Did you just birth a child through your throat?

I live in a cramped 3 bed apartment (employee housing for my company) with two cool girls.
I met and have been dating a guy from the same building for about two months. We're pretty serious now, and are planning to move out into an apartment together this summer.
Meanwhile, he's moved into my little room, so we could split rent ($435 a person!), so we could save money to move out this summer.
And...I know two months is early to move in together, but I've got car payments, bills, etc, it's a good way to save $200 a month, which i need, plus I love my boyfriend.
I just didn't forsee all the little annoyances that drive me crazy sometimes!
Sometimes his feet smell like freakin' vinegar, then he gets in my bed, yak.
And all I have is a twin bed, so we're squished every night.
When he gets horny in the morning, he pretty much gropes me, and I have to smack him to get him off me.
He haucks LUGIES in the shower! *COUGH!* *COUGH!* *WWWHHHAAAACK...PTU....*..........gross. I told him that it sounds like he's giving birth through his throat.
The throws his clothes on top of my shoe stash, his coats wherever on the ground.
He never cleans his dishes...which are mine.
I've been feeding him for the past two weeks, and when he moved in, I figured he'd bring up all his groceries....all he had was a box of easy-mac.
He's buying me groceries this week, though.
Since he moved into my crib, he didn't have to pay any rent for his place this monthy, but he hasnt' given me any money for this month.
But he bought a $300 snowboard and $100 tattoo.
Bum.
And he's negative in his bank account...
And he told me he had all this money saved up.
Now I know we love eachother, he's just acting like a freakin' child.
Not being able to manage money is a huge deal to me. It's so important if you want to do anything with your life.
Sometimes I think I made a mistake by letting him move in, but we'll save enough money by summer to do whatever. He just sometimes annoys the hell out of me.
I just sometimes think I'm more mature than any guy I meet.
I mean, I just bought a brand new car, I pay for everything I own, and yea, I'll go get a tattoo when I can afford it, which is why I haven't gotten one in 8 months.
I just don't see why guys are so stupid...to go buy shit like that, blow hundreds of dollars, when he just moved in w/ me to save money.
And now because he was impulsive and stupid, he's broke.
Oh, and he asks for rides to work like every day, when there's a bus that picks up in the front of the apt., stopping right at his office.
I've let him borrow my car a few times, and "be back in an hour" turns into half a day. I hate that shit. And I'm so parranoid about my car, it's like 3 months old.
I let him borrow it at work, told him to drop it back off. He didn't, said he'd pick me up...but I got off early and had to take the bus back. Thanks.

 

I think it sounds like this guy is really playing you and I would throw his ass out the door and kick him to the curb before you end up with a repo on your car, a drained bank account, or come home one day and everything in your crib is gone...including the lightbulbs. I def would say hell no on driving the brand new car as well, this guy sounds like a scrub...Peace rxHead

 

wow.. well he needs to grow up...

 

my suggestion would be if you love him....love him from a distance

 

I agree...

 

i hafta agree with the above poster... if you need the money, keep him on as a roommate, but i think you need to put down some ground rules. i know a guy at work whose gf used to go to bed with him with gross breath and i think, a couple times he told her her breath stank and to go brush her teeth (don't know how he said it) and she did, and now she always does.. they're getting engaged soon too. anyway, you have to be honest and upfront about things.

edit-- apparently i hit submit too late... lol, i was saying i agreed with the first reply, but i agree with dangermoose too

 

I love this guy alot, he's good to me. He's just immature, I realized. Which is ok..most guys are.
His priorities are all mixed up, which is frustrating, but maybe he'll learn from me...to save his f*ing money.
And living with someone definitely changes how you see them, you learn alot about them than before. I guess I have to take the bad with the good.
Or maybe I'm just egotistical because I have a better job/more money/nicer things...
It's almost like I'm dating down the social ladder, not up....
ya know? Like you want someone that equals you...or has more to offer than yourself.....Instead I have someone who has less.....But it's just in material possession...I mean, he has a degree, has managed numerous stores...and he's older...been through alot more than me.
I just hate feeling like I'm supporting him. I still love him anyhow.

 

Yea.... most people who seem nice really you can't stand living with.

 

There is another thread somewhere about this kind of thing - about different kinds of relationships, are they right, do they work.

You find your self in love with someone, but does it work in the real physical universe, you know, can you live with them. Sometimes it does not.

Maybe this is why some people stay away from committed relationships - they turn out to be more of a burden.

As for this "dating down the social ladder" - ?? I'm sorry, but I thought this sight was for hippies. If you really love this guy, I hope that you do not let "society" guide you away from what you love.

 

You need to take a baseball bat and bash his brains in.

