Should I be mad?

this is the situation:

My boyfriend leaves from watching his kids at about 4am because their mother said she was on her way home and he wanted to get home to me. He calls back at 5 to make sure she got there ok. She informs him that she's "mad he left cause she was planning to wake him up and suck the hell out of his dick". He tells her that she is talking crazy and asks her if she's drunk and hangs up. When he tells me about it, I'm not surprised. I know the little bitch wants him back, he just doesn't see it so he's shocked by what she said. I'm pissed off cause she's been being a bitch ever since she found out about me. He says I shouldn't be mad at all because he doesn't want her. I feel like I have every right to be pissed off at some bitch for trying to break us up. He says it should be no thing if I trust him

I do trust him but DAMN! of course I'm gonna be pissed when somebody is after my man. He'll be lucky if I don't stomp a hole in her ass. So, now please complete the poll

 

I'd be pissed at her personally. When something is over, it's over, she needs to let him go.

 

who voted him? please explain

I'm trying to gain some understanding

 

lmao...i voted for you if it helps; it was probably a man that voted for him

 

vote people

 

Personally, if I was his ex I would be pissed, because he left before I got home... so the kids were actually alone for a period of time. That would piss me off.

As for the rest? You are all adults. HIs ex needs to get some tact. Your man needs to learn when to keep his mouth shut and not add insult to injury. And you need to learn to not let his previous relationships bug you. If he wants her back, he will have her back, and no amount of anger on your behalf is going to stop that.

So... take a deep breath... and have some faith in your man.

 

Personally, regardless of the circumstances, I think you should be mad just because you're so damn good at it.

As far as the him or you part, I'm staying out of it.

 

id be pissed as well if i were in your shoes miss fontella...

 

don't be mad, she'll dig her own grave and he will eventually see that you are right and you'll be the bigger person. I went through the same thing last year and let the situation get the best of me and people toy with my emotions and then yeppers it turns out I wasn't the 'jealous crazy controlling bitch' anymore. She's empty and is looking for him to fill her up, she's lonely. Feel sorry for her and if he doesn't see it feel sorry for him for being so ignorant. Honestly though woman to woman I'm just going to through my two cents in and say that this guy doesn't sound like he deserves you. It sounds like you were happy and strong prior to meeting him. I mean remember how much you used to talk about school and your kids and now it's about this and and the drama. I just got out of a drama filled relationship and let me tell you if the person can't change the only thing you can do is leave and you were whole before you met him and will be whole afterwards. i hope you don't take offense to what I have said as you know I respect you and give you mad props for being such a good mother and getting your degree and just damn you're beautiful too, you don't need this. But this obviously easier said than done. break-ups are no fun but after you heal you feel healthier and more whole then when you were in a bad one. lots of love to you and the assasins.

 

From your point of view, I can see why you are upset. However, I don't think you really should be. If his ex wants to be like that, screw her. (A lot of ex girlfriends/boyfriends are like that).

I like what icedtea said about not getting bugged about his past relationships.

Just concentrate on what you guys have between you, trust him if you feel you can, and screw everyone else.

But that's just my humble opinion.

 

hah i love your sig and it's so true!!!!!!!!

 

I know and you are right

He doesn't really add anything to my life. There is just this love there. Don't worry about me. I always do what I must before the damage gets to bad. I'm just allowing myself to human for now. Knowing what to do and doing it are two different things. I'm still me on the inside...I consider him a phase

 

the world works itself out....people get whats coming to them....Dont worry abou tit... no need to"stomp" someones ass...(thats a funny expression if you really break it down and look at it)....Yes that is wrong what she did, but no need to worry abou it.

 

I would be pissed at first. and then probably decide the bitch isnt worth the air i breath. I used to be l pissed off at the woman my ex was cheating on me with, (for 5 wonderful years). I still at times want to beat the fuck outta both of them, but hell they arent worth it, I refuse to lower myself to her level. at first though, damn, I would have really fucked her up had i the chance to.

anyways, missf, you are to bright of a person to let this slut ruin your happiness, let it go, he came home to you not her. A couple of fuck you looks might be in order though

 

I have no room to talk...you know the story and I stayed way too long and ended up getting hurt way too many times until i had to walk away for my physical safety. I know you won't let it get to that point. I know you're smarter and stronger then me. I just look up to you a lot, your strength, determination and would hate to see any man steal the littlest part of those things that make you you. I know you are just having some fun and company though.

 

yeah Shelly i forgot to add that part. This ex of his sounds like a hoe and not even the high class ones that charge a lot but the straight out 20 dollar a pop street hookers. wanting to suck his dick when he's with you to try ans win him back man she sounds pathetic. I'd fucking pity her.

 

well, here's the thing, you can't help getting pissed at someone. she's treated you disrespectfully. i say you have every right to wanna beat her ass. if he's trustworthy (and have you honestly been together long enough to know?) then you wouldn't worry about it all. but they've got history, they've got her wanting him back and willing to be a freak about it, and they've got proximity. me, i'd be REALLY careful what i invest i this particular relationship.

 

Well.... not that I wouldn't have been mad, but you shouldn't be mad. Now had he woke up and she was sucking his dick, then you should've been mad. But to tell somebody that over the phone is just patheeeeetic.


Actually, who am I kidding, I would've driven over there and kicked somebody's ass in my wife-beater and boxers at 5 am....... but do as I say, not as a do

 

if i were you that broad would get fucken KNOCKED

 

I don't see the big deal. Heck, KC has wanted to tap my wife since she first saw her, but you don't see me getting all mad at KC for it. The fact is that in any relationship, there will be times when somebody else will want to break you guys up. Chicks are going to want him now and then, and dudes are going to want you. It's an exercise in futility to get aggravated every time it happens. Either you guys are committed and faithful, or you aren't.

If I went around beating down every guy who flirted with my wife, I'd never stop fighting.

When my wife and I first starting dating, I had an ex that was still chasing me as well. She didn't go beat up my ex or even get mad or anything though. She trusted me. Eventually, the ex got the hint that I was not interested and the whole thing blew over. Now our relationship is stronger because of it. (with the wife, i don't talk to the ex anymore)