divorce

I live in Maryland. In Maryland, men have little rights in the family court system. The first time I was divorced was in Anne Arundel County. I was given (GIVEN!) custody of our two children and was awarded $400/Mo in child support. That is NOTHING, as you say. She was afforded "sensitivity, since she is foreign born and not accustomed to the practices of Md Divorce Proceedings.

The second time I was divorced in Prince Georges County, one of the most populous counties on the east coast. I was awarded no custody at ALL (not even visitation) and I pay $620/Mo for one child. I was out of work on disability for nearly three years. So with the arrearage, I now give up better than one-third of my weekly pay. On top of that I had to give up a career because being a single father (not parent, but "father") was not conducive to good order in the field I was in. And when I do have a child support issue for the two kids I have custody, I fill out their form, sit in the waiting room and they allways call their mother's name because HEAVEN FORFEND THAT A MAN SHOULD TAKE $$ FROM A WOMAN, even to finish a job she didn't want to do.

And I worked two jobs, was at every soccer and little league game, chorale concert, graduation, bake sale, PTA meeting, open house, Tae Kwon Do test, dentist appointment, was home to make dinner by 5 checked homework, tucked the kids in at 9 every night, took them to the Smithsonian every Saturday and the movies every Sunday.

So no, I have absolutely no feeling as to what any of you go through. I did everything right and I still got screwed.

Life is good.

 

IronGoth, I thought I'd recognized that smell before... you know, the bitter stench of defeat everytime you discussed the subject of women...

 

Girl had two kids with someone she wasn't even sure she wanted to marry.

So, uh....

never mind. Women are always right blah blah blah whatever.

 

Why do women wear white on their wedding day?




































Most kitchen appliances are white as standard

 

this thread reeks of resentment masked by double standards

i have a lot of respect for women that raise children with a full time job and juggle it all on their own.

whats with all this sympathy for the men? sure sometimes its a shit deal for them but its not always the case... ive met too many shitty, irresponsible fathers to argue that case.. it seems much more common for the man to go on and re marry. ah i dont have the energy to contribute to this thread

anyway come do don't cry about it anymore, you're young, you've got beautiful children, and they wont be kids for long either. you just have to concentrate on yourself, only you can make yourself happy.

 

dave had a party after his...

 

i hope i never get divorced.

i wouldnt handle it well...

and if i do get divorced, will not be getting married again... i can guarantee that.

 

No woman no cry.... Bob Marley tune....... yeah

 

Wow, I had no idea c_d_d. Sorry you have to deal with all that crap. It seems like you're making the right decision.

And to the people arguing various aspects of divorce, I think it's messed up that you see someone reaching out and you decide it's an opportunity to start spouting your one-sided viewpoints. It's selfish. You're the people who don't listen when someone's talking to you but instead spend that time thinking of what you're going to say next.

 

wow...

 

Thank you for adding to the discussion.

 

well shes divorcing my brother..what did you want me to say???

 

I would have gone with more of a "hmmmmmmm..." than a "wow..."

but that's just me

 

ill remember that one for next time....
thanx

 

yep

 

im sorry

i really really am.....

 

If there's any truth to the stuff you've been saying, drawrings, then you have nothing to be sorry about.

 

i know people say this alot .. and on the internet who really knows but just to throw it out there... i do not lie
no i don't mean those lil lies everybody does i would be a lier if i said i NEVER lied but if you were to ask anybody who knows me or if you had the chance to get to know me yourself you'd find out that i am a very very honest person
but yea im still sorry... he is so sad and i just feel miserable but i have to do what i think is best......

 

well, although my opinion is meaningless in the scheme of things, it sounds like you're doing the right thing.

 

thank you boo
as silly as it seems it actually helps knowing theres someone out there that doesn't think im a complete jerk for doing this