 

you are WAY to cute, funny, and smart to be dealing with that shit from someone you tell you have feelings for and vice versa...kick that mof in th eballs one good time, if he gets up and give syou a hug and says he is sorry, you may have a chance, otherwise, grab his wallet while he is down...

 

Well, that would be a fast solution... but would you find yourself in the same position with the next one?

 

Gaaaawwwwddd, now he's about to lose his job.


Quick overview:
My sister and her best friend were here visiting for two weeks. Her friend's sister got into an accident back in Maryland, and needed an emergency flight home.
While booking her emergency flight over the phone, my boyfriend was drunk (as were we), and kept saying "I'll go with you! I'll ride with you guys!"
So, he left a message at work saying he won't be in the next day.
Well, he was too hungover to get up the next morning, so I left without him to take the girl to the airport.
Turns out, his manager is a big bitch, and wants proof that he was with me that day....like a copy of the plane ticket stub...then she had the indecency to ask for a copy of the girls' sisters' medical report! Bullshit! That's none of mine, nor her, business.
Anyways, I'm trying to get some sort of copy of the flight info to get him off the hook, or tomorrow's his last day.
Oh, and he passed out drunk next to my sister in the same bed that night, so I guess this is karma's kick in the ass for him.

 

Aside from asking for a copy of the sister's medical report, which is against the law, I am thinking that his boss may not be a "bitch" but just fed up with this dude's shit.


Most supervisors don't start asking for things like this, unless they have been subjected to lie after lie and absence after absence. Do you know for SURE she asked for the medical report? Or is he just trying to cover his tracks? My guess would be, his employment was wobbly to begin with, and this was the last straw.

Maybe he is as lazy and immature at work as he is in your relationship. Love is one thing, but people don't often change. If he thinks YOU are going to buy the food, pay the rent and clean everything, he won't do it.

Do you really want this? Do you think there is any hope (reality check here) that he will somehow miraculously get more responsible? NOW how is he going to pay rent and buy food, with no job? Wanna bet you come home from work Monday, and the place is a mess, and he hasn't been out lookin for work, but laying around, sleeping and watching tube all day?

We've all dated dudes like this. They are best left on their own.

Good luck, honey. You deserve better. You know that.

 

QUOTE=Maggie Sugar]Aside from asking for a copy of the sister's medical report, which is against the law, I am thinking that his boss may not be a "bitch" but just fed up with this dude's shit.

I think she's been wanting to fire him as well. The reason he'll be fired is because the inexcused absence will account for his third write-up, which is grounds for termination. The first write up? Missing a mandatory class. Second? Taking a female customer's phone number while at work (before he knew me).

Most supervisors don't start asking for things like this, unless they have been subjected to lie after lie and absence after absence. Do you know for SURE she asked for the medical report? Or is he just trying to cover his tracks? My guess would be, his employment was wobbly to begin with, and this was the last straw.

Maybe he is as lazy and immature at work as he is in your relationship. Love is one thing, but people don't often change. If he thinks YOU are going to buy the food, pay the rent and clean everything, he won't do it.

Well he didn't pay me rent for January, but he bought an equivalent amount of groceries. But rent's due again in 9,10 days, and he's losing his damn job today. Fuck.

Do you really want this? Do you think there is any hope (reality check here) that he will somehow miraculously get more responsible? NOW how is he going to pay rent and buy food, with no job? Wanna bet you come home from work Monday, and the place is a mess, and he hasn't been out lookin for work, but laying around, sleeping and watching tube all day?

You know what his main concern is about losing his job? Losing his ski pass (we work at a resort).
He's all ready to move to another town a few minutes away, where there are more job opportunities, but with what money? The big ol' $100 you have saved away?
He's spent his last few paychecks down the drain, new snowboard, tattoo, etc, etc. His friend gave him a free car, and he doesn't have enough money to register it/get insurance, so I won't have to fucking chauffer his ass around every day.
I don't want to be the one making a full down payment on a fucking apartment this summer, while I drive him around in my new car.
I mean, c'mon...he's fucking almost 24. I'm 20, and I have my shit way more together than he does.


We've all dated dudes like this. They are best left on their own.

Good luck, honey. You deserve better. You know that.[/QUOTE]

 

errr.... leave or kick him out - put his stuff out on the street on the rare occasion he gets his arse out the house. prepare the local police number for any silly stuff.

 

Well my boyfriend & I moved in together after only 2 months. We have been together for 4 years now. We have had our hard times but, nothing like what you are going thru. Most of the time, females mature quicker that guys. If you dont express the way you feel or put your foot down, things are not going to change. He seems like he is taking advantage of you. Donot let him f*ck up your car or job, he seems not to care about his things......