I'm just had my 1st sex experience this morning with my gf. And i would say it's not too much to my expectation. I think i performed badly and i really need lots of advice n guide! 1. I tried to make her wet by licking her neck, around the breast, ear and finally her virginal. But after her got really wet, her "pass" just dry up and i tried caressing her to get her wet again but failed. Why is it like this? Did i do wrong? 2. When having sex, i had quite a bit of difficulties putting my penis in. When i finally went in, i ejaculated after like 4~7 trust. I think i'm really weak, how do i improve n prolong?
Ask her what turns her on & do it. Personal preference plays a big role in getting a woman 'wet' - if she can't tell you what does it for her try a few different places on her body (heck, caress the whole body - you'll be able to guage from her response what she likes and what not), vary your strokes - use your fingers, lips, teeth etc. There are no hard and fast rules, it's about getting to know your bodies, how they work together, finding the right rythm for you both. It comes with practice and patience. No-one is born a great lover, but everyone can learn to be one. And I don't think you are weak for ejaculating so fast, put it down to first time jitters (same goes for inserting your penis - it's a big deal to do it for the first time and I reckon everyone has a bit of performance anxiety ). Don't be put off, but try again when it's right for both you.
I'm really afraid i might just ejaculate as fast the next time round. Is it normal for a 1st timer to ejaculate that fast? Having more pratice will help? I used to masturbate a lot n i feel that masturbating might caused then fast ejaculation as masturbating is always a short n fast 1.
yes. yes. no; it was because you were excited, it was your first time. with practice, you will be able to last longer. peace
dearest you must not focus on yourself. Do not think about having all the sex at this point. Put your entire being into the task of pleasing her body. Be selfless friend as that is the clearest path I see for you now. For me getting someone off is quite often a better feeling than gettin off myself. Be a giver and just get that sorted first. Then you worry about yourself later down the road...but by then you aren't second guessing your ability to please her with the touching, licking, etc.
i agree! listen to MEmilesaway . and maybe ask her what she would like you to do to her, or have her tell you while your doing the "act". so that way she can direct you to her needs. and you'll know what she likes and how to get her wet and keep her wet.
I did ask her what she likes but she keeps mum. That's the problem with some girls, they just don't talk. She didn't wanna give me a blowjob n that's a pretty turn off
that's a tuff one. i once kicked a girl out of my bed and house when that happened. She was a girlfriend so don't think i'm some slut I'd still kill her with sexual kindness. Do not think of yourself. Just spend a few hours repeating some acts and see if you can soften her current inclination to keep her mouth shut. --and no I am saying that because she is 'mum'
I understand what u're driving at. And i've always put her desires before myself, but i think i need to work harder in that area. We talked about it today and she said she didn't really "enjoy" much. Which means i'm pretty not hitting it correctly. What i read n gathered, i performed but failed. What i did: - Lick her neck - Lick her ear - Suck and lick her breast - Lick her love bean And none hit with an impact.
is that one lick or multiple because that could be your problem. do you actually refer to it as 'love bean' while you are licking? i don't know how well veggie references go over with women so i'll leave it to them to comment on that lil gem. you need to get some verbal communication going if you cant read each other bodily. hey if you are spending a good chunk of time just focusing on her and she is not responding then it sounds like she has some issues. you need to find them out and try to understand and work from there.
Multiple licking over those area... As for the "love bean", maybe some of the gals here can comment n advice. I think i will have to wait till the next session then try n fix those qns mark
What do u guys actually do during foreplay? I'm really very weak when it comes to foreplay. Yesterday, i had sex for the 2nd, 3rd and 4th time, i had the same early ejaculation problem
Some girls, esp. younger ones do NOT know what turns them on, many girls don't masterbate and that's cos they do not know how to. The both of you may have to find out together what turns her on. About foreplay, be prepared to spend an hour or so, see this reference about cunnilingus as a guide oh and i wouldn't be asking her for a bj at this time as she probably feels she's missing out and would not be interested in pleasuring u any more than she already has. Just like MeMilesAway says, focus on her pleasure, a satisfied woman is more forthcoming.
http://www.sexuality.org/l/incoming/acunn.html This helped me. well iv never had any complaints so im assuming it didnt do any harm.
How about if you spend like an hour or two on foreplay, during which everything from kissing her ALL OVER the place in a super-lengthy period of time, to LOTS of kissing(well, the mouth-kissing...ya know), to another lengthy period of time spent on oral sex, takes place...? I understand it may take time, but really... Your aim shouldn't be sticking your dick inside her, but to enjoy giving her pleasure. Incidentally, the more time you spend on foreplay, the more aroused she will be which, in turn, generally will make her more ready for intercourse. Oh, and during foreplay... If you cum, just cum. Seriously. It's supposed to be pleasurable to begin with, and your partner would most likely be flattered that she turned you on so much to the point where you couldn't help but having an orgasm. The important thing is to KEEP GOING from there. You'll get hard again after a short period of time. I mean, come on... I take it she turns you on a lot. If you're enjoying the warmth of her body and all those wonderful parts that only you(beside her, of course) get to touch, I seriously doubt you'll stay limp for so long. Don't stress. Stressing over it has been known to make things worse. Just relax, communicate with her thoroughly, and enjoy every moment with her. Good luck!
