Did any other mothers have amazing child births?

My births were amazing in the fact that the outcome was miraculous, absolutely beautiful, but the births themselves weren't what I had hoped for. I wanted less invasion, but had complications. With my oldest son I had everything I didn't want to happen...internal monitoring, Pitocin, artifical rupture of my membranes, episiotomy...and with my twins, I was induced, had the Pitocin, membranes ruptured again, another episiotomy, and I only was able to have one of them vaginally, the other had to be taken by cesarean, then wisked away from me into the NICU, and then I myself ended up in the ICU, came close to not being here today. I was seperated from my twins for days, and it just broke my heart.

But after all of that, everything was fine!

 

aaaawww that's awful.. I'm sooooo happy things turned out for the best!!

are you planning on having anymore?

 

I had a very traumatic hospital intervention nightmare turned cesarean with my first child. Then, with my second, I had the most amazing vbac at The Farm! story here just exactly like the stories in Ina May's books!!

 

wow what a story.. lol

 

I'm not able to. I mean, I am able to conceive, I'm highly fertile, but I am unable to carry another pregnancy as the mortality risk is extremely high. My doctors (and I've had numerous opinions) have all said no. My OB asked me point blank if I were to accidentally become pregnant again if I would consider a termination due to the risks. I couldn't do that. So no unforunately, no more babies for me.

 

With my second one, I thought everything was going to be lovely. I had my reggae playing, my (then) husband was rubbing my shoulders. Everything seemed like it was going to be just lovely. I was asked if I wanted to sit in the whirlpool. Sure, I said. Somehow, when I sat down, the baby changed positions suddenly, causing me tremendous pain, and, after trying every way to get her to move, an emergency c-section.


I lived on the Farm as a kid and watched my brother get born at home, so I had great expectations and a good attitude going into it. It just didn't turn out blissfully. I mean, I was glad that the baby was safe and alive, so that was good. I'm glad that people have nice births, but please don't rag on anyone for having a hard time. Going through a rough birth is bad enough without people acting like it's your fault for having a bad attitude or something.

One of my elders from the Farm got on my case a little for not 'going natural'. Well, I did what I had to do to save the baby's life, naturally.

That being said, I do still like to read that people did have nice birthing experiences. I also really enjoyed reading mamaboogie's. It's so great to hear that some dad's are supportive and involved.

 

hippiechickmommy - I liked your first sentence in your post. I feel there is so many different ways to look at a birth --- it's best to focus on the wonderful parts!!!


I had quite amazing but diffent births with my kids. The first I was so scared of the idea of becoming a mother my body was really not letting go, I was doula at the time and seeing so many births I felt like Iknew what I was doing and had it all planned on how my birth would go. And of course that taught me the first lesson of parenthood because it did not go that way.....but it was such a beautiful moment when I held my daughter (exactly 6 years ago TODAY!) That squishy unexpectedly warm body! Her birth is remebered and retold in my mind for all those new moments you only get once!
My son's birth was more a physically amazing story. My (hard) labor was only 2 hours and although painful, I was able to stay above the pain most of the time and REALLY feel all that was going on inside. He was a waterbirth and I could feel the top of his head move down the birth canal. (to this day I can feel the top of his head and remeber that feeling!) and all the tension in body and mind pushing him out and them WHAM! in a second the pain is all gone - all that tension of everyone in the room gives a big sigh - and there he was!

I ecourage all new mamas to make a birth plan, but also know to let go of how you think your birth should go. I needed to have my daughters birth go the way it did for some cosmic reason or another....and I feel that when I understood that I was able to really concentrate on the wonders of birth with my son......it was the greatest gift my daughter will ever give me! She's my hero!

 

I had 2 amazing births...both times a whole other person came out of me... haha

 

aaww well atleast you have three little ones to keep you happy.. I don't know if I could handle more than that anyways.. but that's just me lol..