Is the number of sexual partners your lover has had important to you?

you say thats unlikely like there are no virgins left in the world....

 

Well at my age.....

 

Well it's not like I'm looking. And besides, prude's saving themselves aren't totally out of the picture.

 

I think it is important to a certain extent I think it's good to know, and I would not want to be with a guy who has been with more people than me.

 

Yes it is important. Mainly because of the STD risk, but that has as much to do with who as well as how many people. My partner has shagged around a fair bit m0ore than me, and isnt backwards in coming fowards about it. I must admit, I hate hearing about it. It makes y skin crawl and I hate the way that when we go out, there is almost always someone hes shagged out, who gives me a strange knowing look as if you say, "I've had what youre having" which bugs me.

I hate the fact that I can be talking to someone, and then I find out hes been with her... it makes me really uncomfortable.

And I hate it more so when his partners talk to me about his bed antics. I have no interest in hearing how it should be done, I"m doing fine how it is thanks very much

 

whys that?

 

I am a 20 y/o virgin not because I am ugly or am saving myself for anything more than a relationship. I just don't want to do it because I should. When I am with someone that I am comfortable with, it will happen. That said, I would prefer someone with some sexual experience, but I don't see a reason for having sex with 60 people before you are 30. (or after)

 

yeah same here

I don't really know why tho

Guess it's because, she's mine I don't want like 10 other guys to be able to say :H I've done your girlfriend

I'm weird, I know, haha

 

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the other guys didnt want her for some reason?

 

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Yeah I guess that's pretty much it, I don't want to share, or to have shared, even if it was before. And also, it's not so nice a feeling in my opinion to be but one among several.. Or possibly many, however the case may be. I don't think it's weird though, but I guess I cannot be a proper judge of it's weirdness being that I agree with it.

 

Just out of curiosity, why would you prefer someone with more experience?

 

It just seems like it would be easier with someone who knows what they are doing.

 

I dont understand why, its not like sex is hard to do.

 

I don't really mind as long as there's no real attachment to any of them anymore.. In fact, my current boyfriend hasn't had any other partners, and it's as if he knows everything there is to know. I actually feel bad I'm not doing better
Er.. but I'd probably be a little freaked out if he said like... 40. I'd definitely be concerned about the STD's thing.

 

Is it abnormal to not keep track? I've had this conversation with my wonderful boyfriend before, and neither of us really KNOWS how many.... That certainly doesn't mean we don't trust eachother, because we do... I don't know, but in my opinion he's the only one that really counts right now, and he feels the same about me!

 

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Who cares?
What matters is what you are doing in your current relationship that is really important.
What you have BOTH agreed on as a base for the sexual part of your relationship.
Many want their mate to be Monogamous but think it's fine for them to go out and do their own thing.
The ones who have the most jealousy and are all over their mate like The FBI usually are cheaters hiding their own agenda and escapades.
From most of the answers above it looks like many of you are stuck in using sex as a form of power when it is to be shared and enjoyed with who you want to do that with.
Not a tool!
Counting who they have been with and how they were just messes up something that is really a wonderful way to share your self with another.
I wouldn't want be with anyone who has not been with other people.
Being with the same person for years is like eating the same food for your entire life.
Beyond Boring and a set up for failure.
What we worry about we will also create.
Also ofcourse sex and making love are two different things-in a great relationship you do both in the same night.
So no I couldn't care less if my mate had screwed the entire Dallas cowboy football team as long as in OUR relationship we are BOTH living and HONORING whatever we have decide in our relationship. The past does not matter it's over.

 

wizarddrew77
would you care if she had sex with other guys while in a relationship with you?
is it something you would talk to her about ?
just curious....