I'm My Boyfriend's First Girlfriend...

Alright, we're both 16 years old, and have been dating for only a year. Reguardless, we've both been thinking and talking about how I'm my boyfriend's first girlfriend. I've slept with two guys before him, and he hasn't even had a girlfriend before me.

I am honestly thinking that through hard work and honesty (etc) we Could end up being married one day. My previous boyfriend I dated for two years, and even with him I couldn't speak as freely or treat him like a friend as much as I can with my current boyfriend. In fact, he's my best friend, which is always good in a relationship.

Though, because of his history, he really hasn't had that much experience (though he's fantastic and won't admit it ), and so he feels left out.
My two year relationship was my first relationship, and I know how it feels to be worried of being sucked into a single-partner life. Though I suppose I am too young to worry about far into the future (if you look at it that way), I'm also worried that he'll become distracted or bored as I did in My relationship.

I was loyal, but I did tend to draw back a bit because I felt, in a way, deprived.

...Is there anything I can do about this? We started dating in sophomore year, and we thought it would be a good idea if we took a break through college, granted we're still dating by then (its good to be single in college ), though later in our relationship, we both admitted it would be terrible to let the other person go, and that a sexual relationship with another person would feel.. wrong. The reassurment of seeing each other after college doesn't seem to help much.

Thanks (sorry for the essay )
Janelle

 

being someone's first is great, and special. Being his first girlfriend is even better. He isn't all scarred or fucked up from previous relationships, isn't going to pigheadedly do what he's done with other girls and wonder why it isn't satisfactory to you. A little patience and a little willingness to teach goes a good long way

 

At this point, I say just take it one day/week/month at a time! Don't stress the relationship out by labeling, planning, and worrying! My love and I have been together for almost 5 years, but we were several months into a monogomus (sp?) relationship before we even labeled ourselves as "boyfriend" and "girlfriend". I personally think that too much planning can really mess up a good thing. Go with the flow and take the flow as it goes...

 

it sounds like you haveing really thought about this and your getting bored is just you wanting to grow because your young, if it's good it'll come back to you..

 

If you love him enough that you have patience and willingness to teach then go for it but if you find yourself getting bored, turned off and annoyed- good luck. My advice at that point is move on. It's hard being the experienced one in a serious relationship. Usually lacking in risk, adventure and challenge. I don't like it. It was never something i noticed all along, but one day the level of lameness hit me like a ton of bricks. I prefer someone equally as experienced than me. Though when i really think of it....it's not necessarily the ampunt of experience, i think it's a security and confidence issue...which sometimes can be effected by sexual/relationship experience. I must say though, if you get to a point where you still love him but need to 'try out' other people, i would imagine you've lost something.

Although worse than the above....is someone who lied to you for 2 years about having been with 2 girls before you, only to find out you actually took his virginity. That was fucked.
alright, i'm rambling....

 

I couldn't have said it better...