my boyfriend is acting quite strange..... answers anyone??

well, it's been over a month and i guess this isn't as bad as i thought

i still cry sometimes when i see a picture of us together, or read a letter he sent me, or even when i just do things that we used to do together

what really sucks is that i can't completely block him out....i still see him around school and i'm still in a band with him........ i can't really get rid of him

no matter what i do, there's something that reminds me of him. Although this sucks i guess it's not as bad as crying myself to sleep every night like i did the first two weeks.

i fucking love him to death and still i don't understand this. I haven't seen him with any girls, or even laughing for that matter

i've talked to him a couple times and he has said that he still loves me and that he believes we are soulmates but that we just met each other too young and he wants to see what's out there

as much as i do understand what he means, i also do not understand it......

i mean, if you have something that makes you happy and you love it and you think it is true love, then why would you want to try other relationships

i'm just having one of those nights where i sit and ponder his decision to dump me....... i miss him so fucking much, he's being way too nice to me for us not being together anymore. I just wish he could be mean to me so that i could hate him and get on with my life, instead, him being so nice to me makes me still love him and have hope for a future relationship

as much as i really really love him and wish we could still be together, i don't really want to get back with him. Sometimes i think i want to get back with him but then i realize that even if i do get back with him, i'm going to be really insecure and it will ruin the whole thing. If we were to get back together i would be afraid of him breaking my heart again and i can't take this shit anymore so....i guess i'm just about done with him... i think i need a couple more months to get over it, but once i do, i won't look back

 

I did offer some advice, but as I neglected to raad the entire thread, it is now irrellevent and has been removed.

*hugs*, you'll get through it, just try and focus on other things around - when you're practicing with the band, focus on the song your playing / singing, look at the ceiling - anywhere but at him,and if you see him at school, say a polite "hi" and then keep walking.

 

Hey hon.....I just checked out some of your pics. You are way too cute to wastign time on someone who seems to be going through some kind of wierd stage in his life and is not being very sensitive your feelings.

Move on.....Lots of guys will love the chance to pamper you a bit.

 

I read up on stuff like this a bit, and one reason could simply be because when a relationship is fresh, everything is new.

Another is that in a new relationship, mother nature has programmed us well for children: when we're around someone that we like and is new, pleasure is put into our brain to get us attached to them. Later, they can still love you, and be just as attached as always, but those strong pleasure hormones are not as strong as they were, and have been gotten used to.

Then again, he could just be going through a rough patch. It seems as though men dont really like to talk about their worrysome feelings because they like to lick their wounds in private. Another psychological journal I've read said that men don't like the idea that their upset feelings or emotions are obvious.

 

LOL LOL Right on Bro-was going to say that too.

DUMP HIM!

 

he clearly had another girl in mind or on the side before the split
i've been in his shoes and pulled the exact same shit.

it's hard to actually come out and say something like that especially when you still care about the person. you don't have to be in love to still care.
i don't want to get in a rant about it....but yeah, trust your gut, always. i know this from heavy experiences having been on both sides.