Just want some opinions.

i have a girl after me who is that age, and i too would be 18 before she reaches 14, and i really want to, but my family are pretty strict when it comes to these matters...rather the kind you'd see on a comedy, the upper-middle class stereotypical family :$

 

It really just depends on the people, when I was 15-16 I dated men way older than me.

 

I'll be turning 18 in february, and have a boyfriend who is 9 years, 3 months older than me(if my maths is right)
It is usually natural for a woman, especially in teenage years, to be attracted to an older man. Boys of the same age as them are just that-boys. Its known girls mature around 2 years faster than boys, but i believe it goes further than this. Young women and girls usually understand whats involved in a relationship...theyre ready to settle with a steady partner and bring love into the equation.
As long as you two have talked and shes sure shes ready for this, i see absolutely no problem at all.

Best of luck to you-
Love-Maxi.Xx

 

I remember when guys who were 18-19-20 would be dating 13-14-15 year olds, they were always the creepy guys who couldn't find girls their own ages.
If girls are SO MATURE at age 14, those who are 18 or 19 or 20 must be even more mature. Honestly, don't get yourself into trouble, find someone a bit older.

 

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Albin0, you are beautiful!
sorry, off topic

 

one thing i have noticed on these forums is how so many of you are concerned about age when it comes to dating. the more opinions i see the more i realize that ive been raised in a place without boundaries on that sort of thing. i guess ive seen some pretty trashy & fucked up things because of it, but it can be such a positive thing & it has been in my life. when you truly know someone you cant put an age on them.

 

I totally agree with you, BK.

 

I have a totally strange (yet sexual) connection with a man who is 27 years older then me. Unfortunately, he won't touch me because of that age difference. AND I'M LEGAL. Anyway, seemed like the perfect place to vent about age difference issues. Since he lives downstairs from me, he constantly teases me and it's not fair.

 

The poll didn't have an option for "completely normal."

 

swede, you need to really sit down and think about how to convince her parents that you have no intentions of hurting their daughter, it should'nt be that difficult judging by what you have told us all. Maybe write down all the things you want to say to them and then post it to them.

 

i think 13 is a little to young to be going out with someone who is above 13 or 14. 13 is a year after 12... I didn't even really start have boobs until i was 13.

 

There's the maturity side. Guys at that age can have more experience than a girl that age and maybe even be prone to temp the girl beyond what she wants to do. On the flip side, they say girls do mature faster than boys so they maybe on the same maturity level. Legally, depending on the place, it illegal for two people of this age to have sex and the guy can be charged with statutory rap and even go to jail, get a criminal record. Even if the guy is responsible, these laws exists to protect young people, guys and girls, from older people not looking after their best interests. Then again, if this guy is so responsible, he can wait till the girl is legally old enough. Maybe ask, why is this guy looking at younger girls? Why aren't you looking at guys your age?

 

I'm going to have to disagree with most here, I don't think it's right

Age isn't just numbers, well eventually it is, but up untill your about 20 or so there is such a vast range in people and thier stages of development. Even if a girl comes off as being mature it might just be her putting on an act, trying to be something she's not. Maybe it's to impress others, or feel more secure about herself when really, deep down, she's still a 15 year old girl, still not quite sure of the world, and certainly not ready to become intimate or emotionally tied to an adult. While your intentions may well be decent I don't think it's worth the risk of messing up the flow of her development as a young woman, she'll have plenty of time for guys your age in a couple of years.

This however is the perspective of an older, protective, brother, who would FLIP, (and has) if an older guy were to try and hook up with his teenage sister.

 

I was gonna talk a little, but.... OK, you've got a little sis. I'll let you off the hook.

After all, it's not wrong at all to be protective of little sisters, and I'm actually glad you are.

 

ya, it's an instinctual thing, can't be helped

and some day I know I'll be one of those asshole fathers who sits down his daughters potential suitors before the date and scares them into decency, haha

 

id say no m8, atleast wate till she's 16, age isnt just numbers until both people hav had time to mature.

 

I wonder why male teenagers seem to get treated like adults when it comes to this but some people think when it comes to chics they have to hold their hand all the time.^

 

I don't see any problem with a fifteen year-old dating a nineteen year-old.