girls that want babys and ones that dont

I've always pretty much toed the line, like I could go either way. My bf for a long time said "never" but now it's really funny to watch HIS biological clock ticking a little - he'll come home from work and go on for 20 minutes about how cute this or that kid was who came into the store today. I have some medical complications - my right ovary and fallopian tube were removed a year ago and my family has a history leaning toward infertility. I think we've come to the point where if it somehow happened, I would be happy and be a good mom. Actually it's funny because we've had pregnancy scares before and there was never any question, or even discussion : if I were pregnant I would get an abortion. But a couple of months ago I was late, and barely even discussing it it was clear that if I had been pregnant, we would have had a baby. It's funny, because nothing changed. It was just the attitude around it.
On the other hand, I'm starting to understand the women I've known who go baby crazy a little better. For a month, I've been living in a house (as opposed to van) My bf is working full-time and taking our 1 vehicle with him. I work at home, work online, clean the house, etc.... But I can see how by signing up to be a housewife, you might get lonely and start to put a lot of thought into your ability to create...
COMPANY!

 

when i was little i didnt want kids cuz i was scared about it hurting. all the stuff you seen on tv and movies makes a lil kid like me scared after hearing the women screaming in labor! so i planned to just adopt whenever i had kids, which i didnt know when it would be.
i didnt used to be all googly eyed over kids...but now i melt everytime i see a lil kid, especially lil girls! as the woman above me mentioned about biological clocks ticking, mine is ringing clear...i want babies...and so does my bf. we plan to have like 2 girls and 2 boys of our own, and like 6 adopted children from all over the world. hahaha we wanna make a revolution with our family! its gonna b awesome man.

 

im still thinking about it, i mean i have a while to go. haha if i do have kids, i want 1 or 2. im not huge on haveing a big family because im used to having a kind of small one haha. so it doesnt bother me much. but whatever happens, happens. peace~

 

Actually, 3 isn't that many, but anyways, yes. I want 8.

 

8 kids? 10 kids?

Thats crazy...

 

no, I don`t ever want babies. Although, if I changed my mind I would probably adopt. Theres so many children out there who need a loving family. Why overpopulate the world when you could be helping somebody.

 

I don't want kids, if i did ther would be only one man who could have me change my mind but no, i don't have the interest. Why do people have kids. To continue the family line? I have no interest in that. To simply have a baby to play with? Nuh, not a good reason. I haven't found a good reason to have a child, i'm definetely not going to do so just because some say i should.

 

No kids, ever....
i'm feeling so better now that i've made up my mind, (before i still didn'twant any, but got so influenced of bf/family....) such a brainwash thing....I'm soon in my mid 30es so my friends are become parents; it's interesting, SOME (not all) become parents when they've lost that little extra spark in their personality and need a goal in life. NOT all parents are like that, of course. But it is so interesting how SOME parents feed ego by assuming that they have this amamzing selfless mission... Is it really that self less?
Some couples get a child to save the relationship- is that self less?
Some couple get a child to project their failed dreams/cariere to their offspring , or even hope to keep on "living" by the continuity of their genes: "MY genes will live on": quite selfish.
And so couples just accept and welcome a new soul, and that is beautiful.

 

I would absolutely love children, three is my magic number! I've wanted a baby for a few years but i know that i'm very young so have held back but if i was to find out i was pregnant, i'd be very happy XXX

 

Part of me loves the idea of being a mother. The ideallic side. The other part says I am past that point. I am almost 30 and I can't imagine adding that to my current life. No kids for us any time soon!

 

Oh yeah someday i want so much to have babies!I want 2 little sweet boys!

 

I dunno.....although I find babies cute and adorable, I don't think I'd want my own someday. I really don't just feel like giving birth to my own. I might adopt a kid or two when I'm independent and can earn well enough but bearing children of my own is something that I've decided against.

 

I have a little boy, he's two and he's a total blast. I love kids and I want a huge family, but I'm going to have to put that off for a while since I'm now going through a divorce.

 

I'd love to have children some day.

 

I can say for now, at least, that there are no babies in my future. At all. My parent's divorced when I was only eight, and my brother and sister both at seven and six, respectively. Being the oldest of three, as you can see, meant that during this rough period (and even now, 8 years later) while my mom was out working I was the one who had to watch over the other two. I had to make sure they were happy and sometimes treated them like they were my own.

Due to this, and maybe because it's my personality in general, I was a bit mature for my age (I may still be now, too!). I didn't like hanging with kids my age, much. I find myself much more comfortable around adults, for some reason, too. I've tried babysitting a few times and have found myself wishing I could be at home reading a book instead of sitting around playing pretend and watching kids movies. And during the times I babysat I found myself very much irritated when one of the little one started to cry or when they did something they shouldn't have. Even though it's natural for them to do either of these things I still couldn't help but feel like I was wasting my time with them.

Adopting a child that's probably around 9-10 in future doesn't sound so bad, however.

But babies? No, thanks! They're much more willing women at there then me, and I admire them for taking on such a hard task! Keep going on strong, mothers of all ages and generations! You're doing a wonderful job!

 

The poll assumes we haven't had them already.

I have four kids. Ages 19, 17, 14 and 6. No, I don't want anymore, I'm 44 and a bit too old, imo.

I feel strongly that anyone who doesn't absolutely love children and doesn't want to or can't do the best job possible probably shouldn't have kids. We have over 6 Billion people on the planet. We aren't going to run out. It isn't fair to a child to be brought into a home where he really isn't wanted desperately and won't be cared for with empathy and a lot of the parent's time and love. That doesn't mean that unplanned children aren't wanted (actually only ONE of my kids was *actually* planned at the time I got pregnant with her) nor does that mean that all children who are planned Are wanted. (I've worked with a number of infertility patients who really really should have left well enough alone and not bothered, as they really get so caught up in the Ideal Child during their fertility treatment, that when a REAL child is born, they are dissapointed and usually try to escape in some way of an other. (HEY, I don't mean ALL infertility patients, just a good number I have worekd with) they also seem to often see the child as "too precious" and as fragile, even when they aren't. (Had a client loudly scream when I laid her totally awake, 3 week old baby on a bed with a taut sheet on it on his tummy. "He's going to die of SIDS if he lays on his belly!" In front of two adults while he's wide awake? I think not.

Not everyone was meant to parent. It isn't a requirement for a "full life" and no one should do it, unless it is REALLY something they want more than anything in the world, and they are willing to give up just about anything to parent a well raised, happy, healthy child.

 

I've always gone back and forth with this. Like KC, I raised my mom's kids. It really took the mystic out of the whole process. And I didn't want to deal with it again. But I was very young, and not mature enough to handle the situation I had been faced with.

But now, being in a stable relationship with a very loving and giving man, I am extremely ready to face all of the obstacles of being a mommy. The nights awake, sickness and whininess, and tantrums, first words, baby kisses, and all of it. *sigh* 15 weeks and I get my chance!

 

Freek, you are gonna do great!

 

I would really love to have children, but something tells me I'm not able to... I don't know what I would do if I can't, it wouldn't be the same as bearing your own child as to adopt one ect... but I guess I'll see when the time comes

 

If the state of the world doesn't improve, There is no way I could have children, adopted or not.
I would just want something better for them.
But I'm still young so theres still time for that to happen.
I used to/still kinda do have a bit of a phobia of giving birth.
Not that I'm not maternal in nature, it just honestly scares the hell out of me. Not the pain, just what actually happens. I can't really see the beauty in it...Yet.
But yeah if I get over my shuddering at the thought of giving birth, and society improves I'd love to have kids/adopt.
Not really looking good though is it?