Sex drive

Heres the situation..... My fiancee has absolutely no sex drive no want or need for anything intimate. His excuse every night when i try to initiate is that he is out of shape and that he is just too tired. When he began to lose his drive he told me that if i would initiate sex or whatever every time i got horny then his sexdrive would be back up and yada yada yada. well i tried that and well now he has no drive to be intimate with me but he has enough energy to stay up all night on the computer work and masturbate a couple times. I just dont understand how someone with no sex drive can just out of the blue get the drive to masturbate. Well any ways i just wanted to know what can i do to help him get his sex drive back and how to make him feel better about how he feels about himself. Thanx for any advice.

~Fallen Fairy~

 

Sounds more like and intemacy issue than specifically a sex thing to me, id try talkin to him, ther might be something compleetly unrelated to you making him feel the way he dose, might even be a self-esteem problem if he's feeling out of shape.

 

you two recently had a baby together correct?

 

yep he is 10 months old

 

Since he is your fiancee, you might consider extending your engagement until he decides to accomodate your needs. Issues like that need to be addressed prior to marriage... even if he is the father of your baby boy.

You seem to be a selfless, generous person, FallenFairy, and you are asking very little of him. Sex should not be viewed as a chore, but a pleasure, especially with a wonderful woman like yourself.

Good luck with your ongoing struggle, and know that you can always get horny with us here on the forums.

*gigggles and hugz*

 

Maybe he is tired and stressed out from getting used to taking care of the baby. I know when i'm stressed, I dont have a desire to have sex either.

 

that would be a good assumption except his day does not include taking care of the baby it includes working on the computer and going to meetings.

 

Could be stress from anything. Ask him if he is stressed out.

 

ever since i moved in with him ( 3 years ago) he has always been stressed out constantly every day trying to figure out a way to make money or make on of his ideas make capital. maybe I expect too much from him or maybe the whole problem is me.