Have you orgasmed on your own? Have you shown him what strokes and touches turn you on the most?

 

had lotsa orgasms on my own

 

Your guys has to read your body's responces. If hes hasnt had alot of experence that may be a problem. I agree that orally its alot easier to make a women cum. I have alos made alot of women cum by using my fingers. But you must be relaxed and take in all the action. If you spend too much time and energy wondering if you'r gonna cum, you wont. Help him by telling him whats getting you excited and he can concentrate on that.

 

Yes, communication is the key here. I'd also emphasize on foreplay, and I mean LOTS of it, before engaging in the actual intercouse, especially if your partner is the type to tend to spend little time on it.

It may take a little while for you two to get it right, but patience is a wonderful thing. In the meantime, mutual masturbation can also provide you with the pleasure of orgasm if you want the experience to be shared between the two of you. Don't worry, though. It doesn't sound like your precious sex is broken to me.

Good luck!

 

I completely agree with ihmurria. You can't just rely on them to do it all. I didn't even realize I could have an orgasm while having sex without any stimulation until about 3 years ago. Surprised the hell out of me.. You need a patient guy who is all about the exploration of both yours and his body. Focus on that orgasm and the moment like nothing else exists. Talking dirty during the act works wonders too.. :X

 

Count me in, 'cause I agree, too.

 

While I agree with most of what you said, I can't agree with the "focus on your orgasm" advice. I honestly believe the more emphasis and gravity you place upon your upcoming climax, the less likely it's going to happen. I never set out to have an orgasm, I set out to get pleasure and an orgasm is a blissful bi-product of that pleasure. Don't tell yourself that you have to have one, let it happen naturally as the pleasure builds up.

 

You're very right. You can really cause yourself to not have one by thinking it over and over. I guess I should have worded that differently. Just don't be thinking about the dog barking outside while you're having sex....

 

Always remember - you are not broken - you may need to try new things or even get a different partner but there is nothing wrong with you.

 

my ex g/f never had an orgasm with other ppl b4 me.
I think a lot of ppl dont take enough time to do it right, and some girls have a hard time achieving orgasm with someone.
maybe your not completely comfortable.
maybe the person isn't doing it in a way that feels best for you.
try telling your lover what you want, and exactly how you want it.
be verbal and clear.
help out if needed too, by lifting your hood to expose the clitoris better, for more direct stimulation.
I have never had an orgasm during sex without rubbing my own clit.
but I can cum really good when being eaten out.
goodluck, and have fun... this is a good chance to play around and get dirty with your lover. just remember keep your mind in the situation.
dont start thinking about what your gonna do after youve finished having sex. and dont start thinking about having an orgasm...chanting CUM CUM CUM wont make it happen.

 

Ah i dunno that CUM CUM CUM chant thing has always worked for me...

 

I always have the best orgazzies by myself when I keep that in mind. Sometimes I play for a bit, trying not to orgasm. I highly recommend this. Also, focusing on the present pleasureable feeling pretty much always takes it up another level.