how long must i wait to have unprotected sex?

Hello, i just started taking birth control pills for the first time last night. i just got some from planned parenthood - its called "triphasil 28".

i was really wondering, how long do you have to take the pill before it is effective to start having unprotected sex??? me and my b/f dont have any stds and want to have sex without using condoms.

the planned parenthood people said i should just use condoms for at least the first week...but then i was reading about it on the net, and some said you should wait for the first 28 days, then you can start having unprotected sex...so...i really want to know...??? thank you so much!

 

I've always been told it takes a month for the BC to really begin to work properly.

 

ditto. Mostly effective (like 90%) after the first three weeks, but right after that most women start menstruating so a good portion of couples refrain from engaging in intercourse during that time. I'd use condoms for a month... better safe than sorry, right?

 

Wait as long as it takes to find out if you or your lover are disease-free. And, wait until you are 100% sure that you are in a monogamous relationship.

 

And as far as that goes, remember also that a disease-free test isn't necessarily accurate. Some STDs (herpes in particular) don't usually show up on a test unless the patient is in the middle of an outbreak. And to add to that scary fact, most people infected with herpes never experience an outbreak (or if they do, it's only once and they don't realize it). Some medical professionals actually believe that more than half of Americans are infected, many of them without even knowing.

I found out all these fun facts when a good friend of mine became infected with hsv 1 after she and her boyfriend had both tested negative for everything. Unfortunately for her, her body is one of the rare ones that reacted REALLY badly to the virus. Just something to remember, to know what the real risks are...

 

My boyfriend and I were each other's first, and have never been with anyone else, so we aren't worried about std's. Is the pill very reliable as a contraceptive?

 

After a month its pretty reliable.

 

So how do you find out if you have it or not, or are herpes to humans like aids to monkeys?

 

that's the pont, you can't always know. I think that for some people the virus is somewhat stronger or something, and comes up in tests always. Other than that, all you can do is be careful and pay close attention to any possible sores (that might be mistaken for pimples or something)
at least that's my understanding, but i certainly don't know everything...

 

Neither condoms or the pill are 100%. If you are absolutely sure that nor you or your partner have an STD then all you have to worry about is pregnancy. It does happen you know, even if the girl is on the pill. Other meds you take or if you skip one. There are many factors so if you decide to have unprotected sex, accept there is a chance that you will fall pregnant, however small that chance is.

But, why the necessity to have unprotected sex? Are you doing it because your partner wants you to? Or you can't be bothered using condons? Just know the consequences, because they exist. Then, if you and your partner still want to, you can take that responsibility. All i know is, i have only had unprotected sex with one man because he is my soulmate, meaning, i didn't care if i got pregnant by him. All the other, i did not want a child with so i used condoms. It's not worth the quick thrill of no protection to have a chance of ending up with a baby and all that goes with it.

 

I agree with Trickster. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly two years now and will still use both the pill and condoms. Some of my friends can't believe we still bother with both, but like I say to them, no condom means there's always a risk (I'm a bit scatty when it comes to remembering stuff anyway) and right now, love him though I do, I'm in no position for a baby, and thats that.

 

Yeah it takes a month. i was on it a while myself.

 

I have the contraceptive implant and me and my boyfriend have never used a condom (we were both tested before we got into a sexual relationship). I don't see how the effectiveness of condoms and the pill combined is fullproof still, condoms are only 97 % and the pill/implant is 99%. There's always a risk, even when combined, so my thinking is I'd rather have great sex and live with the risk than have not so great sex and live with the risk.