Is the number of sexual partners your lover has had important to you?

Well......is it?....and how important is it to you if your lover has had 0, 1, 2, 3,4,5,6.....etc...etc partners?

 

Yes, of course it does. My lover is MY lover. Not yours, or Janes, or the woman next doors.

I just cant help myself. I turn back into a greedy toddler when im in love. Luckily im only my mans second serious partner, and hes never been promiscuous. Otherwise there would be trouble.

 

No. Whatever he did in his past has no effect on our relationship now, other than if he were to have been exposed to STDs.

In fact, having a man that has prior experience can have its advantages. He's had prior experience, meaning that he's been led and taught in the ways to please a woman. He holds not as many inhibitions.

 

I have a don't ask, don't tell policy.

I like it better that way...it's none of my business what he's done, sexually, in his past..unless he has STD's...which is usually what I ask...as opposed to, how many girls have you screwed? The former is the important question...not the latter.

 

I agree with the 2 answers above mine completely.

 

i wouldnt like to be with someone who's had too many partners just cos of the sake of it you know... I'm all up for free love and stuff, but after meeting a guy one time, he was bragging all the time about how many girls he had been with, and i seriously felt really icky about it, not because he'd slept with so many just because it made me understand he was only interested in the sex, and that really put me off him.

 

i agree with hippyfreek and dancerannie. the only thing that concerns me is stds.

 

no, not really. i've been with two girls, of the two girls i've been with the first (at only 16) had been with 36 before me (though only oral, she was strict about that even though she had been with a lot of people, and she wanted to wait until 18 to actually lose her virginity), the second had been with only 8 people. both were more experienced than me numerically, but the first one i truly and deeply loved and the second one was nice and cute and all and i really like her, but it really just didnt have the same fire to it. numbers are bullshit, all different types of people have all different types of sex lives. you shouldn't pass up a wonderful person simply because they've been with what you would consider to be a lot of people (or too little).

as it has been said, the big question is if they're clean. the first girl had been with a lot of people, but been responsible for herself and always made sure to get checked every time she got a new partner. she absolutely would not have sex with me until she got her notice back from the clinic, even though she had no reason at all to suspect being sick.

hell, if anything i'd PREFER a really experienced girl. my first was GREAT at giving head!

 

Its pretty important to me for the girl to not have any sexual experience....Its pretty much because I haven't had sex myself, so I really don't want a girl who has. I dunno why, personal preferance.

 

The amount of past sexual partners my lover has had does matter somewhat to me. I mean, if they have had a ton of past lovers who is to say that I'm not just another fling?

 

I like less than 10, preferably less than 5. Sex is really special to me. I've fucked up a couple times and had sex with guys I just went out with a couple times after getting hammered or fucked up but I will never so that again. I;ve had four sex partners-two long-term relationships, one guy I was dating who liked me a lot but I did not like him so much but slept with him because i was experiementing with drugs that night, the other guy was a friend i turned to when i was very hurt from something a boyfriend was doing to me at the time and it just sort of happened. we were both upset over things and he had a case of champagne and we just drank and drank and i woke up in his bed the next mornign and was like ooohhhhh shit bad mistake. so yeah im going to respect my body more in the future and save it for those who are really special can make love with me as a soul sharing experience rather then getting off or easing my pain.

 

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I totally agree with that. It's in the past so it's irrelevant to our relationship. And besides, I wouldn't even want to know.

 

this is how I feel, well substituing 'he' for she that is

 

Well, I've only ever been with one person and I'm married to him, but he had been with other women prior to me.

Did it bother me? Somewhat. It's not like he had a really long history, I guess it was just more of a territorial thing with me, it was hard to think of him being so intimate with other women. But to be honest, I was glad he had experience, being that I had absolutely none.

 

you should get over this. speaking from experience, two virgins is a mess. neither one of you has any idea wtf they are doing. it took quite a few tries just to get it in there. (yes, we knew where the hole was. but i was tight, and nervous, etc.)

i agree that it doesn't matter how many. and 'don't ask don't tell'. i mean, the subject comes up in small ways sometimes, but we don't spend a lot of time on it. it's just not something that needs to be talked about, the past is the past.

 

It doesn't really bother me. He's been married before and if anything bothered me, it would be that. However, I look at his experience to be a good thing. He knows how to please me and isn't one of those "minute men." I think that is more important than numbers.

Although I said numbers don't bother me, it does bother me when he goes into detail about his previous expierence b/c he's intoxicated. Then again, it makes everyone in the room uncomfortable, mainly b/c our roommate doesn't want to hear it either. And he reminds him "Maybe your girlfriend doesn't want to hear about your man whoring past either." Oh well, no ones perfect!

Peace & Love

 

No.

 

No, it doesn't bother me at all. I'm not the possesive or jealous type. I had one old girl friend that wanted to keep telling me about how many men she had (over 60) and that bothered me. The fact that she wanted to talk about it, not the amount. I had another girl friend that didn't want to have sex because she promised herself that she wouldn't sleep with more than ten guys before she got married and she already had nine (yeah stupid and no we never slept together).
It used to really bug me when girls would ask how many girls I had been with. My pat answer was always "when, this week?". I agree with the posters who said what was in the past does not matter. The only relevent thing is how you treat the one your with.

 

Unfortunately I must say yes. As few as possible would be my preference.. Or rather none, but of course that's quite unlikely.