My virginity

LOL my first post...

I want some advice from the folks here.

After a few years of avoiding sex (except for the occasional blowjob and reciprocating cunnilingus with the random horny stranger) I've met that special someone I want to share that special moment with. The thing is, she's had a few boyfriends already, and I know she is going to absolutely kill me with her skills. My fear is I'll cum after only a couple minutes (I've heard this is the case with most virgins) and I'll disappoint her.

I feel like I should tell her it's my first time when the moment is right and she'll understand and take it easy on me. I don't feel completely comfortable with this because I don't want to show weakness as a 21 year old virgin.

 

I don't know the girl personally, but I don't see why she'd freak if she knew you where a virgin. I know some people don't like to "train" their partner how to have sex, but from what you posted you have had other experiences. Maybe not sex, but it's not like you've never been around another naked person before.

In the end, I think it kind of depends on what you want out of the relationship.. if you have any hopes of it developing, I'd reccommend just being honest right from the get go.

On the otherhand, if you're just looking to have some fun.. you can always jerk-off before you and her get together. You know, kind of empty the chamber so to speak.

Best of luck,
Goo

 

Home boy, I'm in your exact same position.


I know you've heard this a billion times, but just go in there with complete confidence, even if you cum fast just have a good time and try again in 5 minutes; don't make a big deal about it, don't make it awkward.

I'd recommend not telling her you're a virgin. Don't lie, but just don't bring it up at all, not until weeks after you've done it. That worked for a friend of mine who lost his virginity to his first girlfriend, and she didn't even know.

This site is a huge resource for me: fastseduction.com

Just remember who The Man is, you. Take control and let your fantasy naturally play out.

(And if I'm completely wrong, ladies, let me know

Oh, and don't confess your love to her or anything like that, just play it cool like you're friends, show her you really like her with your kisses and eye contact.

 

The whole idea of "virginity" really annoys me. Its one of those completely unnecessary concepts, which does nothing but incite fear and cause hype and confusion about sex. People talk of "virginity" as if it were actually tangible, an object which they possess and then "lose". This is completely ridiculous. It does not exist.

So this will be the first time youve had full-on sex, or made love. Last week i rode on a rollercoaster for the first time. Today i tasted courgette for the first time. In 9 days i will go abroad for the first time.

It is NOT a big deal, and really, just another experience to savour. And the first time you have sex will just be like any other(although you may learn along the way...but this is natural, and fun.) Its not some kind of test, its a natrual activity which all adult human beings can participate in. Just enjoy, and dont worry about meaningless words, like "virginity". Best of luck in your relationship

-Maxi.Xx

 

Ganja_Goo_Ninja, LOL I remember being 17 and a girl who must have been 25 refused to fuck me after asking if I was a virgin. I regretted that for weeks but now I'm glad I told the truth.

KBlaze, I liked your advice best. She's a fun girl who I doubt takes her sex like so seriously. It had never occurred to me to try again in 5 minutes, I wonder why, it's a great thing. I always imagined her just being like "oh, thats it?" and leaving. I know nothing about this. Thanks for the link.

verseau_miracle I love your opinion and I wish I could agree with it. I'm sure I will later. Right now I just feel like sex for the first time is going to be so special and unique with someone I love and it will be just so amazing. I've always bailed on the late-night hookups and my friends give me a hard time about this. You're probably right, and I will be disappointed if I expect too much from this. Good luck in your travels abroad!

I remember the last time I thought I was in love and the feeling I would get around that girl. With this girl it's incredible, this warmth flows all through my body. I was thinking about calling her on Valentine's day so say hi since lots of people feel lonely and maybe she's secrely looking for romance, but this goes against the confident alpha-male thing. She doesn't seem like she digs sappy lover-boy types, and that's not my style anyway. But maybe she's alone in her room wishing there's someone who loves her.

 

Oh no, did i word my response badly? What i meant was, it was nothing to get nervous or overly anxious about, because theres no need. I'm sure it will be truly special, if you care about this girl. Yes, of course it will be special... memorable, meaningful. And youre lucky...you sound like youve found the right person to share the experience with. Many people choose the wrong partner first time round(as i did) and they end up disappointed. Just go for it
Oh, and thank you

-Maxi

 

Verseau - for a second there, I thought you'd somehow ceased to be French.

 

:O Oh no. I know very well that once YOU named me French I would be forever a French national

 

So what are you then, Belgian?

Don't worry, I'm not gonna fly all the way to Europe to find ya.

 

Ive already been through my whole bloody life story with you You dont think im worth stalking?

 

No you haven't. Otherwise I wouldn't ask.

 

what if you don't have any physical experience at all?

 

Fine, he wants to hear it again. I know you just love my narrative technique too much...

So i was born in Wales, in a place i cant pronounce without hurting my throat. When i was 6 my parents divorced, and i moved to England, where i have stayed in a community of 92% unemployed, illiterate dropout ex-miner types ever since. I just cant communicate with these people. And so i read books, and learn languages for fun. Which is where the whole France thing comes from, i suppose. I now have a French boyfriend and will move to France in however many weeks that ticker says down there. So there you have it.

 

Oh, you're Welsh. Got it.

 

If you two get married, will your family crest be the "fleur de leek?"

 

If my mother giving birth to me in Wales makes me Welsh, then yeah. Youve got it.

 

I couldn't resist VM - thanks for being a good sport.

 

Well you were quick, i have to admit Anyway im off to bed, approaching 2am in euroville. Bonne nuit.

 

lol so many guys are so worried about their virginity, i was for a while too, but i just learned that the first couple of times are probably going to be quick but after that you will fuck like a machine so that doesnt matter, just get the embarrassing part over with so the fun can begin.